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Online Dating: Safety and Date Ideas
Where should I go for a first date?
So, you have met someone online that you want to ask onto a date. Though it is daunting to ask the question, a “yes” can be one of the greatest moments in your life – especially because it could be the start of a great and lasting relationship. However, after getting that elusive yes you can realize that you do not know where you want to go! Avoid that awkward moment after the response to “would you like to meet somewhere?” It doesn’t need to exist! Let’s discuss a few things about choosing a location, and then some examples of locations that I personally have great experiences with.
Location, Location, Location
Yes, the old real estate adage applies here. Where you go first will set the whole tone of the night. But, where do you want to go? There are a few simple things you need to ask yourself before deciding.
- What does this person like? This is a no brainer but often overlooked in the rush. What does this person enjoy doing? Any hobbies? A place they have always wanted to go?
- What do I like? This question is a must. Though it would be really nice to go somewhere that the other person wants to go, you can’t go somewhere you will be miserable. They will sense it and feel like you don’t like them rather than the location – I’ve learned this from experience.
- How well do I trust this person? We would all love to think of everyone as perfect, nice, and good at heart, but it is important to remember that this person may be anyone - the first place you meet should have a good number of people.
Date Scenario: The Art Lover
As long as you both enjoy art or history, a museum is a great place to meet up. Plenty of people around so you both feel comfortable and a nice classy atmosphere that can spark a good intellectual discussion – something quite important in relationships. If all is going well, you should then move on to any nearby restaurants that you both would enjoy. Depending on the town there is anything from upscale to food carts, both of which can lead to a great experience. In most cities there are play houses. If you want to continue an art themed date you could look up times and locations of plays – be sure they are fun or romantic comedies!
Dating Scenario: The Nature Lover:
My favorite date starts off at the Zoo. Most zoos have a membership so the only cost is the food and a small yearly fee that goes for a good cause. Men and women alike tend to enjoy the zoo and there are a good number of people there so you can both feel safe. The movement around exhibits tends to take away shyness and helps spark great discussions. It can take anywhere from 2-6 hours to go through the Zoo, which is plenty of time to see if you like someone. Right next to some zoos there are places where you can go hiking, like through an Arboretum. This can take any amount of time as trails loop around. After a good hike it is often nice to relax and go to a restaurant nearby, perhaps seeing a play or movie after that.
Date Scenario: The Date Lover
Some people love the city and new experiences. Try to find an exotic food place, or something stunningly romantic to go to. For many places have waterfronts. A restaurant here could be amazing, however the setting itself can be stunning enough. Later in the afternoon or evening is a good time - imagine: you are sitting at a candle lit table, the sun is setting which makes the water glimmer oranges, pinks, and purples before the lights dimly glow in place of the sun. If the date is going well, a nice quiet walk along the waterfront should be in order, where you can then discuss where you want to go from there.
The Perfect Date
In any case, location location location. There are, of course, many kinds of people out there. For each person there is a different date that would be their “perfect date”. Think about the different qualities that the person you like enjoys in a location, and then look at the amazing locations around you to come up with a special date for that special person. If you are just meeting this person for the first time be sure that you meet in a public place and have ways to get out if you really need it. Always better to be safe than sorry!