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Save The Drama For Fiction Stories and Stop Being So Desperate Ladies!

Updated on June 10, 2012
Dahling: You set my soul on fire! Next scene....
Dahling: You set my soul on fire! Next scene.... | Source
Kiss me you fool!
Kiss me you fool! | Source
Is it just me, or are you drooling on my neck?
Is it just me, or are you drooling on my neck?
Is that a carrot in your pocket, or are you so happy to see me that you bought a gun?
Is that a carrot in your pocket, or are you so happy to see me that you bought a gun?
Chill ladies. Love will happen when you're least desperate.
Chill ladies. Love will happen when you're least desperate. | Source

Drama was meant for fiction. So keep it out of your life!

My last Hub was sucked up by Hubville. Apparently, the subject of desperate women looking for relationships has been so over-done online, that they said I plagiarized information.

I raise my hand in the air, and swear that I did no such thing! It's funny though: I guess I channeled someone else's work for my hub about needy women, cause I never got a response from the editors, and it was sucked into oblivion. Ah shoot. Whatever. You all know desperate women are everywhere. How new can I be with my relationship advice to not be mundane?

So, with that said, let me say: I want to teach women to use their drama in creative, and useful channels of energy.

I've been developing a story idea for a fiction novel about my life, well, a single mother's life. She happens to have two teenage daughters like me. She will be strong, strong-willed from having to be independent (like me), and will be the leading force in the time of need of others. Like me.

Can you detect a little bit of art imitating life? It's called fantasy fiction. And I think it's the best way for women to work their imagination into something positive rather than lose themselves into "fantasy relationships".....

I won't go into details about what my story will be but I'll let you in on something else; J.K. Rowling is my influence, my mentor, my guide, my inspiration. She was a single mother who turned her life around 180 degrees. She claimed that when you reach rock bottom, there's no where else to go but up.

And look at her now: She is the author of the Harry Potter novels. Her life is set. But more than anything, she went from being a desperate, lonely single mother into an individual who didn't need anything but her own voice to succeed in life.

How awesome is that?

I want to do that.

So who here's desperate?

OK, sweetheart, let me tell you something. Life is going to be hard. Whether you have to work for yourself, or have to suck face to a man who works for supporting you. The easy-street doesn't exist.

Why do you want a relationship? No, really, ask yourself that.

Does it make you whole, or bring extra joy to your life?

Do you feel lonely, or want to share private moments with someone you love?

Are you desperate, or do you genuinely want and deserve a companion to share your life with?

Ask yourself these questions before proceeding forward.

Seriously, if you just want to live out a fantasy on some cheesy romance movie you saw, then keep working on yourself.

If reality slapped you across the face after you tried your fantasy out, and you're ready for the real thing, then you're probably mature enough to know that relationships don't complete you.

If you need help understanding things, feel free to message me. I'm more than happy to help you out.

Besides, before I fill J.K. Rowling's position of super-mom, I'd be happy to pass along my nuggets of wisdom. Or, knowing myself, I'll probably keep doing that even after I get famous. Don't be shy. I don't bite.

Why are you so desperate?

When are you happiest?

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    • wonderful1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sheila Varga Szabo 

      6 years ago from Southern California

      And so the fiction novel develops.... any suggestions for a good zombie, single mom, superhero style movie?

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      6 years ago

      Excellent hub and message here. I think that many women these days can benefit from your words of wisdom. The story idea for a fiction novel sounds great. Thank you for sharing and keep us posted.

    • wonderful1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sheila Varga Szabo 

      6 years ago from Southern California

      Don't want to give away my weakness, but your kind words brought tears to my eyes, Joseph. Thank you.

      I promise to keep trying. As God as my witness.


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      Joseph De Cross 

      6 years ago from New York

      Perfect advice for the ladies, and guys too. Real life is not a fairy tale. Your daughter is so right: "Mom will be up there shaking hands with JK."

      Keep them coming Sheila. Your style always keeps us reading to the last word.



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