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Season of Joy – Kiss and Make up
It's 28 Nov. 09, nearly Christmas and I’m sure it wouldn't surprise us to know that there are a lot of people out there, who are still not on speaking terms with others because they fell out over an issue sometime ago or could it even be closer to home? Is there anyone you are not on speaking terms with? Friends, family, colleagues, neighbours?
If you have no grudges with anyone, please encourage others not to keep malice. However, if this is the case in your life, I encourage you to put things right. Kiss and make up (well please don’t go kissing your colleague at work) but you get my point. As I am "Psychic", I have a feeling you might be asking the following questions:
“Why should I?”
Response: It’s the season of goodwill, perfect opportunity. We will soon approach 2010 and it would be so nice to start on a clean slate with no cobwebs in our relationships with people. Good Karma, new beginnings and all that.
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“Why can't they make the first move?”
Response: Why not be the bigger person and when you do – they would even respect you more for it, afterwards. It doesn't really hurt to say sorry? Two simple meaningful words “I’m sorry” can make such a positive difference. I agree there are some issues you don’t need to apologise for e.g maybe someone cheated on you – in such instance just release them from your mind, don’t hold the grudge. (I address this issue later in the article)
“No! Only God can settle this issue in Heaven.”
Response: Well, I’m afraid some people are closer to heaven than they think because of harbouring bitter feelings, which caused them health problems. E.g Heart diseases, depression etc. Read the link below for more info.
No Apology required
There are some instances where no apology is required. For instance, a best friend took your partner or someone got beat up. I’m sorry if this has happened to you but in these instances, we must try not to harbour any bitter, resentful feelings and let the matter go. Release them from your heart. Bitterness is horrible and can eat away at you. It actually ages people.
I’ll share a quick story with you – I don’t want to go into detail but in the 90s, a person I was with beat me (I don’t want sympathy, just trying to make a point). As he left for work, I said to him “I hope you lose that job”. He didn’t hear me because I said it quietly, after he closed the front door. Now, he had a job with BT– a very reputable company in UK.
He came back later that evening and told me they suspended him at work. I was half-minded about it, thinking how did it happen, but my heart wasn’t broken over it. He said some ladies reported him to the Manager for harassing them. He was never allowed to return to that job and we had actually moved out of London for him to take up that important post. We were there for just a few months. (sometimes, our words are powerful)
Now, I’m not asking you to Wish a Big rock would fall on your partners head or that they’d get run over by a car. I’m just saying leave it all to Karma. If you have done no wrong and people hurt you, somehow life would pay them back or deal with them accordingly. I said those words in Anger, because I hurt so much at the time and this was over 10 years ago. He has since apologised over and over again to me and I harbour no bitterness in my heart. I put it down to a bad choice of partner.
Even Lions make up with people, if they roar to loud at them
Interesting Christmas gifts....
So lets get rid of bitterness and allow peace. It’s a natural law in life that people reap what they sow. Have you noticed how sometimes a lady cheats on her partner and marries the man she cheated with. Months, years later, the man now cheats on her and she dares not ask God – “Why me”?
Kissing and Making up
So, for the people I was addressing at the beginning of this article, how about apologising and sending a Christmas card or gift to that person. If you don’t want to get a gift, then a Christmas card would be a good start.
When next you see each other – there will be hugs, handshakes, smiles, laughter. I promise you that you’ll feel much better for it and the Festive season will indeed be a Joyful time.