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Secret To A Bulletproof Marriage
Each relation is very different from the other, but they are attached by one similitude and that is supposed to be love. What is than the secret for a bulletproof marriage?
What is the answer for a non separation; for a non destruction and a non end of love; for a nothing to break the passion, the understanding, the feeling, the relation that began...that brought two to be one? doesn't die; don't let it dim is the theme of a hub I wrote concerning a little of this same question I am answering with this hub. Love
Couples go through stages in their partnership, in their knowing each other, and in their decision of being together forever.Many books are written toward that key, or that secret that will submerge love forever. Michele Weiner Davis (marriage and family therapist) recalls five stages in marriage and Susan M Campbell, Ph. D. in her book The Couple's Journey , also describes five stages which couples tend to pass; based on interviews with over 100 couples, these stages are:
Perhaps we all have gone through some similar experiences. I even think that we permit this to happen...like if it is "normal". Wanting to share my experience and give hope to marriages with the knowledge and personal experience of having as my Lord; I started selling products for romance to keep it pure because the person which presented the products was a decent and professional person that brought the message of how important the roll of sex is in a marriage relation. God
It is still taboo and many don't even want to have a serious conversation toward the theme of sex. The truth is that we women do not marry a father, brother or an uncle, and men do not marry a mother, sister or an aunt. Marriage comes because an attraction exists and from that attraction passion brings to their hearts a deep desire of sharing bodies. That is beautiful and made by God.
But the secret to a bulletproof marriage, is not only having pleasurable sex!
A third person in your marriage
When we start a romance it comes with the fact that we have this deep necessity of spending time together. The person is always in our thoughts. We want to share our life with them. We talk, talk and talk with laughter and a spicy eternal taste. They become our best friend...but for some reason a substitute breaks in. This third person listens to what was supposed to be heard from your life partner.
Having a third person in your marriage life is not the secret to a bulletproof marriage!
Secret to a bulletproof marriage
1 John 4:7-8 says "Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. " To know what love is I invite you to write everywhere you could, including your heart, mind and spirit 1 Corinthians 13:4 "Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. "
We need to feed our spirit following God's word then our own life will reflect the fruits of the spirit which will enchant not only our own life but those around us... marriage, family, neighbors, friends and coworkers...everybody that reaches us will be contagious with love.
God inspired men to write His words for us to keep, to read and study them for our own salvation and happiness because He loves us and what perhaps might look destroyed...the miracle of love will flourish and reconstruct our marriage forever.
The fruits of the Spirit
Don't let romance die
Keep planting seeds of a good spiritual life and the fruits of the Spirit will be shining your life with a nourishing style. Work for them...grab them...be jealous with this loving God that has the answer in His words.
I know that following this as the first step will just make all the rest in life flow. Broken pieces will become part of what they were in the beginning. For a bulletproof marriage, recognize that God is Lord and follow the words in the Bible. Keep love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control ; in your life.
God in your own personal life is the secret to a bulletproof marriage!
Don't let romance die...listen to those lyrics once made goose pimples. Money is not necessary for lifting hearts...pull a flower from the path or a song from the radio.
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill
© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill