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Secret To A Bulletproof Marriage

Updated on August 10, 2013

Each relation is very different from the other, but they are attached by one similitude and that is supposed to be love. What is than the secret for a bulletproof marriage?

What is the answer for a non separation; for a non destruction and a non end of love; for a nothing to break the passion, the understanding, the feeling, the relation that began...that brought two to be one? Love doesn't die; don't let it dim is the theme of a hub I wrote concerning a little of this same question I am answering with this hub.

Couples go through stages in their partnership, in their knowing each other, and in their decision of being together forever.Many books are written toward that key, or that secret that will submerge love forever. Michele Weiner Davis (marriage and family therapist) recalls five stages in marriage and Susan M Campbell, Ph. D. in her book The Couple's Journey , also describes five stages which couples tend to pass; based on interviews with over 100 couples, these stages are:

  1. Romance
  2. Power Struggle Stage
  3. Stability Stage
  4. Commitment Stage
  5. Co-Creation Stage

Pleasurable sex

Perhaps we all have gone through some similar experiences. I even think that we permit this to happen...like if it is "normal". Wanting to share my experience and give hope to marriages with the knowledge and personal experience of having God as my Lord; I started selling products for romance to keep it pure because the person which presented the products was a decent and professional person that brought the message of how important the roll of sex is in a marriage relation.

It is still taboo and many don't even want to have a serious conversation toward the theme of sex. The truth is that we women do not marry a father, brother or an uncle, and men do not marry a mother, sister or an aunt. Marriage comes because an attraction exists and from that attraction passion brings to their hearts a deep desire of sharing bodies. That is beautiful and made by God.

But the secret to a bulletproof marriage, is not only having pleasurable sex!

A third person in your marriage

When we start a romance it comes with the fact that we have this deep necessity of spending time together. The person is always in our thoughts. We want to share our life with them. We talk, talk and talk with laughter and a spicy eternal taste. They become our best friend...but for some reason a substitute breaks in. This third person listens to what was supposed to be heard from your life partner.

Having a third person in your marriage life is not the secret to a bulletproof marriage!

Secret to a bulletproof marriage

1 John 4:7-8 says "Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. " To know what love is I invite you to write everywhere you could, including your heart, mind and spirit 1 Corinthians 13:4 "Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. "

We need to feed our spirit following God's word then our own life will reflect the fruits of the spirit which will enchant not only our own life but those around us... marriage, family, neighbors, friends and coworkers...everybody that reaches us will be contagious with love.

God inspired men to write His words for us to keep, to read and study them for our own salvation and happiness because He loves us and what perhaps might look destroyed...the miracle of love will flourish and reconstruct our marriage forever.

The fruits of the Spirit

Source

Don't let romance die

Keep planting seeds of a good spiritual life and the fruits of the Spirit will be shining your life with a nourishing style. Work for them...grab them...be jealous with this loving God that has the answer in His words.

I know that following this as the first step will just make all the rest in life flow. Broken pieces will become part of what they were in the beginning. For a bulletproof marriage, recognize that God is Lord and follow the words in the Bible. Keep love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control ; in your life.

God in your own personal life is the secret to a bulletproof marriage!

Don't let romance die...listen to those lyrics once made goose pimples. Money is not necessary for lifting hearts...pull a flower from the path or a song from the radio.


© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

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    • Lastheart profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

      5 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      skye2day thanks for reading and leaving such nice comment. That Bible text you have quoted surely does resume what we need in our lives. I gave your blessings to Froggy. Thanks again and blessings for you as well.

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      skye2day 

      5 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      lastheart

      I loved your hub filled with truth and Godly wisdom.

      Seek ye first the kingdom of God and these other things will follow. Matthew 6:31 When both are in Christ and pray together, worship together and put God first place a bullet proof marriage is not only possible but DIVINE because He is in it. We love because He loved us first.

      Thank you for an awesome share and testimony.

      Please do send Blessings to Froggy. May Gods peace abound in your marriage each day. Hugs to you sister. Skye

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

      5 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      healthylife2, thanks for your time! The secret... I guess every couple has their own secret...the thing is to hang to it if love is real.

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      Healthy Life 

      5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Great hub..I think the secret is the desire to be together no matter what. All relationships will have challenges.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

      6 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Blesses Doomsday T. We need to feed our spirit following God's word then our own life will reflect the fruits of the spirit which will enchant not only our own life but those around us...it is all about God.

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      Doomsday T 

      6 years ago from Bristol, TN

      This is excellent!!!

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      Greg Boudonck 

      6 years ago from Returned to an Isla Del Sol - Puerto Rico Will Rise Strong

      Amen my love!

    • Lastheart profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

      6 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Thanks to you CJ Sledgehammer, and blesses for making this question and making me realize as I answer it that my personal relation with God is first. All things will be where they have to be.

      Froggie213, thanks and God bless you and our relation as we walk in His words.

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      CJ Sledgehammer 

      6 years ago

      "God in your own personal life is the secret to a bulletproof marriage!" - Lastheart

      Amen to that, and thank you for such a thought-provoking and inspiring message.

      Best wishes and be well - C.J. Sledgehammer

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      Greg Boudonck 

      6 years ago from Returned to an Isla Del Sol - Puerto Rico Will Rise Strong

      This hub has me thinking about our beautiful love. I love and cherish every moment with you.

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