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Serious Hub: Things Guys Do That Make Girls Uncomfortable
Fair is fair.
Since I published my "Reasons Why Girls Roll Their Eyes," hub, I felt it only fair to include this piece in the "book end" series of girl-guy-related stories. I do not like to leave work undone. But that is not my only reason for publishing this hub. My primary reason for writing this piece is to help us guys to sharpen our social skills thus, stay free of trouble and embarrassment.
Honesty is key.
Guys, insecure guys I mean, are notorious for making pretty girls uncomfortable. To give credit where credit is due, some insecure guys do not mean to make pretty girls squirm with a nervous tension and then there are those guys who are prisoners of their own under-developed social abilities and then when a pretty girl (they are talking to) politely tells them to "buzz off," these guys' feelings get hurt and guess what? They always blame the girls. Why can't they just own the problem, fix it, and move on?
Short introductions are great.
I love it when I don't have to write long introductions. Not that I am lazy or anything like that. I just believe that I have been blessed with such intelligent followers they understand immediately what I am saying as well as what I am not saying.
Today I am saying to guys who relate to my subject . . .
A Serious Hub: Things Guys Do That Make Girls Uncomfortable
Wardrobe Mishaps - - it happens. But not to girls that much, but to nervous guys who are over-thinking the idea of going on date with a sizzling-hot girl. So in the long, arduous process of dressing just right, they overlook one key area: their fly zone. (cute play on words, huh?) The guy can be operating so cool and laid back, but his fly being wide-open will make his date nervous and uncomfortable. She might even be thinking does he actually wear his pants like this?
Breath That Smells - - like road kill. Sorry, guys. But if we are go grow as responsible members of society, we need to address the problem with our breath sometimes being so bad that by us just breathing on a weed, it would beat Round Up in killing the plant on the spot.
Chewing Gum - - in a nervous speed. And try to talk at the same time. A girl needs to hear what you are saying and understand every word. I know you are chewing gum to calm your nerves, but slow down your jaws. You will thank me when you get a second date with the hot beauty you are taking to dinner.
Sudden Movements - - such as holding hands, quickly kissing the girl unexpectedly, are just two physical motions that can quickly make a girl so uncomfortable, they will skip dinner and the show and demand to be taken home.
Feeding The Girl - - her own food with your fork from across the table. Guys, on a first date is too soon for intimacy like this. This gesture is not only making the girl on edge, but letting her know that you are all about intimacy and as soon as possible. If you continue doing this move, don't bother asking her for a second date.
Asking For A - - second date before you kiss her good night. This topic is like an onion. The more I peel the more things come to mind. Do not assume she will agree to a second date. Call her the next day and talk it over. Girls love to be given their time and space.
Kissing Her - - passionately at the end of your first date. Just use your own judgment on this one. If you sense that she is about to kiss you passionately, then return the pleasure, but normally, a smooth, quick kiss on the lips is appropriate.
Picking Her - - up to show her how strong you may be is a bad mistake. You are not "Big Jeff Pruitt," (Alan Hale, Jr. "Andy Griffith Show," and "Gilligan's Island."). Moves like this went out with fender skirts on cars. Don't tell me that you guys are going to "Google" to find out about "fender skirts?" Just don't show your lack of social intelligence by picking the girl up. She will be more than uncomfortable.
Missing Your Mouth - - with your food might make your date laugh as if you meant to spill a spoonful of hot soup on yourself, but spilling food a lot of times on a date will also stir a girl's sympathy for you and be uncomfortable being seen with you.
Your Passions - - if you and your lovely date are discussing some controversial subject and you are both on opposing sides, be cool. Let the girl speak her mind. And when your turn comes to share your views, do not let your anger fuel your passion and speak so loud she will think you are shouting at her. Guys, this is a sure-fire turn-off and a "road for discomfort" that you do not need to take.
Senseless Jokes - - that "you" think are funny. Guess what? Your date does not appreciate your brand of humor: Blond jokes that you and your beer drinking pals love to tell when you have a night of beer and laughs. And to "drive home this point," she "is" blond. Now if you do not stop with the blond jokes, you have not only made her uncomfortable, but angry. Not a good combination.
Bodily Functions - - I have to include this one for those of you guys who think that people around you, friends and strangers alike, love the sound of you passing gas. Bulletin! They don't. And after the third "gas pass," the uncomfortable girl will suddenly lose her appetite and "that" mysterious headache girls always get that will tell you to take her back home.
My last piece of advice to you is just relax and pretend that this first date is all about her. Not you. Ask a lot of questions without dominating the conversation with stories about you. Be courteous, attentive, and please make sure that your fly is zipped.