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Serious Things NOT To Do at Weddings and Receptions and “Be Somebody”

Updated on October 27, 2014
Bride throwing her bouquet is one of the highlights of any wedding
Bride throwing her bouquet is one of the highlights of any wedding | Source

Mama, this one's for you

My blessed mother, rest her soul, had a perfect phrase to say to me when those “rare” times came when “I” needed scolding. I can hear her say, “Kenny, stop that this instant and try to ‘be somebody!” It worked. You know why? I was occupied for the rest of the day trying to understand what the term “be somebody,” really meant.

Mothers are very wise. And FYI, and even today, Oct. 27, 2014, I have yet to fully-grasp what my mother meant by this scholarly-punishment. I have checked many books and read many behavioral experts’ papers over the years, but not a peep on “be somebody.”

On with the show. Everyone loves a good wedding and equally-good wedding reception. Don’t you? In my 60 years, I have been to four weddings and receptions and they were mostly-tame. Thank God. For at the time of these blessed events, I had long given-up booze and the fine art of making a jackass of myself in front of a big crowd.

Well-planned wedding receptions always have great eats
Well-planned wedding receptions always have great eats
Ahhh, the bride and groom having fun dancing the night away
Ahhh, the bride and groom having fun dancing the night away

One troublemaker can ruin any wedding or reception

But this piece is directed at those people in our world who HAVE NOT given-up slugging and funneling booze and doing things that make my crowd-pleasing jackass shenanigans look like I was reading a children’s book to eager three-year-olds.

Somehow, these people prey on wedding receptions when they could show-out (another term used by my mother) at any nearby bar and that wouldn’t be as frowned upon as their stupid antics would be among the civil guests at a wedding reception. Do not ask me to analyze the “Reception Crashers,” for I am not a psychiatrist. I will just assume that making fools of themselves in something in their DNA or chromosomes.

And I hope that “this” group of “good-timing” people with good hearts will read this, my list of things to NEVER do at a friend or relative’s wedding reception.

This bride and bridesmaids are really "bending their elbows"
This bride and bridesmaids are really "bending their elbows"
Can you say "gassed?"
Can you say "gassed?"
Talk about a big crowd
Talk about a big crowd
What a delicious-looking cake
What a delicious-looking cake
Wild reception is all one can say
Wild reception is all one can say

Starting with the men

Best Man: Please do not drink all day of the wedding then pass out on the bride when standing with her and the groom ready for the minister to do the ceremony.

Men: Do not do animal impressions by running your index finger through your pant’s zipper and say, “Look! A poisonous snake! Take cover!” This foolish stunt will get a few laughs, but one of your equally-drunk friends will surely yell, “Yeah, but it’s NOT that big!”

Men: Do not start making serious come on moves to the bridesmaids for guess what? They just might have husbands or boyfriends and you sure don’t want a beating, something people will recall and laugh at you for years to come, do you?

Men: Do not drink so much that you might be rushed to the emergency room with alcohol poisoning.

Men: Do not jerk off your clothes and invite the pretty bride to dance with the nude groomsman. She will cover her mouth to laugh. And her now-husband will kick your butt for doing this asinine stunt.

Men: Do not challenge your buddies to a “Hot wing-Wedding Cake-Beer Chugging Contest.” With one of these events with drunken participants, the eventual end-result will be two things: upchucking on each other and passing out. But what a great video opportunity for some laughs later on.

And now, for the ladies

Matron of Honor: Do not flirt with the minister minutes before the wedding ceremony or when he says, “I now pronounce “Margie” and “Dirk,” man and wife.

Bridesmaid one: Do not wink uncontrollably at the first groomsman since the Best Man is too drunk to respond.

Bridesmaid two: Do not whisper hot, sexual-related phrases to the groom while the wedding ceremony is going on.

Bridesmaid three: Do not glare at some loser guy sitting in the fourth row near you and when he faints, be real girly and say, “Oh my word! Someone get a doctor for that poor man.”

Bridesmaid four: Do not start doing a professional strip-tease just as the minister starts the ceremony.

Bridesmaid five: If you have a bad case of the “munchies,” (and we know why), do not eat noisy pork skins during the wedding ceremony.

Beautiful reception
Beautiful reception
Lots of good friends and family make for a memorable reception
Lots of good friends and family make for a memorable reception
Poor best man. He drank too much booze and decided to take a nap
Poor best man. He drank too much booze and decided to take a nap

Now for the rest of the cast

Organ or Piano player: Do not play “Goodbye, Yellow Brick Road,” instead of what the bridal couple chose for you to play.

Bass player: Do not doze-off for staying up all night playing poker with the groom and “fleecing” him of all of his cash.

Drum player: Do not have earphones and be listening to some R-rated live concert by Richard Pryor and then burst-out laughing so hard that you roll into the floor.

Registry keeper: Please stay dressed in your bridal dress and not sneak into the ladies’ room to change into your short-shorts and tank top.

Head usher: Do not start a betting pool and take bets from everyone to see if the groom backs out of the marriage or not.

Usher one: Do not lose focus and let people just walk on by you as you daydream about the night you have planned at the Nickel Back Reunion Concert.

Usher two: You should have seen a doctor about that bad case of gasterononitis.

Assistant minister: Wake up! You never know when the lead-minister may screw things up for being out of practice in conducting a marriage ceremony.

Coming in the future . . . “Questions Never to Ask on Your Wedding Night”


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    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Gypsy Rose Lee,

      You are so right. And mix in some drugs of some type and like you said, it is ruined. And a lot of feelings are hurt in the process.

      Thank you for your compliments. I appreicate you so much.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      You are always-welcome, dear friend, and one day, it WILL happen when you least expect it. "He" will walk into your life softly and you will be spell-bounnd, but with your guard still up.

      Thanks for YOUR sweet friendship.

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      3 years ago

      kenneth: My grandmother always told me the same thing you did about the guy who I finally meet and marry ... if that ever happens. Thanks. That was so sweet.

    • Gypsy Rose Lee profile image

      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      3 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Unfortunately it's usually alcohol that ruins wedding receptions. I think that just a little wine and champagne should be served and the hard booze left out. Enjoyed this hub and the pictures say a thousand words. Passing this on.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      I sure can. Great move, no booze. Bouncers are a good idea for people who ONLY attend your reception to drink.

      I could not believe the photo of the three bridesmaids and the bride or bridesmaid riding a bridesmaid.

      May I say in all honesty, any guy who marries you is very blessed and he should honor all of your wishes for the wedding.

      I am serious. Talk to you when my laptop charges. I need a new one.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      You are a wise man. And a good man. Thank you for your nice comment.

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      Victor W. Kwok 

      3 years ago from Hawaii

      I'm one to prefer just having the thing signed and put in record.

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      3 years ago

      Now you can understand why I've decided if I ever get married, it's going to be a very small wedding and there will be no alcohol at the reception. Would it be wrong to hire bouncers for the reception and have them bodily remove anyone making a fool of themselves even if they're family? Sounds like a good idea to me.


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