- Gender and Relationships
Seven Tips for Staying Married to the Person You Love
There was a time when divorce was not an option for most people. Once they got married, they were in it for the rest of their life whether they liked it or not. These days, married couples get divorced at a drop of a hat. Even though they have vowed to remain faithful to each other in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow, it won't take them long to for divorce once trouble starts brewing. If you still love each other, a divorce can be devastating. You may never recover from it.
So, here are 7 tips for staying married to the person you love.
1. Keep the Love Alive:
Love is the glue that binds a couple together. The moment a husband and wife stop loving each other is the moment their marriage begins to fall apart. So, if you want to stay married to your spouse, keep the love alive at any cost. Love your spouse despite his or her shortcomings and failures. Never for even a moment allow yourself to believe that you may not love your spouse. Negative thoughts lead to negative actions. Use every opportunity to show your spouse that you love him or her.
2. Build trust:
Trust is the pillar of a successful marriage. If you and your spouse can't trust each other, your marriage will crumble like a house of cards. Always be honest to your spouse; never lie to him or her. Never give him or her any reason to doubt your actions or suspect your motives. Do not hide your money or your financial dealings from him or her. If you have a friend or colleague of the opposite sex who is close to you, never give your spouse any reason to worry about your friendship.
3. Earn respect:
You can't possibly love your spouse if you don't respect him or her. And your spouse can't love you if he or she doesn't respect you. But respect, like money, should be earned. Always try to be the best you can be. Everybody respects a hardworking person. So work hard; don't be a slob. Be ambitious; have dream and work hard to achieve your dream. Always be well mannered. Never use foul words, especially against him or her. Do not use foul and hurtful language, not even when you are fighting.
4. Never stray:
Infidelity is one of major causes of marital problems. When one strays and other finds out, the bond of love is broken forever. No matter how hard you try, it will never be the same again. So, always be faithful. If you are not sexually satisfied, have an intimate talk and try to find a solution instead of looking for a new sex partner. If you spouse doesn't like you associating with a person of the opposite sex, refrain from associating with that person.
5. Share everything:
Marriage is about sharing - bed, sofa, dining table, bathroom, bank balance and your whole life. But the most important things to share are your pain and your happiness. When you are happy, share your happiness with your spouse. When your spouse is in pain, ask him or her to share his or her pain. Sharing money is extremely important in a marriage. Lack of money doesn't drive a couple apart; unwillingness to share it does it. So don't be too miserly to share your money with your spouse.
6. Stay together:
Long distance relationship rarely works. When a husband and wife live in different cities, the chances having an extramarital affair increase dramatically. Even if you are faithful, there will always be a seed of doubt of in your spouse's mind or vice versa. But more than that, it's the feeling that you are not there for each other which can do more harm. So, do not live apart. If you have found a new job or are going to start a business another city, take your spouse along with you.
7. Maintain a good relationship with your in-laws:
Your in-laws are important to your spouse just as your own side of the family is important to you. They were there before you came into his or life, and they will continue to be there after you are gone. He or she will not like it if you are disrespectful to his or her parents and siblings. So, whether you like them or not, maintain a good relationship with them.