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How To Build A Lifetime of Happiness

Updated on June 13, 2016

We All Want To Be Happy

We try to find HAPPINESS in money, relationships, material possessions, sex, drugs, alcohol, food, and friends.
We seek for it every day. We look for all kinds of adventures and pleasures, and when we find it…it doesn’t last.
After a few hours or days, we go back to feeling empty, sad. Then, we start the cycle all over again, looking for it anyway we can, and we try… and we try.

Is Money The Source Of Happiness?

Sometimes you hear in the news of famous and wealthy people having a hard time with life. They have everything they could possibly own. They have friends, money and fame, but they are still miserable! Why is that?
You hear from beautiful people still looking for the eternal happiness that their beauty can not buy.
Or when you hear the 20 Million Lottery Winner, cursing the day he won. See this Hub for the Nice Story. Hum…
According to all these examples, you may ask…
Is it possible to find true constant happiness in this changing world?
Why is it so important to be really a happy person?

I Found it!

I found the answers to these questions in the Amazon River, when I was doing some research for a book.
Please see article here.
While living among the natives of the land, I discovered that; yes, happiness was achievable on this earth. I discovered that we don’t have to depend on others to get it, and we can have it as long as we live. No one can take it away from us.
These natives in the Amazon River, lived very poor for our standards, but they were truly happy. I studied the source of their happiness and this is what I found;
They were very organized, and all worked together helping each other. The reason they experienced true happiness, is because, they were simple people. They had a positive attitude –almost naïve-, they were in peace with themselves, they had a good conscience, and they were givers.
Their happiness was contagious. I felt so in peace with myself and so much in harmony with the land, I didn’t want to ever leave them.
The day I left I cried for leaving my new found friends, but mostly I cried because I had found a treasure that was never going to be taken away from me. Yes, I found my biggest prize in life. I learned how to be happy.
A few years later, while attending church, one lady approached me and said: “If you are faking to be happy, you are doing a good job…” I almost fell off my chair. Imagine! She thought I was faking to be happy for all these years. In reality my actions were speaking greater than my words. She couldn’t understand the possibility of somebody been happy on this earth.

So, in conclusion, one of the biggest reasons we cannot find happiness, is because we are looking for it, in the wrong places.
We are depending on others to give it to us, we feel they owe it to us!
When we were small, we trusted in our parents to give us what we needed to have a happy life. Then, when we matured, we depended on our mates, or our friends to give it to us, but unfortunately we are constantly looking for it, and we are never satisfied!
Where is it, we ask? Where else can we look for it? Can we really achieve constant happiness on this earth, or do we have to wait until we go to the other side some day?

Yes, friends, we can find it here on this earth amongst all the troubles and pain we suffer every day.
True Eternal Happiness is a state of mind. It is a feeling. It is only yours.
You are the only one responsible for it, the only one who is going to feel it.
Nobody is going to give it to you. You have to find it within yourself, and you have to cultivate it, nourish it, and take care of it.
To make it simple, let’s look at it this way:

Seven Ways to Maintain Eternal Happiness

1. Understand that True Happiness is not given to you.
Do not depend on others to give you anything, instead you be the giver. “There is much happiness in giving than there is in receiving” Do you know why? The person that is doing the giving has something to give.

2. You are the only source for your true happiness.
Nobody is more interested in your happiness than yourself. Find out how to find it, and make this your priority.

3. Know who you are and find peace within yourself.
If you don’t know who you are, or what you want now, and in life, you will have no core, or no base, to help you with the difficulties life can bring. You will be like a leaf in the water. In order to find your happiness, you need to know yourself better than anybody else. See how you can start.

4. You need to maintain a good conscience and attitude.
Once you understand yourself, don’t compromise. Maintain a peaceful relationship with your conscience. This is the key foundation of who you are, and it is closely related to the feeling of happiness. The positive attitude will help you achieve your goals. Guard your conscience and don’t let negative forces destroy what you have built.

5. You need to be organized.
Organization of your thoughts and actions will let you see things more clearly. It is a gift. If you don’t have it, try to develop it. An organized mind goes far.

6. You need to be a giver.
Giving is a sign of abundance. You want to share you as a person. People are going to be drawn to you, because your happiness is like honey to the bees.

7. Need to learn to be simple and content.
Simplicity is the key to many treasures, one of them been happy. If you are complicated, and need things exactly your way or nothing, happiness will run away from you. A positive attitude is a good friend. It will help us see thing different. When you feel you are getting too complicated with things, stop-take a deep breath- and look for the simplicity as a solution. Only then you will be a good friend of your happiness.

Happiness Is A Treasure

We need to work at it every day and get good at it. The quality of happiness is one of the most important tools we could ever have. With it nothing can harm us. This is the treasure everyone tries to go after, but cannot find. That is why money can’t buy it, nor friends, or drugs. Only you can find it. True Eternal Happiness can be found only within yourself.
Happiness is a treasure more valuable than any gold or any reaches in the world.
If you have it, you will be able to build a happy home, you will know how to give, and no matter what difficulties you are going through in life, happiness will maintain you stable, balanced and cheerful to conquer any situation.
Treasure it more than anything else, so you may enjoy life to the fullest!

What To Do If You Are Depressed

I know life has a way to make us feel sad sometimes and depressed, and that is natural, but after a few hours you are able to recuperate and be back to be the happy you.

On the other side, if you have feelings of depression most of the time and can not recuperate, it could be several things.

Ask yourself the following questions:

  1. How many cups of coffee am I drinking a day?
  2. Am I exercising every day at list for 20 minutes?
  3. Am I eating junk food most of the time?
  4. Am I sleeping enough?
  5. Am I working more that eight hours a day straight?
  6. Am I keeping a grouch with my best friend? relative?
  7. Am I associating with positive people?
  8. Am I watching depressing movies most of the time?

If you answer yes to any of this questions you gotta take control. Find out what is bothering you and fix it to the best of your ability.

You are not alone, you have your friends and relatives that can help you recuperate. Of course if this is chronic consult with your Doctor and ask him for some advise.

You deserve to be happy, fight for it!

9 Tips To Personal Development

If you want to improve yourself and go after your happiness a great way to do it is by enhancing your quality of life.

Quality of life is very broad and is actually based on healthy ways to be happier.

If your living room is looking drab and bringing you down, then paint it an uplifting color and hang some new curtains. Now, every time you walk into that room, you will feel happier, hence, enhancing quality of life!

Improve your diet. Having a poor diet can make you feel unwell or depressed. Make sure you are eating plenty of complex carbohydrates. A diet that is low on complex carbohydrates can cause a deficiency in serotonin. Not enough serotonin can go a long way in making you feel depressed.

In a group discussion, many people never speak up because they are afraid that other people will judge them for saying something stupid. By making the effort to speak up in group settings will help you establish your self as a better public speaker and will help you build self confidence.

We usually undertake some effort towards personal development in the arts, in a sport, or in studies, as something outside our everyday job. However, we may be able to merge the professional and personal. If we become good enough at our new skill, we may be able to turn it into a rewarding career. This is a path to happiness.

It is important to feel like you have a purpose in life.

You can do this by reaching out to others that need your help. It can help you to take your mind off of your own problems and help someone else through theirs. It also gives you a different way to look at things.

A great self help tip that can help you change your life is to start practicing yoga. Practicing yoga is a great way to get fit and it's also very therapeutic. There are even forms of yoga that aim to help you get more in touch with yourself.

If you are lonely a pet might help or you could even go to a coffee shop and strike up a conversation with a friendly looking stranger.

If you feel sad or bad about yourself, go to counseling or to a friend, so that you can talk about your feelings. The list goes on and on, and there is simply no excuse not to work towards a better life.



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      thanks for kind words 5 years ago


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      Julie S Ross 6 years ago from Irvine, California

      Mil Gracias por su estupendo comentario.

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      pesavrca 6 years ago

      Excelente artículo. Te felicito. Estoy totalmente de acuerdo con que la felicidad está dentro de nosotros. Está en "La mente" (Mente = pensamiento + espiritu)

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      Julie S Ross 6 years ago from Irvine, California

      Thank you cloverleaf, beautiful comment.

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      Cloverleaf 6 years ago from Calgary, AB, Canada

      What a warm and uplifting hub, srossjul! I believe we have to be happy with who we are before we can share that happiness with others. And always be thankful for what we have.


      Voted up / beautiful

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      Julie S Ross 6 years ago from Irvine, California

      Fantastic Gajanis786! You are completely right! Giving, helping, and sharing is a very important source for eternal happiness. Thank you for your wonderful comment.

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      gajanis786 6 years ago

      Very beautiful hub.....yes you are right true happiness is not an object which you will buy it for few bucks, rather it lies within yourself if you can explore it properly.....and I also agree with your points which help to be eternally happy.....may I just add to it the very important point is that learn to be happy to know others prosper and try to share others pains and grief and help them as much as you can and the happiness you will have from such acts will be truly eternal and no one can take it from you......thanks.