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Love, Sex, Distance, Lust and Sin
The picture above isn't sexy...it is a nude beach though.. There are billions and billions of words dedicated to sex. When we add distance into the formula.....sex is limited. A microscopic view of skin is not sexy at all. An aerial picture of a nude woman on a beach isn't sexy either unless we can observe the curves of the body or certain parts.
How far away or close do we need to be from nudity to avoid sin? We aren't going to say,"That little speck on the beach is hot. We also won't say,"Wow...look at the flakes and mites on that babe!"
Flesh is actually pretty nasty when observed through a microscope. There is always dead skin and usually some kind of mites on the surface. Of course....we can't see them normally...but they are there. Lust...having a margin of distance....must mean that sin has a margin of distance. If a woman is too far away for a man to see her curves of flesh....how can he lust after her unless he knows the woman he sees.
We could look at the skin of a super model under a microscope and it would not raise an inkling of lust unless we knew it was a certain model's skin. Even then...if that turned us on...we do have a problem.
Let's say....a man is a mile away from a nude woman. He can see it is a person but can't tell the sex. He walks towards her and her curves come into focus. The color of her skin comes into focus. The sin bar (pardon the pun) begins to rise. By the time he is a few steps away...the sin bar has maxed out!
Now...the man puts on microscopic glasses. He focuses on a certain...chosen... part and zooms in. He begins to see ridges, wrinkles....flakes...mites and giant hair as the sin bar drops down. The man is only excited in a margin of distance. However....if the man knows the woman he is walking to or looking at through a microscope...the sin bar can very well remain at the maximum.
Even clothing can't stop the margin of sex. The distance may be a little different but the curves and thought of sex is still there. Sometimes...clothing even enhances lust. Victoria's Secret has proven that.
Well...we can't leave out the other four senses. Smell, taste,touch and sound also play a role in lust. All five senses connect to the brain. The brain tells us when something is sexy. The brain sends signals to the sex cells...and...boing...we have a lusty sin!
I know...I know...why am I using the word sin? How can just looking be a sin? It only becomes a sin when looking turns into lusting. If a man and woman are married or any couple connected by professed love.....the sin is that they step out of their agreement. It has nothing to do with sex. They have broken the bonds of their love.
If we go back to the story of Adam and Eve....we find the forbidden fruit. The old fruit hasn't changed. Adam and Eve weren't evil. The fruit wasn't evil. Sex wasn't evil. That leaves only the lust for the fruit. The lust led to the broken promise. Love was hurt.
Even today...a human being can look at the Gothic art paintings of mostly naked Adam and Eve with a lust for them. Time and distance in thought have no boundaries when it comes to lust. So....am I saying that lust is evil? We all know that good sex in a good relationship is good.
If we lust outside of that relationship....it does hurt love. We want the forbidden fruit instead of that same old everyday fruit. Lust draws us into fantasy...away from love. If we bite the forbidden fruit and the mate finds out....all hell breaks loose!
I can already feel people asking,"What the hell is your point Tom?" Well...my point is to think.....I think. I just don't believe in telling anyone how to live their lives or love. For myself...I've come to the conclusion....sex is a wonderful part of love. I choose to try my best to be exclusive to my wife because I don't want to hurt her...I don't want to hurt love.
She can be a thousand miles away or as close as a hug....the love, passion and lust is there. All sin is derived from a broken promise to ourselves or others. That beautiful forbidden fruit is more appealing when seen from a certain distance. The closer we come to it...the further we are from what we already have.
I believe that lust...like sin dies with the body. While living...as mates...we can either distance ourselves from lusting after other people and things....or we can look very close at what we are really lusting after. I don't think there can be any lust in a satellite photo or a picture of a dust mite. Maybe...if we focus on love....distance doesn't even matter.
Ashes to ashes.....lust to dust.