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She Ain't Nothing But A Gold Digger
Is it wrong for a woman to want nice things? To want a nice house, a reliable car, nice clothes? Is it wrong for a woman to want to be a stay at home wife or a stay at home mother? To take care of the house, the plants, wash the clothes and dishes, cook for the man they love?
The bible actually states that woman was created FOR man and a woman’s place is under man. So why is it when you see a smart beautiful woman that doesn’t have a job dating or married to a rich man, people have the audacity to call her a “Gold Digger”? Or when they hear a woman say, they won’t date or marry a man unless he has a good paying job, she’s a gold digger?
To me, these smart women aren’t gold diggers at all, they are SMART women! It’s not so much about the money; it’s what the money can offer. It’s a littler something called SECURITY. It really ticks me off when women who want security get labeled as gold diggers because, to me, a gold digger is a woman who doesn’t want to do anything but mooch off of the first reach guy she can bag. Gold diggers use there looks and their body to trap rich men. A woman who will only date a financially secure man is not a gold digger by any means, she’s being selective. Its ok when men say they will only date women with a huge chest, or huge hips, blonde, brunette, ect. But when a woman brings up money, GOLD DIGGER! Yes, there are gold diggers people, most of them will be honest and say they are, but there are also smart women who want security with the man they love. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!
Kanye West’s song “Gold Digger” gave a lot of woman the wrong label and a lot of men the wrong idea. That’s not to say, the song was wrong, it was just people took it the wrong way. I personally need security to be happy, and let me explain…
I’m the type of woman to say, I don’t care about money and money can’t buy my love…
But honestly, money will keep my love strong. I need security in a man. Not just financially, but emotionally, physically, and mentally too. I don’t want to have a family with someone I’m not 100% secure with, and I actually won’t. When you bring children into the picture, money matters A LOT more. There’s nothing wrong with me wanting a nice big house, a nice back yard, nice things in this home and nice things for me to wear. What men need to understand is that being a wife is a woman’s job. Once a woman is married she should stay at home and care for the things there as well as her husband. If a woman wants to continue to work that’s fine, but you can’t fault a woman for wanting to do what she was created to do. I’m old fashion. When I am a wife, I am a wife. When I am a mother, I am a mother. I’m not going to have a “job” because being a wife and a mother is my job. Men have always been the prime providers. That’s why they say “The man of the house”.
Stop thinking that every woman that wants security is a gold digger.
Stop thinking you have to have a job outside of being a wife and mother.