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She Struggled with Her Son's Addictive Habits

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Drug overdose is common and happens to those who have had enough of life itself. Many families have this problem.

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Drug Addiction can be fatal

The blame is often on the person involved with the intake of drugs.

From as young as twelve, an individual started using various drugs.

It is sad to see, or know of someone in those moments.

The most intelligent people can end up living on the streets after drug use.

The lack of parent love, or parental control, is the cause of many issues including the use of drugs in a child's life.

· Do you think good kids don't use drugs and that only the bad kids do?

You can do that much when raising your child.

When children get involved with a certain age group, or become independent lots can change.

Most parents feel the need to draw a line and wonder where their children are at on every time.

Their kids are now grown up and most parents choose to back away.

Is it a good idea to stay away from your child's life even once they become adults?

Even the good kids try drugs at school and pretend they don't know about any type of drugs.

Irrespective of the good or bad kid when it comes to experimenting with drugs anyone can try it.

You should not alienate your child.

You are the parent and you should show love and care always.

It doesn't mean if your child is presented with drugs that they will take the option.

You should be part of your child's life.

No matter, how old they are you still have a chance to make it clear to your child of the effects of drugs.

It is not impossible to prevent your child from taking drugs.

Also, it doesn't mean if the parents are drug addicts the children should follow their footsteps.

You can't always avoid the wrong but you can prevent it.

All you have to do is say NO to drugs have the will power to control your urges.

Mostly children who have experienced problematic lives tend to take drugs.

In such cases, these children lack parental guidance.

Don't think that people who take drugs are weak.

It is not about the character of the individual it is more about the abuse of drugs.

Drug addiction becomes a disease to the actual person.

The person can't stop taking the drug because the brain becomes altered to the activity of drug taking.

The drugs become a new addition to the brain cells.

You must bear in mind that drug addiction, is a serious note of illness to one involved in this activity.

A drug addict should not wait too long to get treatment. If the individual waits, it can be fatal to the drug addict.

When treated, it has to be with medication.

You can treat the patient with drugs even though they are drug addicts.

She lost control of her son due to single parenting, and had raised him based on an easy standard of life.

He had everything served on a plate. On request it was there without questions, or disagreements.

The easy lifestyle made him a spoiled child.

No matter what he wanted she bought it.

As a mother she felt that was a better way of showing love to her child what she did not see coming was her worst nightmare.

When her son got older toward his teen years he started showing signs of aggressive behavior.

A single working mother who did her best for her son but that was not appreciated by him.

He lied to her each time about being robbed of his clothing, or valuables.

The child had bought drugs, and alcohol with the money after selling his belongings.

Drugs and alcohol got the better of him, and the mother did not see this right away.

Alcohol and drugs, became his main focus, and he did follow his father's footsteps.

With no father figure in his life he gave up on loving his dad and himself.

· ''Like father like son.''

· Do you think Marijuana should be legalized and is it safe to use for any age group?

The intake of Marijuana is dangerous for kids, if freely available this entices many children to free use.

The boy had friends who did whatever they liked to do.

These young boys did not have the proper parental control. He formed his own line of friends.

If you treat drug use as a criminal problem you won't solve the problem.

Focus on the issue as an addiction.

She did not know how to handle the problem with her son.

He lost her everything she had worked for including her home and business.

A difficult son who lacked parent love and parent control.

She did not her own son. Parental love, or attention lacked in this boy's life, and the mother constantly compared him to his father's character.

You got to understand that drug use is a disease.

When your body becomes dependent on the substance, the sudden discontinuation causes withdrawal to the body.

The individual becomes psychologically hurt and physically weak when the drug is no longer in use.

Children who use drugs secretly and come from loving homes surprise their parents of their behaviors.

· For example:

She was a freshman and was using drugs without the knowledge of her parents. When the parents did find out, it was too late.

Their daughter was found dead in her college room.

It was terrifying to finally know the truth of their loving daughter.

Good parents have drug addictive children and are not always heard.

Never feel ashamed of the problem you have with your children.

It is not a time ever to make harsh judgment on such individuals.

If you lack coping skills drug use can be a hard one to let go.

To mask pain one can try drug use to feel numbed and high.

Lies and stealing becomes a problem with drug addicts.

The boy turned against his mother and treated her horribly.

The more you use a drug the better you feel at least that is what you think at the time of use.

If you are not an addict of any kind you will never understand this disease making judgment is an option.

· Do you feel sorry for a drug addict?

A drug addict becomes hopeless and frustrated with life.

They have to get what makes them feel the best.

The behavior is unpredictable.

Generally, the individual is free to do whatever they want to. They can say NOor say YES to take drugs. After all they are in their right set of minds when offered the drug.

Parents should not feel pressured by talking about drugs to their children learning starts at home.

There is no end to such conversations.

Never say NEVER to your child about the intake of any substance. Eventually they will figure it out.

You should not bring too many restrictions in raising your child.

The moment you try to restrict your child from anything in life they tend to do exactly what you don't want them to do.

Be lenient and fair.

Have a free reign but with limitations.

Don't alienate an addict still show them love no matter what bad is going on in their life don't ignore them.

If you ignore an addict they become lonely and helpless and will seek more drugs.

It is all by choice of what you do with your life.

Drug use is not always a choice but is a way to go when people don't feel good about them or are exposed to drugs.

· Bad influences are often to be blamed but people have a mind of their own why do what others do?

Sometimes you feel like hiding away from others and drugs become a main focus when you lose the good friends.

The friend who walks away from your side is not a friend.

They should be helping you not walking away from you and your problem.

Remain with true people to make yourself right for you.

There are no perfect beings mistakes are made and should be learned from in all ways. Experiences are all not good but mostly the bad experiences are felt more and thought of daily.

Learn from the good, and bad you do and don't compare yourself to your parents or other people only you can make a difference to your life.

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    • Ericdierker profile image

      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I strongly suggest you remove this myth from the hub: "All you have to do is say NO to drugs have the will power to control your urges."

      I would just let it slide but it is harmful to our understanding of addiction and addictive personalities.

      While it is far better not to have an addiction, people who do not have addictions are not stronger better people. And of course addicts will have a better life if they can abstain. But having an addiction does not mean that one does not have will power.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well my friend, I was a very good kid, and I was addicted and still am...it can happen to most anyone...good message.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Brave subject to tackle which will inevitably bring strong opinions. I have known well brought up kids that are and still loved succumb to the habit of taking drugs where these loving parents are in despair. As usual you have tackled the subject in your no-nonsense way. Voted up,interesting and useful.

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      Cecile Portilla 3 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

      Great subject DDE. There is so much peer peer pressure out there and often parents are unaware that they children are involved with drugs. Good and bad kids end up doing drugs. We just need to stay more involved with our children and encourage them to stay on the right path when they start engaging in bad behaviors. Voted up!

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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      DDE I was addicted to cigarettes, and tried to give them up on many occasions. I finally won and have stopped smoking for many years now. However, that was an 'acceptable' drug, and it was hard to give up - I cannot imagine the pain, both physically and mentally that people on the drug or alcohol treadmill must suffer. The comparison of those addictions to cigarettes is like comparing a scratch to an amputation, no contest. I feel sorry for people who are addicted and whatever road took them there. Sometimes its the false feeling of confidence or being part of the crowd that causes a teenager to start on that road. I have great admiration for those who kick the habit. Thank you Devika for sharing your thoughts and giving us something to think about!

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      A great hub Devika told as always in your own no nonsense way. Voting up and sharing.

      Eddy.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Devika, you did a good job on this and ask the right questions, I don't have the answers, who does?

      This hub makes one think.

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      Sunardi 3 years ago from Indonesia

      It's truth "The lack of parent love or parental control is the cause of many issues including the use of drugs in a child's life."

      Many people create families just based on love, without consideration about having good generations. In my hometown, there is a village where most of the inhabitants are thief, while the other village most of the inhabitants have black magic to kill each other.

      In my point of view, the parents are the cause of it. They begin to be like that since the early age.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      What I took from your post is that we must stay close to our children, be a part if their lives and show them love. Good and bad kids are drawn to drugs, it's what we must try to lead our children through to be overcomers. Excellent write!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker, Thank you for commenting

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. thank you for all votes and I understand the opinions of everyone some will agree others won't see it that way it s however, so interesting to read another positive comment from you always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      cecileportilla thank you for such understanding words. I appreciate the vote up

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you CyberShelley for sharing part of your addiction here I so appreciate your efforts

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eiddwen so nice to finally hear from you and good luck on your new adventures.I appreciate the votes up and sharing.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko I am glad to make some people think but how only they will know thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Sunardi learning begins at home with parents and if parents fail in their role so do their children in their behaviors I am so glad you understand my point of view. Thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      teaches12345 exactly that parents paly a big part in their children's lives. you have a great understanding of my point here and I so appreciate you stopping by thank you

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      lyns 3 years ago from USA

      Hello DDE, this hub is a much needed one I think that drugs impact our household in America far to much, and yes good kids household as well as bad, it's has know face when it comes to drugs and it's sad to know that that a great deal of times drugs are prescribed when not needed and the addiction starts not on in children but adults, and Marijuana drug I think for cancer patients it does wonders or those suffering in horrible situations but as a whole to legalize it worldwide isn't good because it changes the brain they way it thinks and learns, as children. Drug addition, yes it is a disease because it can be transferred from family to family in the craving of their DNA. I absolutely feel you did a great job on this hub. Regarding Son addictive. Voted up and + Have a good one.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lyns thank you for all votes I appreciate you stopping by at my hubs. I am glad you get my point on my work.

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      Colleen Swan 3 years ago from County Durham

      Hi, I think the problem can enter any family. Often the child with more money to spend is a dealers target. I believe in the decriminalization. I would like to have Marijuana legalized, because if my kids were ever to take up smoking, I believe M is safer than nicotine.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Colleen Swan ''I would like to have Marijuana legalized, because if my kids were ever to take up smoking, I believe M is safer than nicotine.''An interesting thought. I know of people who have smoked M for most of their life and have not been to the doctor for any illness. I agree that M is safer than nicotine. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Tolovaj 3 years ago

      Some very interesting and provocative thoughts - in your text and among comments. I believe everybody carries the potential of becoming an addict, it's just about the circumstances, if this potential is realized. Thanks for another interesting hub!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Tolovaj so nice to hear from you thank you for stopping by

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      Alienating people with a drug habit makes it worse, in my opinion. Thanks for sharing DDE.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi jtrader, thank you for stopping by

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