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She believed she could, so she did.

Updated on July 15, 2017

When will the beating end?

You might be wondering what is that she did and who is this she? Well, this is for all the beautiful, strong, courageous and bold women that exist in this universe. Before I go any further, smile, you are beautiful.


Society has made us feel so little, by telling us what we can do and what we can not do but that is not how it is supposed to be. Some jobs are said to be, men jobs mainly because they need more strength. Whoever said to men that they are more powerful than us has obviously deceived them. Let me list a few things that women go through and men surely wouldn't survive; Period pains which normally come monthly, giving birth to your precious baby, your body changing after pregnancy, heartbreaks that these men cause and many more.


In the country that I am from, a lady was walking to go catch a combie(taxi) and men started undressing her because she wasn't dressed "appropriately" and what hurt the most was how other fellow sisters didn't bother to help but instead joined the men and ridiculed the lady. As a human being I should be allowed to wear what i want, however I want and wherever I want! Most ladies have been visually undressed by men despite what you are wearing, whether long or short, tight or loose they will still do it.


Ladies, understand that abuse isn't only physical, there is also emotional. Once a man raises his hand to hit you, LEAVE and never look back. If he thought about it then surely he is capable of doing it again, so don't stay up until it's too late. Once he gives you the first sign of abuse, exit because you deserve much better than that. You deserve a man that will treat you like the Queen that you are not somebody who will make you their punching bag! Never rely on a man, rather work so hard so that you don't have to hear these words coming from a man,"You would not be here if it weren't for me."


One last thing, women stop being jealous when you see other fellow sisters flourishing. Stop gossiping and spreading rumours about one another. Do you know how beautiful it would be when each one of us is motivating each other to do great?You don't need drama in your life but what you need is shopping!


Stay gorgeous my fellow mothers and sisters.


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      dashingscorpio 4 weeks ago

      “a lady was walking to go catch a combie(taxi) and men started undressing her because she wasn't dressed "appropriately" and what hurt the most was how other fellow sisters didn't bother to help but instead joined the men and ridiculed the lady.

      As a human being I should be allowed to wear what i want, however I want and wherever I want!”

      There are actually three things going on here with the above scenario and statement.

      1. Men have always sexualized women and there is nothing anyone can do to control what someone thinks about you.

      The only solution is to stop giving a damn about what they think then you’re free.

      2. Traditional (women) have always felt threatened by progressive women especially those who dressed provocatively or saw themselves as being equal to men with regard to sexual behavior. Whereas a man who sleeps around with lots of women is a hero to other men who long to know his “secret”; (women) will badmouth any woman who sleeps around.

      There is and never will be any real “sisterhood” .

      The reality is those women don’t want these women around their men! They don’t even want these women drawing their man’s attention with how they dress.

      If (women) didn’t attack other women then it wouldn’t be any “double standard”.

      However “traditional women” feel “progressive women” are ruining things for regarding courtship. If they resist having sex these other women give their man the option to have sex with them and this is why these women dislike those women.

      Last but not least the statement about being able to do, wear, or whatever is fine.

      Nevertheless (knowing) how the world works one has to ask: “Is this the (smart) thing to do?”

      Theoretically I should be able to go to bed leaving my front door wide open without anyone coming into my home and stealing anything from me. I should be able to leave my car keys in the ignition of my car and wake up to find my car is still sitting in the driveway. I should be able to walk down an alley counting my money without getting beat up and robbed. A woman should be able to walk the streets naked…etc

      Once again you have to ask: {Are any of these the “smart thing” to do?}

      “While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions” – Stephen R. Covey

      Do you think women give men the power to abuse them?

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us (chooses) who we spend our time with.

      Each of us has our own boundaries and "deal breakers".

      Over the years I have come to realize there is no such thing as an (universal) "deal breaker". Whatever you or I could come up with there is someone who is living under those conditions who has no plans of ever leaving! No one is "stuck" with anyone.

      Anyone who is unhappy in a relationship and (chooses) to stay in that relationship is (choosing) to be unhappy.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

      If someone is abusing you they don't think you're special!

      One man's opinion!