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Should Men Do House Chores?
In The Beginning, God Created Housewives.........
The stigma in the not so long past has been that women should stay at home, have babies, cook, clean and take care of her husband. While the man goes out to work and brings in the bread. Now if we fast forward to the 21st century we can see that women have surpassed such mediocre status and are now even bringing in more bread to the table than a lot of men. Women of today hold very high prestigious post in their careers, they head some of the biggest and richest corporations of today and find themselves wrapped in the business world that sometimes they do not even find time to actually raise or have a family. No longer is house chores done by these well educated and career driven ladies, but their spouses many times have ended up ensuring that house chores gets done as having a maid is out of the question.
What Every Woman Expects Their Man To Be
They say men have life a bit harder than females, maybe or maybe not, you be the judge of that. But men do have it a bit rougher when it comes on to what he must do around the house and the many complaints about not doing household chores. Men generally are not interested in any form of house chores. If it becomes a must that he partakes in it he will. But if there is an alternative i can bet my last penny he will find it. So apart from being an electrician, plumber, groundsman, good lover, tall dark and handsome, have a good job, buying you jewelry and the other five thousand things on the list of what women expect men to be, he also has to do additional house chores to supplement those other skills which he may be good at or lacking thereof. They say women are from Venus, but many women think men are from krypton.
Doing The Dishes
Men doing the dishes
The kitchen in the home has always been the second room for the alpha female which resides in that home. Whether it be cooking up a meal and serving it or cleaning up after everyone has wolfed down on the meal served. At one point you could have safely said that a woman's place was in the kitchen. Going around the round about and make a 360 degree, we are at the same point but with many changes. I can safely say that women of today visit the kitchen much less, whether it be cooking or cleaning up the dishes. The executive comes home to a delicious nice warm meal that was created by her husband, eats while on her tablet preparing a chart for the office tomorrow and gets up and places the dishes in the sink, have a bath and jumps into some "don't touch me tonight" pajamas and enters never-land. The man now has to clean up a dirty kitchen. The fact is that not many men handle cooking quite well even though somehow top chefs worldwide are male dominated. There are men who do not know the spatula from the spoon and have no idea how an egg is fried. Men were never made to reside in the kitchen and thus not many develop those special kitchen skills needed. Do you believe that it is OK for the male to be glued to the dishes while his spouse eats, drinks and sleeps?
Doing The Laundry
Oh my, we have to love the great minds that think of innovations that are built today to allow us to do a lot of things much easier. Can you imagine life without washing machines? Neither can I. We would all be scrubbing like hell. Can you imagine a woman washing for a family of five without a machine? that my friend is a form of capital punishment! Well, lets not stray too far from the topic at hand. The laundry as i know it has always been a next award bestowed upon the female, and for darn good reasons too! Let me explain. Women can exercise a lot of patience when doing a lot of things, we can testify of this by following them shopping (Men, don't follow them shopping!!!....you will regret it). When a woman does the laundry, she is quite articulate about it and does it like an actual job. She takes care in the type of materials being washed, which clothes should be washed warm or cold, which should not wash rigorously and so on. She seeks out the most cost efficient yet best smelling fabric softener, she ensures that all clothes are separate by color (black vs colored clothes, or colors that may run) and type and wash them accordingly. At the end of her washing cycle you get great looking, clean and nice smelling clothes.
Now, this whole process is not compelling to a male who is doing the laundry. As far as he sees it clothes are all dirty and needs washing! In fact, men who are color blind will see bright colors in black and white like Rex here. Men are grab and put launders. They grab clothes and put it into the washing machine, all clothes are set on one cycle from start to finish and that cycle is QUICK! The end result is a spoiled jacket that says dry clean only and a blue shirt that was once white. Men should stay far away from doing the laundry as possible.
Ewww, what is that left in the toilet? Anything left in the toilet other than nice clean water would eventually become quite toxic. The cleaning of the bathroom as been a very touchy point when it comes on to women who demand that their "honies" help out with house chores. The bathroom is one place that needs careful and proper cleaning. The shower or bath must be cleaned extensively and even though men are more suited for rubbing and scrubbing, they would prefer washing a thousand dishes than cleaning the bathroom. When you clean the bath you have to clean every single component which makes up the bathroom, face basin, toilet, basin counter tops, etc. The different components of the toilet must be cleaned and the bath or shower. Quite a nice bit of work, even though we humans have developed many toxic chemicals to help us with cleaning while destroying the air we breath. Men dislike cleaning the bathroom and will definitely not spend as much time scrubbing and drubbing as the female would to get a shoe shine look. The end result is that when men clean the bath you might end up still having that ewww feeling.
Do you believe men should really do house chores?
Dusting and Sweeping
Do men know what dusting is? That is a question you need to ask a male before you try handing him a piece of cloth to clean any piece of furniture. If its not a Mustang, Cadillac or Camaro i doubt you will be getting him to put his all in having that spot on shine. Yes, men will dust, but not even a tornado will run through those pieces of furniture as fast as he will. Men don't see this as something exciting, its not like starting the biggest 4th of July backyard fireworks or installing a plane engine on a sled. There is absolutely no adrenaline rush of any sort in cleaning. Men are not good dusters and may never will be.
Say What? a cool new toy that generates heat and steam. Don't ever give a man an iron and a ironing board. He may find a different use for that iron such as turning it into a mini steam engine. A man would prefer to have every single clothes labeled wash and wear more than spend a minute standing over a ironing board. Ironing is just another way for power company to send you a higher bill if you ask me. Men hate ironing even though they love to look sharp in that new blue shirt. ironing takes a good chunk out of your time especially if you are ironing clothes for the entire week. Those number of clothes can really add up! Men are bad ironers and you will never see them around an ironing board unless their backs are trapped against the wall.
Why Not Hire a Maid?
Well, the first reason is that many times the family cannot afford a maid. The second reason is simply trust and jealousy. Many women will not have a maid simply because they do not want another women so privately close to their spouses. Cleaning, washing his clothes and getting him beers! He may just end up mistakenly call her honey at one point! The third reason is that many people like their privacy and would prefer to clean their own homes that to have a stranger come by finding the missing underwear deep in the sofa.
Why Men do Bad at Housework
Why do you believe that most men do badly when it comes on to taking up homely chores. Do you believe that it stems from a direct lack of interest or is it a sham? Do you think men deliberately do bad at home chores so that their spouse will kick them out when home chores are to be done in order to get it done properly. Whatever the reasons be, i can say that house chores and men are as similar as water and oil. Good luck Cleaning Ladies.