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Changing yourself to appeal to the opposite sex; Good idea or bad?
OPINION| I read an article not too long ago about how to appeal and be more desirable to a woman if you are a man. It was an interesting article from a woman's point of view. I will admit that many of the things mentioned made a lot of sense. However, I had a few disagreements with some of the points made in the article. Since reading this article, I've been thinking a lot about how people attempt to change themselves in order to appeal to a wider group of people. Is this a good idea? The following are strictly my own opinions, so there is no right or wrong. Please continue reading.
Society and the physical.
In today's world the majority of attractiveness is based on the physical. I guess that's how it should be in a way, since the physical is the first thing we see in the opposite sex. That is unless you meet someone via Internet. At any rate, a person who has a nice body and keeps in shape is considered more desirable to most. This applies to both men and women. There is nothing wrong with this way of thinking, but this way of thinking has lead to many people being emotionally hurt. Many people these days don't spend enough time getting to know a person behind what they can see with their own two eyes. Because of this, people have fallen victim to people who live double lives and cheat constantly. It's no doubt that the majority of us desire someone physically attractive, but we should also take the time to study and know who we are getting involved with. Remember that no one looks the same forever, looks change.
Should we change ourselves for others?
Now back to the subject at hand; should a person change themselves in order to appeal to the opposite sex? Well I personally believe there are different degrees of change to consider. For example, if a man is having problems in his life like falling on hard times, then changing that aspect of his life would be good for appealing to women. However, that's something that he not only should do to attract women, but he should do it for himself mainly. I believe that society has given people in general the wrong idea about love, relationships, and finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. Society has given people the impression that if you do what is socially accepted, you have a better chance of attracting people. Even if what is socially accepted isn't who you really are. That's bad advice in my opinion, and we as a people need to do the opposite.
I personally feel that we should be ourselves no matter the situation. Don't change yourself to cater to a woman you may like. Same thing goes for women who may be interested in a guy. Whatever hobbies you like or things you like to participate in, do that. If you are satisfied with how you look whether or not it's socially appealing or accepted, continue to look that way. If you want to change anything about yourself, make sure you are doing it for YOURSELF, and not others. Life is always better when you can be who you truly are. There are many different people in this world, and there is always going to be someone out there who will like you regardless. If you are a guy who has long hair and like it, don't cut it to attract women. If you enjoy playing video games and people consider you a "nerd", continue doing it. Who knows, there may be someone of the opposite sex who likes video games as much as you.The same thing applies to women also. Be who you are. Real people recognize real people, and guys like a woman who is real and true to herself. I know that I do.
I won't deny that change can definitely be a good thing when it comes to life and relationships. Change is one of those things is inevitable in life. Change is a natural progression into our lives. While I do agree with some of the points in the article I mentioned earlier, it's important for to us to be true to who we are. A person has to love and be comfortable within themselves before you can truly love someone else. Thanks for reading.