What Is Love?
Love is fun. When you first start dating life is great. There are dates every weekend, gifts every other day, and so much love that it's almost gross. Girls are jealous that they don't have a love like yours. Boys pat their friend on the back and welcome you with open arms. Your relationship is new and hot. You guys are constantly being told you're adorable together, and everyone is commenting #goals on your new Instagram post. Maybe this relationship thing isn't so bad after all? If you truly enjoy your time with this new guy that's all that matters! Be with someone who makes you forget about your phone and social media. Be with someone who makes you feel like the rest of the world could crumble, but you would survive it as long as you're together.
Love is beautiful. You're four months in. The relationship isn't new anymore. A few people still make comments on your compatibility, but the majority have moved onto a newer, hotter couple. Sure, there is less attention on your relationship, but you're still in the honeymoon phase. There is hardly any arguing, and if there is it usually ends in a tickle fight. You look at your man with love and appreciation. You talk on the phone every night. Sometimes even if you saw each other that day! You feel like you can't get enough of your partner. You crave just being with them! Being in love is an incredible feeling.
Love is putting someone else's needs before your own. Nine months. You are now extremely comfortable with each other. You've probably experienced your most awkward moment, your best moment, and your worst moment. And, let's be real you no longer have a fear of eating, sleeping, or even farting in front of them. They have become the person in your life that you trust the most. You have most likely had your first real fight. It wasn't just over what actor was in that movie you just finished, but this time it was the real stuff. You know exactly what sets your man off. You've had that dreaded conversation of "What is your goal of this relationship?". The ones who just wanted to mess around probably don't make it past nine months. Both you and your boyfriend have probably had thoughts of "is this what I want? Is he/she what I want?". Those thoughts and arguments are scary, but it takes those doubts to show you how great, or not so great, you have it! Small arguments can be aggravating, but getting through them together can be rewarding.
Love is a freaking roller coaster. You've been together for just over a year. Congratulations! Not a lot of "flings" make it to a year. You just got through what some would call "the honeymoon phase" of a relationship. Not everything is all cupcakes and rainbows anymore. This a real relationship that you need to work for if you want it to last. You cannot just sit back and enjoy the show. You've been through hell and back together. This person has become your ride or die. You still get butterflies when you think of your first kiss, but sometimes they just have that effect on you anymore. Maybe you've contemplated breaking up, or maybe you haven't. You think that you shouldn't be together, but then they prove to you over and over that, that is exactly where you belong. Your emotions swing violently, and your man may not understand why. You don't even always understand why. But he promises that he will love you through all of it.
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Me and My Man
Love is everything. Finally, we are in that 3+ year stage which is where I, the author, am at in my relationship. We have been together for three years and seven months, today actually. It definitely hasn't been easy, but I love my man with all my heart. We started dating when I was a sophomore and he was a junior in high school. He actually asked me to prom before we started dating, but that, obviously, lead to something bigger. Being with him has taught me so many new things. I have met so many new people that are huge in my life through him. I go to college two hours away from him, so that can be challenging at times, but we get through it! He is also a farmer with crazy work hours. That on its own has its challenges! We love each other so much that these things never even occurred to us as a challenge. Just something in our lives that we adjusted to. Sure, our relationship has changed over the years, but it is still amazing. I love him, and I always will!