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7 Signs Your Partner Is Not Actually Your Soulmate

Updated on March 22, 2018

A soulmate is that person with whom you connect at an entirely different level. Your soulmate need not necessarily be your life partner, but can also be your friend, sibling, mentor, colleague, teacher, or your compatible partner. You both have a very natural and deep affinity with each other.
It is easy to recognize your soulmate if you pay close heed to your behavior as well as the ‘soulmate’s’. Feeling spiritual connection with him/her, having déjà vu moments or flashbacks with respect to the person, having tastes, life stories, flaws, habits and traits similar to him/her, experiencing the ‘SYNC’ with him/her, sensing the presence of telepathy, and experiencing greater shifts in life right from your first meet with him/her, experiencing the “flow” while together are some of the signs that the person with whom you connect on such a level, is your Soulmate.
Experiencing these things once in a while with a few numbers of people or even with your partner do not make them your soulmate. Here is a list which hints that your partner is actually NOT your soulmate.

1. Lack of generosity

When the partner does not give a relationship as much as he/she receives in the relationship we can say that the person isn’t generous. The partner gives away a limited amount of love, respect, consideration, help, attention, honesty and dedication from his pocket. The partner does not give with both the hands but is always welcoming to receive things. There is hardly any UNCONDITIONAL HELP from the end of the person at the times of need.

2. Does not complete your sentences

Empathy is not to be mistaken as an alternative to sympathy. Empathy is a level even higher than sympathy. Empathy in simple words means walking in other person’s shoes or feeling the exact same feeling another feels. It is a major factor in completing the partner’s sentences. Logically, this is because you feel the exact feeling your partner feels at that moment, enabling you to complete each other’s sentences.

3. The feeling of not being on the same page

You notice that the manner of thinking of the partner and yourself are different. There are differences in approaching a certain thing or opinions although you respect the differences and maintain harmony. However, you do NOT fail to notice the differences in the thinking patterns and behavior of yourself and your partner. The differences in the opinions are prominent in the relationship.

4. You don’t feel the challenge to your potential

It is necessary that you fulfill your psychological needs along with your physical ones. If not done so, chances are that it may take a toll on you. All one needs to do is challenge the potential to actualize these needs. This job is done best by your soulmate. Soulmates have the potential to develop you as the best possible version of yourself. Your partner is not your soulmate if he/she fails to challenge your inner potential in every possible dimension i.e. mental, physical, emotional, spiritual as well as sexual.

5. There is no major shift in your life since the arrival of him/her

A soulmate’s mere arrival in your life or presence has a tremendous impact on your life. Suddenly, you start understanding things better, all the important things fall into their right places, small things start making sense to you and overall you are in a much better position in your life than before. You start seeking the meaningfulness in your life.

6. You have to push the person always for various reasons

You have to either nag behind the partner to get things done or make tremendous efforts to make things work. You feel as if the partner does not quite understand your opinion, standpoints, convictions, and efforts. This also hints at the lack of telepathy or the” sixth sense” that exists between the true soulmates. It means that one need not necessarily talk out their desires or needs. You understand your partner so well that their body language is more than enough to convey their message to you.

7. Lack of sensitivity

Now don’t confuse this sensitivity with “over-powered-by-emotions” trait. Sensitivity means considering your partner in anything and everything.The relationship revolves more or less around your partner instead of you both being at the heart of the relationship.In turn, the partner behaves in a careless and selfish manner. If your partner fails to understand your opinions, efforts or views and behaves like he/she is his own boss, then you might want to check how considering a soulmate is.

8. You don’t click

“Did you just read my mind?” or “that was exactly what I was going to say!!” moments hardly happen in your case. You struggle to be understood or for getting your place in the person’s life. You feel left out. You have had second thoughts about your relationship with your partner at least once. You feel like you deserve better and you also experience the feeling of being trapped. Your ”wavelengths” don’t match”, and you think that you are better off on your own.

© 2018 William MarkStone


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      dashingscorpio 3 weeks ago

      Number 3 and 8 pretty much says it all.

      #3 There is no amount of "work" or communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does not want what you want.

      #8 Compatibility trumps compromise.

      Like attracts like and opposites divorce attorneys!

      If something doesn't (feel right to you) it's probably not right for (you).

      As for #4 and #5 (You are responsible for your own happiness)

      "Soulmates have the potential to {develop you} as the best possible version of yourself." - Not really. Development is up to you. Life is a (personal) journey!

      The goal is to find someone who (already is) what we want in a mate! Most people want to be loved/accepted for who (they) are.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde