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Signs of Puppy Love and When Settling for Love

Updated on October 14, 2018
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Puppy love and true love

She often touches his hands and his face. He does the exact same, and they show of their suction kisses. The couple don't have true love, and happiness.

True love comes with true happiness.

It was a sudden crush and from then on their little behaviors led to their formed relationship.

Can you be married and still be in the puppy love stage?

The answer: YES

You can still be in the puppy love stage when first married. I know a couple who behaves this way and I have seen all the signs.

  • Is that real love or puppy love?

She is like a lovesick school girl, only learning now about someone admirable and caring. The negative in this kind of love is noticed but usually ignored. I have noticed he is blinded by her actions. He has not fully taken notice of her behavior, only sees her personality everything else is not seen clearly.

Puppy love is noticed when two people feel the need to know everything about each other. A couple can fall into the puppy love stage very fast and this happens as you grow up. Puppy love is often experienced during the school years.

This develops as a strong love but it is not a strong love. In real love you meet your match. You tend to compromise and gradually miss the one you want in your life. When truly in love you realize the actual meaning of real love.

Puppy love is far to relaxed and taken in from all sides of your life and does not last a long time. I am saying that, puppy love is like when you have a fling with someone. A one night stand you had before meeting the one you truly love. The younger generation experience puppy love. True love is experienced when you are mature in thought.

The differences are enormous about puppy love and true love.

When young you experience all kinds of love. You don't know the actual meaning of true love. Often puppy love is mistaken for true love by youngsters. Most of the young generation don't understand about puppy love. A type of love that is more involved with infatuation. All these mixed emotions go through your mind and still you are confused about love.

She is slowly changing him and he has no reins to pull onto. A person with less choices and more undecided matters to think about in his life. If you settle for less than you deserve you should not do it. There won't be any true happiness in your relationship. He did what he felt was right to get her to marry him he got her pregnant to convince her to compromise.

  • When do you know that you have not settled for love in your relationship?

You love your partner no matter what their bad habits and you when you have accepted their imperfections. You are settling for your partner when you constantly tell friends and family members about your partner. Your views are rationalized.

Only you know what you deserve.

When you fall in love with someone the early stages are often the best. In time you see the real stuff. You don't see what you really need to see when you are in love. The irritable behaviors start to grow over the years. In this case, he settled for what he knew had to be.

Every relationship has its ups and downs love is just part of what you do and of how you connect to another to make your lives feel at ease. Puppy love is for youngsters and in this modern time more youngsters are realizing the differences between true love and puppy love.

All kinds of love and all the differences are open to all minds. It is who you choose to love for the rest of your life, that's what matters most in one's life.

  • Have you experienced puppy love?

  • You must have at some point in your life.

Love is great and always shows you new experiences and opens your path to new people. It is easy to fall in love but to fall out of love is a painful time for anyone with a heart. The heart tells you more than you need to know about love. All such difference remains with you through all times.

Love makes you full

Love and be loved

Certain things are meant to be and you can't change the way it all comes to you. At one time during my school days, I had a certain kind of excitement every time I saw one specific boy. I felt my heart racing very fast each time I saw him and felt very nervous.

I never did get a chance to speak to this person. We eventually went our separate paths. It was puppy love for me at that time and was happy to have had that experience. You see the person and fail to speak to them and also feel awkward around them.

She recently found the man of her dreams. They are dating for a few months and she feels they are still in the puppy love stage. Puppy love stage is just like infatuation so they are blindfolded by infatuation.

When he always talks good about his partner that is true love. At times when he feels the need to brag about you to his friends and family. If he sacrificed for her then he is the one keeper for sure.

There is no puppy love when you mean everything to him there just true love. He wants to be with you and only you during his spare time. He appreciates you and shows you that too.

  • Do you think you are lowering your standards when it comes to love?

Any single person can lower their standards in choosing a lifetime partner over a lifetime of loneliness. He had many women in his life all were for a short period. In his mind a woman to marry and to have his child is all that mattered. Each time he met a woman they dated for a short while, and then on he went on to the next girl.

The relationships did not show any love just what he wanted from each woman that in his head seemed all right. He is a traditional man with no modern thoughts, only the traditional way of life is mostly part of his life. His ex had other interests she planned to go further and study in United States of America.

He did not like the idea of her decision and ended their relationship within six months. It was not long after that break up did he meet another woman ten years younger than he. I was quite surprised by the announcement of their engagement so soon after that break up it got me thinking of why he rushed into marriage.

He settled for another who he knew needed the attention. She was introduced to him by his friend and very quickly they got stuck into wedding plans. He settled for her knowing his choices were falling away.

In such a small community to find someone to have a lasting relationship with had left him with not much of a choice. His partner is from another city. He is thirty four and she twenty four and their relationship is quite a problematic one.

What is love

Love is not always for you

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you

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      Kapil 

      3 years ago

      laura h - Looks like a Maine Coon. These guys don't reach full size 'til their a several years old! It's not unommcon for them to weigh 20+ lbs and have size 8 feets. For the most part, if this breed was any more laid back, they'd be dead. Love shot #2 — he looks so regal looking over his kingdom with the clouds around his head!

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you for sharing such thoughts

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you kindly

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Puppy love was a nice experience just as true love is, too.

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      jtrader 

      4 years ago

      Thought provoking as always. I don't like when men or women try to use different methods of manipulation to keep a partner- as you mentioned with the man who got the woman pregnant intentionally.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan thank you for the vote up, I appreciate all comments from you

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Nell Rose thank you for visiting my hubs your thoughts are always helpful.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello grand old lady so kind of you to come by here thank you very much.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      There is definitely a difference between puppy love and true love.

      As time passes true love becomes more mental than physical.

      Interesting and nice analysis!

      Thanks and voted up!

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      Nell Rose 

      4 years ago from England

      Hi, I think we all had a puppy love back in school, in fact my very first record I bought was called, wait for it....puppy love! lol!

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      4 years ago from Philippines

      You describe puppy love very well. Sometimes, however, though this is rare, it does happen that puppy love evolves and a couple grows together and fall into mature love that takes in the good and the bad with commitment and love and stay together for the long haul. These are exceptions, but they exist. I personally think it's better, as you say, to try a lot of love experiences until you know what you want and you feel ready for it. But every love story is different, although the parallels are there.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Denise Handlon thank you for UP/I have a good day

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      swilliams thank you for the vote up your presence at my hubs is greatly appreciated.

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      swilliams 

      4 years ago

      Very beautiful article and I loved the pictures which reflected the article perfectly. I will agree that love can be painful if not handled with care and wisdom. Great Article! Voted up!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Denise Handlon thank you kindly for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness thank you for stopping by always a pleasure to read your comments

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora you are so kind to often stop by at my hubs i appreciate your time and effort thank you

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      Denise Handlon 

      4 years ago from North Carolina

      This is an interesting topic, DDE. It is difficult to tell young teens in love for the first time that it is 'puppy love' b/c their emotions are so strongly felt. Some would compare the two between an immature love vs a mature love. Thanks for your work on this subject. UP/I

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      4 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Devika, another thought-provoking write. Puppy love or that first journey into insanity can be a very potent emotion indeed. When you're in the midst of it, you think it's a matter of life and death, only when the real thing comes along do we look back and think, What was that all about? :) Where there's real and lasting love, although you know all the imperfections you make the decision to embrace it all.

      Nice work.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, I don't think I have ever read so may details about puppy love. You sure do study these things. Thank you for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi word55 ''Unfortunately, some people don't know how to love due to something, someone or experiences of their past. There should be a school or sessions for adults or people engaged on How To Love Each Other Before Marriage :-).'' So true. Your meaningful comment shows a great attitude about love. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you for commenting

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      torrilynn 

      4 years ago

      I really did like reading this hub. I found it to be beautiful. Overall, nice indeed.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      A decade plus and a child later -- on some days I just settle for our puppy love. Happy happies!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I always enjoy your reflections, DDE. Well done as always.

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      Al Wordlaw 

      4 years ago from Chicago

      Hi DDE, love is a beautiful thing to be in. It's worth it to hold out and get to know a person before letting it go too far. We must not allow the relationship to go in the bedroom unless there's a mutual understanding and admiration of each other mentally and physically. It is as simple as that. You don't get to know each other while sleeping with each other. You should get well acquainted enough to love each other and accept sac other for who they are before hitting the sack. Many people having sex before marriage never happen because someone (male or female) is played on and the intent to get married is played down, down and out. There is a saying, "why pay for the cow when you can have the milk for free." Unless people stop allowing themselves to be fooled by the so called mate, there will continue to be pain and hurt at the break up process. Unfortunately, some people don't know how to love due to something, someone or experiences of their past. There should be a school or sessions for adults or people engaged on How To Love Each Other Before Marriage :-).

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