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Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

Updated on October 26, 2014
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Feel chained to your love? It may be time to hit the road!
Feel chained to your love? It may be time to hit the road!

Why Is It So Hard To Tell If You Are In an Unhealthy Relationship?

It may be obvious to people on the outside of your relationship that your situation is unhealthy or you are involved in an unhealthy relationship and they tell you all the time that this is the case...but you are questioning whether the relationship is actually worth it and if it is really all that bad.

It happens to everyone at one point in their life. Everyone. The reasons that it is so hard to see the truth is because you are involved in the relationship and have strong feelings that can blind you from the truth. Feelings of love that make you think 'what if?' or feelings from the past that prove to your brain that the relationship was good at one time so it may be in the future.

But the truth is - if you are in an unhealthy relationship you have two options. You can admit the problems and fix them or you can leave the relationship for something healthier.

The one thing you can't do is stay in the relationship without doing anything because this will guarantee that nothing will change and you will still be wondering months or even years from now.

Two Major Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

There are some obvious signs and some not-so-obvious signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship.

Obvious sign of an unhealthy relationship:

You are being abused in any way whether it be physically or mentally.

No one should be making you feel bad, scared, or upset - especially not a lover in a relationship.

If you think they are going to get better without getting help or getting out you are wrong and to be honest do you really want to spend more time in an unhappy relationship like that waiting around for your partner to get better?

If someone is mistreating you and they get away with it over and over again then why would they stop? There is no chance of them seeing the light of day because there is no reason to.

If you are in an abusive relationship you should first take a step back and look at the relationship as an outsider without thinking about what they were or could be but instead of what they are at this very moment.

Once you realize that keep looking at it and acting on it from an outside perspective no matter how much your heart tells you otherwise. It's essential to you being happy and healthy.

Get help, get support, and if you have to get out.

Not so obvious sign of an unhealthy relationship:

You are treated well by your partner but you are not happy in the relationship

This simply means that this is an unhealthy relationship for you the way it is going right now.

You can't quite figure out why but there is something out there that would make you happier whether it be a change in your partner, a change in your thinking, or a change of relationship.You spend a lot of time unhappy in the relationship and it spills out to the rest of your life and outlook on life.

Basically, there is something that is out of place making this relationship not live up to the way it could be.

You are the only one who knows why you are unhappy. Somewhere inside of you the answer lies. It won't get fixed until you admit it and deal with it but remember this - if you think that it's okay to stay in a relationship when you are unhappy, you may be unhappy years from now as well - which isn't necessary or fun.

You are meant to be happy - so go out and find it!


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