- Gender and Relationships
Signs That "He" Is Married
Is He Married?
If you want to find out if a man is married - ask him! If you are too shy, maybe you could send him a note?
If you already asked him and you still aren't certain if he is married perhaps you should go ahead and move on. If you must give this man the benefit of the doubt for some reason, here are some sure fire ways to tell if your date is already married to someone else.
If he is always coming up with excuses for why your relationship isn't progressing beyond clandestine meetings, you might have concerns that he could be married. If you ask and he begins to stutter or quickly changes the subject, he might be married.
The Obvious Signs
There are a few obvious signs that men are married. A wedding ring or a tan line where a wedding ring usually is can be a clue. This may be easy to cover though with tanning beds and there are men who wear jewelry. If they wear a signature ring on that finger - it could be because he only wears that one when he takes the wedding ring off.
Married men have difficulty explaining what they do with their time when they aren't with you. If he fumbles or corrects himself or calls you "Becky" all the time and your name is Rhoda), he might be married.
If he only meets or calls you in the middle of the night - he might be married.
If he only calls you while he is in the car - he might be married.
If he always leaves the room when he takes a phone call - he might be married.
If "something came up" happens a lot - he might be married.
If he doesn't give you his number and insists on just calling you - he might be married.
If your new boyfriend picks you up in a different car sometimes - it might be because he is driving his wife's car.
Is He Your Under Cover Lover?
The Not So Obvious Signs
Married men do not want you to know where they work. Unless they work with you. They will never invite you to meet them for lunch at their office or invite you to work parties. They already know they will be dumping you when the party is over so they don't want you to be able to call them crying at their job and embarrass them. Married men try to give you as little information as possible so that you can't harm them with it later.
If he says you can never come to his place because he has a "room mate." Great cover - the room mate story. If he blames the roomie for lots of his screw ups - it might be his wife.
Married men will talk about their friends and family but you will never meet them. He will always have reason that you didn't get to meet them while in town or why he has to go home for the holidays alone.
Married men won't be as likely to use a credit card. They will always pay in cash so they don't leave a paper trail.
Married men are always about separating business and pleasure and will tell you their job is boring. They won't want you to worry your pretty little head about big business. They also won't want the office staff gossipping about the "boss's" newest conquest so calling him on the job might get tongues wagging.
If your new boyfriend says he works for the CIA or he is an "Undercover Agent" of some sort - he just might be married.
What to do?
First of all, it would be confusing because when you get right down to it...are you cheating with him or is he cheating with you? What about that wife of his? How dare she sleep with YOUR boyfriend?
If you think your boyfriend could be married and you get the feeling that he is lying to you about something - there probably is some sort of problem that he obviously can't explain easily. If he just keeps making excuses and telling little lies you might want to toss that fish back into the sea and cast your net a little wider.
"Someone who thinks the whole world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something." ~Eric Hoffer