Signs that you are being Romance scammed online.
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We must commence to the SCSSA Organization (Schemers, Con Artists, Scammers Stoppers Association) I just made that up! LOL
On a serious note, it is continuing more and more. Despite all the stories, warnings and all the knowledge, we have, many are still being taken in by scams. It really, bothers me that these people feel they can and are continuing to try to take advantage of others kindness. Even, looking for some people's weaknesses and vulnerability for longing to be in a relationship with someone, to have that human connection that someone cares and is listening to them.
Another factor, at times, that a person can be a taken advantage of is due to their own greed. About 3 years ago, a distance family member, was taken in by a scam. She received one of the famous emails about I'll send you a check for thousands if you send me one for hundreds, well, she did and while trying to cash the check it bounced. She went to court over the issue. Far as I know, she didn't get into as much trouble as she could have, but still it landed her some court time as they realized she was conned too.
The Romance scams, these seem to be the easiest, but takes more time for the con artist. Not that much, but they will take a few weeks or so, maybe a couple months on you, to try to get over on you. The con-artist post fake profiles on many dating sites, along with: blackplanet, yahoo, facebook and myspace (there probably are a lot of other sites too, like MSN, I'm just not personally familiar with them).
Many speak of the African or it is often referred to as the Nigerian scam or Lagos, Nigeria Scam. There are also other countries involved, I have heard of Russia as well, and also believe the Ukraine (I received a message the other day from an African Male, that "was in" Ukraine). To know their exact location, we may not know for sure, but know that they are scamming! As I mentioned in other hubs, I have been on the sites, just to see what goes on there. Recently, blackplanet (bp), has been high in the "Nigerian" crime wave. About 85% of the time that I am online, I am either receiving an IM (Instant Message) or have received a "note," but technically, an email from someone that wants "to know me" and "to be in a serious relationship" they thought I could be that one for them!" HMMM, that is when the suspension starts.
Many start off acting very friendly, they will say hey what is your yahoo ID, and asked to be added there so that they can continue conversing with you. If you stay on the current site or even after you decide to go to the other site, that is when they will constantly want to ask you questions about yourself. They are constantly, wanting to know things about you, you're family do you live alone, what is your status single or married. Then they will flirt and tell you how beautiful you are etc. Many will explain what they are "looking for in a long-term relationship with someone that wants to be serious." If viewing their personal message page, or page titled "all about me," that is what you will usually find there as many of the scammers are not original, also, you will see familiar sayings, phrases and wording that they put together that does not seem to be a proper English phrases/wording or it is not used in the proper context.
One, from BlackPlanet, has posted this personal message, that I thought you would like to see, of what things they might add on there to try and get you interested: (notice the major misspellings and some improper word choices or tenses)
"HI EVERYBODY,I LOVE THIS PLANET.NON LIKE IT.THE BEST PLACE OF INHABITATION IN THE WIDE WORLD.I GREET YOU ALL.AMEN.
YES! I AM JEFF FROM THE UNITED KINGDOM,I AM HERE TO SHARE THOUGHTS AND GET INVOLVE IN MAKIN THINGS HAPPEN IN OUR CHANGING WORLD.I ALWAYS SAY"BBELIEVE IN GOD N BELIEVE IN HIS ABILITIES DEPOSIT IN UR HUMAN SPIRIT 4 ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE TO HIM DAT BELIEVETH".
I WANNA BE FREE N LIVE WITHOUT WARNING,I NEED A REAL DATE.SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP THAT WILL LEAD TO MARRIAGE.I AM NOT KIDDIN.
WHO WANT TO B MY FRIEND? U ARE WELLCOME TO MY WORLD.I HAVE LOT TO TELL U ABOUT WOT I GOT IN THE INSIDE.
U NEED SOME ONE TO SHARE D BURDEN WIT?I AM AT UR SERVICE....
ROME THEY SAY WAS NOT BUILT IN A DAY.LOVE WISDOM? COME UNTO ME N LEARN THE WISDOM OF THE WISE,THOSE WHO HEARED MY VOICE YEARS AGO, ARE NOW THE WISER 4 IT ...................."
On his page, this one has pictures, that are model photos obviously, of a white male, with blonde hair and blue eyes. To try and entice or romance you, he also, would try to send gifts/notes to you as well. This person, since I was doing research, I added to yahoo, just to see what would happen, after being added on yahoo, he was stating the whole thing of being home (Africa) with an ill relative, that he is now residing in the UK, but there because someone was ill. Also, not only, did he even post a real picture,(he was African) well if the actual photo was not of him, it was of someone he knew or another stolen photo. He even changed the id name too and was trying to chat with me by using the words and terms baby, sweetie, sweetheart, as if there was an actual relationship not even caring that he used/had fake photos of a white male on the BlackPlanet page, but revealing himself on the yahoo site (he never made mention of it).
There was another person, the first one I heard from was on Myspace. This guy, was from Lagos, Nigeria, he admitted that. He claimed to have been of mix heritage and had lived in England as well. This one was nice and friendly. He had 3 pictures on his page. Two of the pictures was of the same guy, but one was different. The different picture was either of the real person or it was again, someone he knew or had "stolen" this person's picture. The odd picture was of a guy with medium brown complexion and tattoos on his arms, muscular built, low hair cut, and shades, looked to be an attractive guy in his 20's to 30's, an Idris Elba type. While the pictures of the other guy was a male, that was black,he had braids in one picture with a jersey on and NO TATTOOS, lighter in complexion, maybe more of a Terrence Howard color, with features similar to Shemar Moore, the other pic, had him with his hair "loose" over his head, his physique was not really muscular, but more solid of a guy. After chatting a few times, he emailed me this message below:
"Never did I imagine that I would ever meet you, especially not in the
form of a friend. I never imagine that i will ever fall for you
after what i have been through with a woman...But God gave me a heart
to move on and i met you...
God has got his own reasons for us
to meet and come this far. But I hope our love will flourish beyond
what it is right now. Distance maybe just a part of the reason why
sometimes we think we can't handle this whole relationship, but I am
sure our love for each other is way far stronger then any oceans can
I am writing you this letter to tell you that my
love for you is so real that I can't find any words to describe my
feelings for you. At the same time I would like to thank you for all
your patience while our relationship had to go through high waves and
hard rocks. My love for you has grown so strong that I can never
imagine a life without you now.
I will always be yours no matter
what the world turns out to be. My heart will always be yearning for your
love and care forever. I love you always.Catch up with me and never
imagine that my attitude towards you hates you...i am missing you too
REALLY?! Missing me? We have never met and never spoken by phone only a few harmless chats of how are you? What do you do for a living and how are things where you are at? Obviously, he also was raising a child, but was barely making any money. This guy was a genuine scammer! This one, was helping his "sick mother" too, but needed money and felt I could help him, he either wanted to send me things to sale like jewelry and things of that sort. He kept asking for my address so that he could send me items to sell over here to make the money. Only after a few short chats, I couldn't believe what this person was saying. Of course, I didn't continue with the chatting and I believe either he moved on to others, or maybe he was one of them caught in the ring, no more, has he said anything to anyone as I checked the page and person hasn't been around in almost a year.
The scams are continuing, they are spreading more and more. As I stated before, they are everywhere, everyday now, that I log onto blackplanet, I'm receiving a message from someone. I don't want to believe that everyone that chats with me is a scammer or tries to chat with me, but you have to be aware of the obvious!
1. The perfect picture --model or studio pic, one person took photos off gay website out of India, in the corner of picture I saw that was were the photo came from.
2. The perfect words--They always say you are so beautiful and want to know more and more and everything about you.
4. They are normally listed as being stateside or another country, besides actually being from Nigeria or now I've noticed there are people from Ghana, Ivorians that might also be apart of the scam.
5. They are also stating that they are older than the picture (one of the last scammers claimed to be 39 yrs old, but the picture appeared to be of someone that was 25-30. You may feel that isn't many years but there was no sign that this person was that old, although it is a young age still).
6. They might have a local/stateside number, but be cautious. They are also numbers, the one mentioned in 5., he gave me a state side number, to "prove he was from here/lived here," but the number was a cell phone and it didn't originate from the state that he claimed to live in.
This person, mentioned above, also had tattoos, but he couldn't tell me what they said, "as it hurt too much" because he thought of his last bad relationship because they were related to her with her name on them, but they were designs as I could tell that much.
So know, that they will say anything, do anything to receive money or attention. Now, honestly, I do not believe that everyone is like this, but when they have a story behind it of someone being ill or someone has died I would think twice! Another, I felt was trying the scam of saying that he had a friend whom died, he was posting some pictures at the beach that was supposed to be of him and the friend that "passed away" that same day!
Again, not feeling or at all believing everyone is like this, just there are a few to watch. I feel that there are many countries (Ukraine, Russia, United Kingdom), you even have to be aware of local people.
Thank you for reading this story, please follow my updates on the next story that I've added for updates 2011-2013(present) I'm continuing to find what I can to share with you, possibly putting myself at a little bit of a risk, but we all need to be aware and know what is going on. Thank you again and please keep sharing here and at the part two of this listed in the link below: