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Four Simple Ways to Strengthen a Marriage

Updated on July 14, 2014

Marriage is supposed to last, or at least that’s the goal when you say your vows. Yet, the truth is, marriage is not always a piece of cake and can be downright tough sometimes. Making it work and making it last takes love and commitment as well as consistent effort.

Here are four simple ways that strengthen marriages. These tips will help to keep your love strong and can make growing old together something to look forward to.

1. Strengthen Marriage by Keeping Lines of Communication Open

The experts will all tell you, communication is the key. You have to keep the lines of communication open. This involves honest but respectful verbal expression, considerate listening and processing.

Talking about your feelings sooner than later tends to be much better than bottling them up on the inside and letting those feelings fester. Over time, without open communication, one can become irritable or carry resentment toward the other person without even having a clear explanation.

Disagreements come and arguments may happen. It is an inevitable part of marriage. However, a good way to avoid these situations is to make it a common practice to listen first and think it out before talking. Try to develop an understanding of the other person's perspective before quickly defending yourself or making a statement you may later regret.

Then just have frequent normal talks. Two good places to enjoy a good conversation is over a nice meal or at night during pillow talk.

2. Learn to Speak Each Other's Love Language

Letting your significant other know just how much you love and appreciate him/her is one of the most critical things you can do in a marriage. However, the manner in which a person needs to be showered with love may be different for each person. In what way does your spouse receive the message of love best?

According to author, Gary D. Chapman, there are 5 different love languages that an individual may have.

  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch


3. Spruce Up Date Nights to Help Strengthen Marriages

Have fun and be spontaneous.

Always keep in mind those favorite spots you have for date night, but also plan to go to new places together. Do something that you have never done before as a couple. It's all about having genuine fun together and enjoying one another's company. Together, the two of you will constantly create new memories, inside jokes and will be less prone to boredom.

Some creative date night ideas may include a trying new restaurant, taking an art class together, or perhaps dance lessons. Then, instead of the common dinner and a movie, you could try a live theater or a concert. Be sure to throw in a few Man dates every now and then too, such as sporting events, auto shows etc.

Taking short vacations every so often is also a good idea when schedules allow. Get away from the familiar for a while. Go site seeing, plan fun activities and then come back to a nice hotel or a remote cottage.

Some inexpensive or even free ideas for date night could include:

  • Picnic at the Beach
  • Romantic Dinner at Home
  • Game Night
  • Romantic Stroll Downtown

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4. Enjoy a Little Me-Time

Perhaps this is one of the simplest way to strengthen marriages. Everyone could use some alone time to themselves. It's important. For some, this may mean just sitting outside on the porch or making the most use of a man’s cave or lady’s den. For others it could be physically getting away from the house to enjoy a little leisure.

Giving yourself me-time is allowing yourself the opportunity to rejuvenate, spend quiet moments connecting with God, gain personal contentment through past time hobbies or simply catch up on lost rest. It’s essential for each person in the relationship yo have this time.

Whether it's only a few minutes that you need or a couple of hours, spending a reasonable time alone can help strengthen you as a couple and helps to create an atmosphere of peace.

When each person is rejuvenated (physically and spiritually), free of tension and full of love, together, you'll be ready to take on life as a team.

© 2014 Crissylite


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      Seiboi Misao 3 years ago from India

      Nice.. communication is the key.