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How Do You Know When It's Time To Sleep With Him?

Updated on March 31, 2013

Check The Guy Out

If the guy you're thinking about sleeping with spends all of your money when he has his own, and doesn't even think twice about it, that's a sign that you might want to investigate him a little further before you get in to deep. You might start to wonder if he's selfish among other things.So what do you use as a gauge to decide if you should sleep with anyone ever?

Do you have to believe in his philosophy on life, or doesn't it matter? Maybe you choose based on good old chemistry. It seems to me that a guy should be checked out on a variety of levels. You pick. What's important to you? Does it bother you if a guy uses coupons for each and everything he does with you? Do you like to be reminded to eat your left overs? Does he wear inappropriate clothing no matter where you go? Does he tell you you shoulldn't drink or smoke, or dance, or go out? It's about how much you can take. If, you want to take any crap at all.

When you stand up and realize that you're in control of what goes on between the two of you, you'll be able to direct things in a more pleasing manner for yourself. It's about knowing that you have a choice as to whom you wish to spend your time with everyday. If you feel trapped in a relationship find a way to get out. No matter what it takes do what's right for you. It's not right to do something just because someone else thinks it's a good idea. It's only the right thing to do if you think it's the right person, and the right time.

A friend of mine and I were out one night pouring over our lost loves and she confided in me that the one guy she really liked had a totally different view on life than she did, and he didn't even look like someone she'd go out with. She says though that she fell into bed with him within a week of their meeting.She went on to say, that she kept going back because the sex was so good. It ended when he got back with his old girlfriend. She knew she shouldn't have slept with him so fast because now he might still be in her life, and not just think of her as a great lay.

It's hard to decide how much of life with a guy you have to experience before you sleep with him. If you look at the odds, you can see that the more you see him in action the more you'll either like him or loath him. You don't want to find something horrible about him after you've slept with him. How embarrassing. How humiliating.

So to avoid looking back and regretting what you've done, spend as much time as possible with your potential lover doing a variety of things.before taking the plunge. Horseback riding. Bowling. Tennis. Golf. Nights on the town. Anything and everything you can think of. Get a sense of who he really is. This is something you can decipher from spending good quality time with him.


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    • rainpurplewine profile image


      5 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      This is always a question people have to face when dating,but your right it's best to get to know someone before you sleep with them. Sad to say once it's done,It can't be undone. Nice hub.

    • rajan jolly profile image

      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Very right Lisa. One has to be absolutely sure or else not crib about the mishap. Great suggestions.

    • lisasuniquevoice profile imageAUTHOR

      Lisa Brown 

      5 years ago from Michigan


      You're right, we have to make ourselves happy with our choices. Being a good shopper for a sleeping partner is a very important part of life. It can make or break you. Just hope we all know when we've got an onion in our basket.


    • dashingscorpio profile image


      5 years ago

      Your statement: "It's only the right thing to do if you think it's the right person, and the right time." is absolutely correct! (voted up/useful)

      If you do what (you) want to do then you are in control of your life. You are responsible for your own happiness. It's important to remember each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead...Whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion? No! You learn to become a better "shopper". One man's opinion! :-)


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