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Six Truths about Men Empowering Women
Question: What could be more empowering to a football coach than watching his son kick a field goal in a winning game?
Answer: Watching his daughter kick that field goal.
On October 20, 2015 Coach Greg Farnetti, head coach of the West Blocton Tigers in Alabama played his final home game. He does not have a son; but he trained his daughter, Jodi. it was his proudest moment, he said, when Jodi scored a field goal in that game.
The Farnetti story proves the basic truth that women are people too. It is an empowerment model for all male-female relationships.
Following are six truths about men men empowering women in social relationships. They are validated by practitioners of equal opportunity empowerment.
Jodi Farnetii empowered by her dad
It takes empowered men to empower women.
Show me the men who recognize their personal strength, understand their individual purpose, and value the benefits of co-existing with women; these are the empowered men who cherish the opportunity to empower women. They know they deserve the best, and they want the best to stand beside them. Therefore, they support their women's development into strong, smart individuals.
Their strategy includes but is not limited to:
- Accepting the women’s prerogative to be or not be satisfied with where they are (spiritually, socially et cetera);
- Encouraging progress toward excellence in their area(s) of choice;
- Giving them voice in decisions that affect the common good;
- Appreciating the mutual empowerment generated by the relationship.
Male empowerment is measured by the way men treat women.
Empowered men lift women over literal and figurative swamps.
Men can put on temporary acts to impress associates and strangers; but the real spirit of empowerment comes out in their interaction with the people at home—mothers and sisters, wives and children later.
It is at home that men develop virtues like respect, kindness, patience, gentleness and putting other people first. It is at home that they learn to practice the love which is selfless and lust-free. It is a common belief that the way they treat their mothers provides a clue as to how they will treat their wives. They also show what they’ve learned when it is time to nurture their daughters. Having learned the basics, they are ready to practice the sacred principles:
- Treat older women as you would your mother;
- Treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters;
- Take care of any widow who has no one else to care for her (The Bible).
Men empower themselves when they empower women.
Empowering her to be an asset
"What's the most important thing men can do for themselves? The answer seems clear to me: work for the empowerment of women." - William Petrocelli
This quote is from Petrocelli’s 2014 speech to the League of Women’s Voters in California' He added, “The empowerment of women is crucial to solving a lot of seemingly unrelated problems that are as important to men as they are to women,” and he illustrated his point with the following two references.
- Governments tried to solve the problem of overpopulation but the solution lay in the empowerment of women to take control of their bodies.
- The presence of women in some situations inhibits violent outbursts from men. So according to Petrocelli, rather than exclude women from harsher situations (even like the 1992 Rodney King incident during the Los Angeles riot), involving capable women could produce better results.
Men like Petrocelli, self-styled feminist, acknowledge that women's problem-solving skills and other capabilities are more helpful than they are credited to be.
Empowered men respond appropriately to the beauty of women.
Which of these women's features do men compliment the most?
Empowered men appreciate the physical beauty of women, but they are attracted to their inner beauty as well.
Their compliments are not always about color, shape and size, although they notice these features. They also compliment talent, virtues and performance, and encourage the women to nurture them into excellence.
- Real men admire beautiful lips; but they are also charmed by the self-awareness, the wisdom and the aspirations coming forth from those lips.
- They like long, straight legs; but they are also attracted by the confidence and the purposefulness exuding from the stride of those legs.
- They appreciate glamor; but they see past the outward display, to the significance of the women’s self-care and self-value.
Without down playing the value of physical beauty though it alters with time, empowered men pay more attention to beauty of character, which is a life-time asset.
Empowered men refuse to exploit women.
Sex trafficking may be seen as the ultimate, but it is only one form of exploitation; there are other cruel situations that empowered men disdain. Among them are the following.
- Pornography: exploiting the woman’s image is the same as exploiting her;
- Mental abuse: name calling, intimidating, displaying excessive jealousy, or any other form of manipulation in an attempt to gain control over the woman;
- Physical abuse: hitting, shoving, kicking, choking, twisting arms, or any other physical action which is dehumanizing;
- Sexual abuse: “Sexual assault is not a matter of women being attacked,” writes Suna Senman. “It is a matter of men attacking women. . . Men have both the power and resources to stop that violence.”
Empowered men think of women as divine creations put on this earth to mingle their beauty and inspiration with the dynamism of males. Empowered men protect and cherish their female counterparts.
Empowered men recognize women as different but equal.
She's empowered to be a co-star not a side-kick.
Petrocelli, William: Huffington Post, Five Ways Men Benefit from Women's Empowerment (6/27/2014).
Ritter, Jaime: WishTV.com, Homecoming queen scores field goal at dad’s last game as coach (20/10/2015).
Senman, Suna: Huffington Post, Empowered Men Empower Women (9/01/2013).
Stetzer: Ed, Church Leaders, Real Men Treat Women with Respect (Copyright 2014 by ChurchLeaders.com)
"Women know many things that men do not know, men know many things that women do not know. Men and women together know everything that is known." – Irene Parlby
The most complete strategy combines the intuition of women with the logic of men. The gender difference is not simply that women are intuitive and men are logical.
The real difference is that women arrive at their logic and men at their intuition by different round about, complicated processes. (See adjacent link).
Both have intuition and logic, but the process is simpler and the perspective is clearer when they work together as equals.
Therefore, in the closest relationships, empowered men see the women as co-stars, not side-kicks. Men and women become a part of each other, struggle together, win together—the result of mutual empowerment.
© 2015 Dora Weithers