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Six simple tricks to make your wife feel loved!

Updated on March 21, 2014

‘Do you know what your wife expects from you?’ You are ready with an answer as you feel that you are a perfect husband. ‘She wants my love, protection and support’, you are right on target when you list out the needs of your wife. So you assume that you are a good and loving husband! But contrast to your expectations your wife has many negative things to say about you.

  • He does not show his love.
  • He does not appreciate me.
  • He does not listen to me.
  • He throws away the money he earns.

These are some of the complaint list she has. She seems to have valid reasons to feel emotionally deprived with you, doesn’t she? You never understand that your wife feels unloved when you overlook her emotional needs.

Why does your wife feel unloved when in reality you love her deeply? It is because you do not know the simple tricks to make her feel loved by you.

I cannot digest the fact that you make your married life very ordinary and routine by overlooking the sentimental angle of marriage. It is true that you have added responsibilities after marriage and your energy level plunges into the rock bottom as you struggle to fulfill your commitments.

So you make your relationship with your wife very casual and unthinking. You made your wife feel your intense love by playing the perfect lover during your dating days, didn’t you? But after marriage your love lacks passion and you feel that your wife should understand your love without being fussy about it.

Well, are you practical in your expectations about your wife? You are not! You want your wife to care for you, make your life comfortable and also respect you. When your wife does not fulfill your inner cravings you feel like a lonely lost boy, don’t you?

So you want your wife to fulfill your manly expectations, but coolly overlook her womanly needs. You feel deprived when your wife does not cater to your emotions and your wife also feels the same when you do not care for her needs.

Your wife has six simple needs!

  • She wants you to listen to her.
  • She wants you to display your love.
  • She wants you to shield her when anyone degrades her.
  • She wants you to be careful about the money you earn.
  • She wants you to appreciate her.
  • She wants her birthdays and wedding anniversary to be made special by you.

1. She wants you to listen to her!

Your wife cares for you and your children very much as family is the only world she knows. She has many doubts and apprehensions about the future of the family and wants to share her fears with you in the hope that you would listen to her. But you feel bored by her elaborate details and only half listen to her with your eyes shifting away from her.

You do not react to her fears and remain emotionally wooden which makes her feel hurt that you do not care for her feelings. Very wrong on your part, isn’t it? The simple trick would have been to turn towards her and listen intensely to what she is saying. When you do that she feels completely loved by you.

2. She wants you to demonstrate your love!

When you lock your love inside you and expect your wife to guess it, she feels insecure in your relationship. She craves for some open display of love from you. You showed your intense love for her during your love days, but immediately shift to being matter-of-fact in your relationship after marriage.

The simple trick to demonstrate your love is so easy! Holding her hands, giving her a warm hug and holding her close to you makes her feel completely loved by you. When you utter those magic words ‘I love you’ time and again she never outgrows it. Why do you overlook it when its reward of happiness can be massive and immense?

3. She wants you to protect her!

What do you do when your family behaves callously towards her? Do you just watch it and do not support her? She feels lost and depressed that you do not feel protective towards her. The simple trick to make her feel protected is to spring to her support and make it known to your family that you would not tolerate when they demean her unnecessarily. Now you are a hero in her eyes!

4. She wants you to be careful with your hard earned money!

As a woman your wife is always focused on the financial security of the family. She is worried when you throw money around and spend recklessly. You do not think of the financial future of the family as you are concentrated on the momentary happiness you give your children when you spend lavishly for them.

The simple trick would be to take her into confidence and discuss money matters with her. When you thrash out the financial differences you have with her and listen to her advice she feels comfortable and fearless about the finance future of the family.

5. She wants you to appreciate her!

Do you keep your mouth shut about her hard work and relentless contribution for the family? She feels unloved and uncared! All she wants is a word of appreciation from you to make her feel that her work is noticed and also appreciated by you.

The simple trick would be to appreciate her when she cooks your favorite dish, when she is caring, when she slogs for the family, when she looks ravishing and for all the love she gives to make your life comfortable.

6. She wants you to remember her birthdays and wedding anniversary.

Are you a husband who feels that wedding anniversary or the birthday of your wife as just another day? A grave mistake! The simple trick is to remember her birthdays and wedding anniversary as a special day. When you buy her gifts and shower her with love she feels in cloud nine.

Are these tricks very difficult? It is very simple than adjusting in your work place, isn’t it? But while you concentrate on being very polite and friendly in your work place, you fail to notice the inner cravings of your wife who longs to feel loved and cherished by you.

© 2014 mathira


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    • mathira profile imageAUTHOR


      4 years ago from chennai

      AliciaC, thank you.

    • mathira profile imageAUTHOR


      4 years ago from chennai

      Eddy, thank you and I am happy you liked it.

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      These are great suggestions, mathira. I like them all!

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      4 years ago from Wales

      Another brilliant hub Mathira; you have endless wisdom and how lucky we are to have the chance to share. Here's wishing you and yours a great weekend and keep these hubs coming.


    • mathira profile imageAUTHOR


      4 years ago from chennai

      Thank you billy, have a nice day!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Excellent suggestions my friend. It is so important not to allow a marriage to grow stale.


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