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Small Wedding Details Not to Overlook
Wedding season is in full swing now, and if you've decided to plan your wedding for the spring or summer months, you've probably got mostly everything planned out already. If you're prepping the last bit of details, there's several things that are important to remember to plan. Here's a handy list of things you shouldn't forget when you're planning your wedding.
Once your guests start to arrive near your venue, it's helpful to have a few signs pointing out the last few twists and turns, especially if your venue is located a little off the beaten path. Helping your guests figure out where to go ensures no one gets lost driving around too long looking for the church or park that was "just a half mile back."
Place cards are a small detail that, if you're having assigned seating at your reception, are indispensible. Make up a table where the cards can be laid out alphabetically so guests can easily find their names, and in turn, easily find the table they've been assigned. If you don't have assigned seating, this still may help as the guests can put their names at a table and if they happen to not be there when dinner is served, the caterers can confer to their list of guests' meal orders. Having everything mapped out like this makes the whole event move a little more smoothly.
A Place for Kids
If any of your guests are bringing kids, it might be helpful to see if you venue has a designated room where they can hang out and play together. Weddings have a tendency to be not much fun for kids, and despite how cute they look dancing in pint-sized formalwear, many of them would be happier playing a board game somewhere else. See if there are accommodations—the parents might appreciate a break from the youngsters.
The Cake Table
You've probably planned out every little bit of the cake, from the cake flavor and fillings to the icing and decoration. But what you might have forgotten is a cake stand and what to do with the cake table. If you want to have the cake on center display at your reception, an elevated cake stand will lift it up just a little to bring it into view for your guests. You can also decorate the cake table in the same theme as the rest of your wedding for continuity.
A lot of people know to pick out table linens that reflect the colors and theme of their event, but the chairs often go unchanged. Make the room look a little more special with chair cover rentals that add an air of opulence to the tables.
If there's songs you absolutely must dance to or ones you'll recoil in disgust at if they're played, make sure your DJ or band knows this. You should also have a plan for what they should tell guests if a guest requests a song. If there's wiggle room in your playlist, great, but again, if there are some songs you just don't want to hear at a wedding (perhaps the all-too popular "Shout!" or "YMCA"), make sure the DJ knows to nix those requests.
While it's traditional to have a few important people in your lives make speeches at the reception, some people love having the spotlight and will try to make a speech regardless if they've been asked to. It's important to make sure that, if you don't want anyone besides the chosen few to speak, those holding the mic know that and don't hand it over to people not on the list. Unrequested speeches may include embarrassing stories, unflattering anecdotes, or worse, stories about the bride's or groom's past conquests. Not pretty during a wedding. Keep things under wraps by letting the people you want speaking know about your preferences.
Unfortunately, it seems that at every wedding, there's someone who gets a little too drunk. You can't ignore it, but what you do about it depends on a few things—how well you know the person, how much they've had to drink, how obnoxious they are behaving. Talk to them quietly and privately about their behavior and get them to stop drinking. If they don't, you can call them a cab or take their keys. If someone is so gone that they can't be reasoned with, you may want to ask someone to call a cab for them so they get home safely or, if you're in a hotel, get them to book a room so they can sleep it off. If someone is being excessively obnoxious and not just dancing a little more brazen than normally, feel free to ask them to leave. It's disrespectful for guests to get all-out drunk at your wedding, so if you're worried about this happening, you can always put a limit on how many drinks guests can indulge in while at your reception, or hand out drink tickets for two drinks and make anything past that a cash bar. People are less likely to overindulge when they have to foot the bill.