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So Anna Paquin swings both ways...

Updated on March 31, 2011

...its more fun than going to the dentist.

The media wants the world to know that Anna Paquin is bisexual because afterall, who you have sex with is much more important than what you accomplish in life.
The media wants the world to know that Anna Paquin is bisexual because afterall, who you have sex with is much more important than what you accomplish in life.

Having little access to the news lately, I popped onto a news site today to see what they are lying about now. There, under entertainment was the glorious headline: Anna Paquin: “I am bisexual.”

I have four preliminary questions:

1. Who the heck is Anna Paquin?

2. Who cares who she is “doing what” with?

3. Do these "Hollywoodies" think that their sexuality is the number one aspect that defines who they are?

4. Why do the media keep shoving it in our face as if it’s important?

What would be wrong with a headline like: Anna Paquin, “I love acting,” or, “I love to salsa.”? She could still swing whichever way she wants. I am tired of hearing about who is doing what with whom, and I am tired of being subliminally told that sexual preference is a priority in defining who one is. (I am also tired of all the trashy, low-life gossip magazines shoved in your face at the check-out counter of the grocery store.) A person can be many things i.e., a doctor, a dentist, a scientist, a teacher, a parent; these are noble, noteworthy accomplishments that define the depth of your character and determination to be of some value to society, to give back to others in this life. Who you sleep with has nothing to do with any of these things.

“Hey look at me, I have sex with men and women,” is not a noble, or noteworthy accomplishment of value to society. Neither is, “Hey, I’m gay,” “Hey, I’m a lesbian, or “Hey, I am heterosexual,” for that matter. Famous heterosexuals are just as guilty. I am not bashing one’s sexuality, I am bashing those who think its important for everyone else to know all about it.

The majority of people have the ability to strip off their clothes and get it on with someone. It’s not a new discovery nor is it rocket science. Who you get it on with doesn’t make you any more special or valuable than anyone else… (unless Tiger Woods is paying you to keep quiet.) It is not the top defining factor of one’s life. Yet, everyday someone, somewhere seeks to glorify them self in the media by wearing their sexuality and related habits on their shirt-sleeve like a badge of honor. This is not honorable, there is nothing to honor.

You are not important because of who you have sex with, you are important because of the way you touch other people’s lives (and no, that does not include touching them with what’s in your pants). Get a life.

Famous people are in a terrific position in life to inspire and motivate people to be the best they can be, to do something great in life; and some do. But who gets the attention of all the media? It is not the one's doing something noble, it is the one's with their pants down and they wonder why no one's watching as much or reading as much. It's all fluff and no substance.


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    Catherine Tally 5 years ago from Los Angeles

    Hi Harlan,

    I couldn't agree more! There used to be a thing called discretion, and people once valued self-respect too. Frankly I have no interest in the lives of celebrities unless the news pertains to something worthwhile like charitable donations or random acts of kindness. I will try to remember this actress as the talented young girl who won best supporting actress for The Piano.

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    Catherine Tally 5 years ago from Los Angeles

    Hi Harlan,

    I couldn't agree more! Like you, I am sick and tired of reading about the sexual preferences of others, and I couldn't care less about celebrities unless I read about charitable giving or notable acts of kindness. Our media has stooped to the lowest level, and those who facilitate it are equally at fault. My best to you.


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    Harlan Colt 7 years ago from the Rocky Mountains


    I thought I would have gotten a few more comments myself, if even just the more conservative crowd.

    It seems like everytime some little Hollywood floozy gets drunk and flashes her butt out a limo, or springs out of the closet - its front page news. Really, I could care less. I'd rather read about how they helped some cause or school or something, that is something I can respect. It seems, however, every time Hollywood has an orgie, the press has an orgie too. There is just so much more to a person than the crack of their rump, but you'd never know it picking up a magazine or turning on the TV these days.

    Sorry if I'm crass tonight, I'm pretty tired from fixing fence all day.

    - Thanks for the comments.

    - Harlan

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    saddlerider1 7 years ago

    Hey Harlan I'm surprised you have no comments to this terrific post,could be that our society's tolerance level is at an all time HIGH. It's a do whatever pleases you world we live in. Anything and everything is okay, try it you may like it attitude. I am going through this very attitude with my 16 yr old son. The very fiber of our society is being tarnished with it's okay to be cool, try it you make like it thinking. I am with you in your values Harlan, we may be called old thinkers but hey it was nice not to be bombarded with all the crap we have in our faces now. Morality is at an all time low. Hope to read more from you. This post said it like it is, good work.