Sociopaths Lie. Always. With one Exception.
Sociopaths Lie. Always. WIth One Exception.
When a sociopath says… well, anything – they’re lying. Always. With one exception. It’s because of one trait sociopaths and normal humans share: We both reveal our character. We can’t help it.
What someone is all about comes out, guaranteed from the smile we have, the changing emotional reactions in our eyes to the things around us, in comments, spontaneous remarks or actions we take. – Or in the case of a sociopath the truth comes out in bizarre half spoken phrases interjected almost haphazardly and seemingly out of context.
Normal people might show who they are when someone standing near us drops something, who bends down to pick it up for them? When a mother and a baby and a stroller are at a doorway at the same time we are, who opens the door for them? When we hear someone is ill, who says, “Oh, poor Becky, I hope she’s better soon… I wonder if she needs anything?” – And who then takes her juice and soup? --- Who tears up at commercials showing little puppies being abused? Children going hungry? At sad endings? At happy endings?! – I’ll tell you who: Those with empathy. This is what sociopaths recognize in us, but do not feel. There is nothing that makes them cry. There is no one they feel empathy for. They do know how to spot this trait however, because they need it to exist at high levels in the prey they need for survival.
Believe it When the Sociopath says: “You Only Think You Love Me.”
Sociopaths tell us the truth about themselves in bizarre glimpses. Statements so far-fetched and out of the range of normal we can't comprehend the meaning and so brush it aside, tuck it under the rug with all the other oddities we’re collecting during our time with them.
Saying, “You only think you love me.” Sounds to us like we need to do more to convince them we care. And – we do more. We yearn for them to know how devoted we are. So in this instance telling the exceptional truth gets them more from us. Behind that exceptional truth is another meaning. We feel it in the shiver that goes through us as we respond, “Of, course I love you!!” and vow to prove it. Their real meaning is: “I’m not who you think I am.” And their black hearts smolder at pride in giving us a quick look behind their fake sugar-sweet exterior. They roil with delight at our ignorance. They think they are amazing and pat their own crooked backs.
They might say: "You're the best thing that ever happened to me." And indeed we are. Whatever we’re chosen for, whatever we’re a gateway to, is a part of their deluded goals from their next meal to a new leather jacket to the latest iPhone. - In that sense we are the best thing that ever happened to them.
They may want us for green cards to a new country more than anything they ever wanted. They may want to live in the neighborhood we live in more than anything they’ve ever craved. They may want the car we drive more than anything they’ve ever coveted.
While we feel petted and loved and give over more of ourselves at the declaration we think, “Wow! He (or she) really does love me!!” - because let’s face it, we’ve been wondering - they’re rubbing their slimy little paws ‘n claws together, muttering under their fetid breath, in glee: “I did it!!! I DID IT!!! Stupid, ugly, dumb-ass human! I showed myself and they can’t even see meeeeee!!!”
Sociopaths Talk Alike - and Look Alike.
Sociopaths target the prey they go after for specific amazing and honorable traits, such as: Loyalty. Compassion. Empathy. Honesty. Devotion. Faith. Commitment. Kind heartedness. Optimism. Valuing relationships. Believing in “Love for Life.” Longing for a real relationship. Having experienced loss of some kind. Holding hope for a better life. Being extroverted. Being open-minded. Being care-free. Believing in second chances. Generosity. A supportive nature. For being giving. For being loving.
These nasty, parasitic, succubus, malevolent demons need our wonderful traits in order to survive. They need us to stand by their side, defend them, feed them, prop up and propel their dirty lives forward. They recognize a juicy morsel of a great human being when they smell it.
Sociopaths Look for Unhealed Loss, Illness, or Tragedy.
Sociopaths can sense our goodness and our vulnerability. In addition to looking for a strong streak of empathy in their victims they need someone who relates to loss. Someone who has gone through grieving for a loved one, or experienced their own or a loved one’s illness or tragedy. They look for those who have empathy on a large scope for groups of people such as refugees, the hungry, even abused animals. And they look for deep empathy on a micro level within someone’s personal life. They mine the depths of unresolved grief and the shadowy or vibrant memories of loss.
Sociopaths test our empathy by telling their own tale of woe. Many times it’s a story of their abuse they (did not) suffered as a child, or some grief or longing related to their mother – who they dearly love. They seem so human. They are lying. There are only those rare and strange exceptions during which they tell the truth, and the jury is out as to whether it’s intentional or accidental, or for anything other than their own amusement.
Side Step Sociopaths.
Learn to recognize these creeps from a mile away. Study the characteristics of a sociopath. Reframe encounters with a sociopath through their minds rather than with our human way of thinking and caring – this flips our comprehension of them to a new understanding. They are monsters. They show us. Take what they say in that odd moment that doesn’t seem to fit into place as their one exceptional truth. Interpret it from the mind of a sociopath. When they recognize a human who knows what they are – they stay away.
Put up a no tolerance for lies and manipulation zone around our gorgeous selves and hold our heads up high!!! Embrace our lives.
Put our compassion, care, loyalty and goodness around ourselves.