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Some People Teach You How To Be, Some People Teach You How Not To Be
One of the greatest lessons I think I've ever been given about life is that some people teach you how to be, and some people teach you how not to be. Being so little at the time of hearing it, it all just sounded like the teacher off of Charlie Brown, womp womp womp womp...but getting older, actually realizing its placement and relativity to the outside world, and the inside world, too; things get a little clearer.
I've met a very broad spectrum of people in my days, and classifying them under anything other than exactly that, seems impossible once knowing it. And it's actually the most helpful thing I've ever done as far as classification goes. Instead of asking myself over and over again why someone was brought into my life, why things happened the way they did, why things ultimately had to be this way, and never having a real answer, I instead have this.
There aren't any what ifs, there aren't any 20 million questions, it's just simply that. They were either brought into my life to teach me the type of person I never wanted to be, or they were brought into my life to teach me ways I could be better. Sometimes, too, one person taught both lessons and could not be stuck into strictly just one category. For example, someone may have helped me through one of the hardest times of my life, but in different circumstances, completely and totally destroyed their ability to be put in the positive side of said classification, the positive side, obviously, being teaching me how to be.
Following these wise words through my life, it's enabled me to grow as an individual more indefinitely than a lot of those that have lived just as long as I have, and sometimes even longer. It makes every person, every individual you meet, a lesson. And with so many countless people in this world, imagine how much you could learn in a week, a day, even, as opposed to a lifetime of asking impossible questions you have no real way of answering. This truth is like a key to a language that's never been decoded before, and it really makes me wonder how many more there are out there that could expand and open one's own mind to the solidity of how things truly are.
Being sure isn't everything, of course, as there's always something that could be mistaken, something that has to be left entirely up to what ifs, but how amazing is it that there are things in this world that make the anxiety and lack of closure this world so very often provides, just that much less painful? I may not have all the answers, and I never will, but I can tell you that the next time you're laying in bed, head spinning, chest aching, wondering why, you can answer for yourself what seems like the most impossible to answer question with just one sentence.
Some people teach you how to be, some people teach you how not to be.
Which one will it be for you?
And if it's the latter, or the former, even, just take that lesson and move on. There's a whole world of people out there, and there are endless amounts of things for you to learn. Leap, and don't look back. No one wants to take the same test twice.
© 2018 Dariann Gretz