Sometimes Love Can Hurt
Being in Love and Being Happy
Being in love and having someone love you just as much is something a lot of us dream of having in our lives. Unfortunately, sometimes we don’t realize that being in love doesn’t mean you’re happy.
Love can be the one thing that drives us to work on a relationship, it can be blinding and cause us to miss red flags that are obvious to those around us. It can be the force that brings us to our knees and for it we will suffer because it can be addictive.
Sometimes we don’t realize the huge impact it has on our emotions. And with that hit of dopamine it gives us we seem to think the feeling of love means happiness and yes love makes you feel good but being in love doesn’t equal happiness. Check yourself every now and again and make sure you are truly happy.
Pulling Off Scabs
Love has the tendency to reopen wounds that have never properly healed. There is a painfully harsh reality when you have to deal with what was in order to appreciate what is.
If you have low self-esteem you better deal with it or risk ruining your relationship.
Do you have jealous tendencies? Read the sentence above and that is usually the cause.
I have said this time and time again, you have to love yourself to be able to love someone else, and I mean truly love someone else. You’re the one who matters most to yourself, do you not? That is how it should be.
Falling In and Out of Love
People fall in and out of love all the time and that’s one of the hardest truths to deal with.
Your partner could fall out of love with you tomorrow. Nothing is promised in this life except death. It’s a dead-end when only one person is in love, which is why letting go of someone you love is the only way you can both find happiness. Don’t stay in a dead-end relationship and waste your time, no matter how painful it might be. What’s more painful is having spent so much time and energy on someone who doesn’t want what you give.
You Give Too Much
Sometimes you can give too much of yourself and your love to someone who doesn’t truly want it. Or it can be that they are no longer invested in you.
It’s a difficult thing to come to terms with when people don’t always appreciate what you do for them, they don’t appreciate your presence until it’s too late.
Repeatedly giving them the benefit of the doubt can put it in their head that you aren’t to be valued. They will repeat this pattern again and again until you realize that finally you are done putting up with something that isn’t worth your precious time.
You're Not Over it
You might think you’re over something until reality smacks you in the face only to leave you a mascara-streaked mess on the floor.
Self-reflection may be needed when you think you’ve finally put something to rest. This is true in any situation but I’m talking about love here.
You need to go and stare at your reflection and have a deep conversation with yourself. Well, that’s how I usually do it but you do it whichever way helps you.
Don’t let fear stop you from falling in love. Don’t let past hurts stand in your way on the journey to love. If you do get hurt never question love, question the person instead. Love is pure, people are not.
Thanks for reading. Have a great day