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What Does it Mean to Be a True Friend

Updated on February 25, 2013


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What makes a great friend?

The promise of a true friend will not require apologies. True friends stand by your side when you need them.

Close friends will hand you the Kleenex when tears are flowing, but the really special friends will stay with you for a lifetime. A true friend will move heaven and earth to help you.

Building those special bonds can take years. While our friendships are the gifts we rely on, we need to choose our friends wisely.

Proverbs 17:17 says, "“A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.”

It has been said that friends are God’s apologies for your family; I’m finding that quite amusing since we choose our friends, but not our families. Friendships are God’s welcoming gift of survival.

I believe the importance of friendship is understated. Who you are, and who you can become, will be directly influenced by the friends we keep.

Pick a friend, and find a reflection of yourself. Build upon the idea, that to have a friend, you must first be a friend.

Encourage One Another

What does it take to be a great friend. Be the friend you want them to be and that friendship will blossom. Heed these instructions and be a friend to someone.

  1. Be sensitive to their feelings.
  2. Share your thoughts honestly and give encouragement openly.
  3. Be a sincere friend.
  4. Listen without giving advice.
  5. Hug with an unending compassion.
  6. Speak the truth in love, always.
  7. Don't give up on them when they're having a hard time.
  8. Laugh together.
  9. Don't share their secrets with others. What they tell you in secret is yours to keep, not to share.
  10. Don't envy them when things are going great in their life, instead, be their biggest cheerleader.

Loyal friendships require trust and trust is only attained over time. Words spoken with genuine encouragement will forever penetrate the soul of friendship.

With eyes wide opened, we must not give up on our friends.

Maintaining special friendships require an honest awareness with open communication and growth. Truth spoken in friendship can build up, or knock down, walls. While we may not always agree on things, we must still honor their voices.

Fear stands in our way from realizing what is truly important, so lift each other up in times of need and become the trusted friend. In time the friendship will be blessed beyond measure..

Loyality and Trust in Friendships

Loyal friendships require trust and trust is only attained over time. Nothing can accomplish anything greater than the strong bond of faithful relationships.

There's truth to the statement to have a good friend, you must be a good friend. This is a two-way street.

If one person in the relationship is giving more than taking, or one is taking more than giving, the relationship will suffer.

The soul of a friend cares deeply about the survival of the relationship. There will be times when one person may require more encouragement. When struggles in life wear them down, they may become more demanding, but the soul of a friend lifts and encourages them.

When the tides have turned, the true relationship will bloom.

When all is said and done, don’t take those friendships for granted, guard them with your heart, for one day, they will be gone.

Only in this lifetime, we lose what is most important to us.

Cherish the memories, for our time here is limited. Honor those days you spend together whether good or bad, as you share them in common.

Stroke the soul of a friend and your life will never be the same again.


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    • FaithDream profile image

      FaithDream 3 years ago from (Midwest) USA

      Thank you Jo. And thank you again for the lovely interview and recognizing my articles. I appreciate all that you do for our Hubs. You certainly make this a better place.

      Blessings to you, Faith Dream.

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 3 years ago

      I so enjoyed reading this! When I read "It has been said that friends are God’s apologies for your family". This was the first time I had laughed in days! :-) Thank you God, for the friends he has blessed me and my life with. He sure knows about the family, I didn't choose. Great reading.

      Shared and Up! :-) Blessings & Shalom

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      FaithDream 6 years ago from (Midwest) USA

      Oh thank you Eddy.. I appreciate that.

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      Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

      A truly beautiful hub.

      I look forward to reading many more of yours.


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      FaithDream 6 years ago from (Midwest) USA

      Thank you for your encouragement.

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      Christy Goff 6 years ago from Oklahoma

      Beautifully written, it makes a person stop and think.

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      tnderhrt23 6 years ago

      beautiful hub. and true so true.