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Sparkle My Pretty Flower! how abuse effects the whole family

Updated on March 22, 2012

To the young women in our family, (and you know who you are)

I am writing to you through this platform so maybe if we are lucky, all of us will be knowledgeable and empowered by this heartfelt letter, and I have more than one young lady in my family that might need me. I am so thankful for the young females in my family. And do you know how beautiful you girls are? Well? You are! When you guys were babies, I held you in my arms, and you were always laughing, at everything. It was so cute. And when you became teenagers, you were the first ones to give out a hug. Thank you for those hugs, and those smiles. You have always smiled, no matter what, and you always hugged us before you left, and you still do.


We are tied by blood, and I believe that the same strength and will power should run through your veins. Our FAMILY is a loving one, and even though you are grown, we can’t help to try to protect you. I am so proud of you, on your career, your new young men, you are young ladies that have their whole life ahead of you so please, remember how far you have come.


Now let’s get to the point dear ones, I have always been brutally honest.

There are different kinds of Men in this world. Some that hit, some that don’t. I have always been an optimist and I believe that MOST men don’t HIT women. Only Men without SOULS abuse women, any kind of abuse, physical or verbal and emotional. They are not real men. There it is, in black and white. My darlings, this is a plea….be strong. There is only one of him that hurts you, and you have all the members of your family that love you and that WON’T hurt you. Life should not be drama and pain. Please hear me, and embrace these words, let them sink into your heart, because when someone hurts you, we as a FAMILY will be in PAIN.


But when you became a young adult, you met someone that put bruises on you it is WRONG. How dare he? To afflict PAIN to someone that is so bright and special? Myself I cannot fathom this. Because it is so profound to my world of understanding, it will always be something I will never understand.

Please don’t go back to him. He may have part of your heart, but he doesn’t claim your soul.


Every young girl should sparkle with tiny silver prisms of light that came from happiness. I just want you to be happy and Carefree; you have your whole young fresh life’s ahead of you. And to my Young Ladies that is in my Family, I am here for you, if you need me, perhaps just for lunch or a cup of coffee. Sparkle my Flower, be happy.

From Me


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      Richard J ONeill 6 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

      Great to see the support you are giving to your Nieces here in this hub, Dee42.

      Lovely message and I understand all too well about men hitting women. I saw it firsthand with my stepdads and my mum. Horrible and I never understood why.

      If anyone were to hit my sister ... well he would certainly regret it. There is no need for it.

      The younger ones, tend to ignore us when we advise them but I'm sure it does leave an impression on them and shows later in life.

      Good job, Dee!!

      Beautiful and Voted Up!

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      Dee42 6 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks my dear, I think we are in a family. Sort-of. I'll back all my friends, men too. And thanks for your comment, my 2 nieces yep, that's who it was for, just kinda ignored me on this. But I just had to get it out there in case they need me.

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      girltalksshop 6 years ago

      I think it is great you are reaching out to those within your family who have apparently suffered through abuse. It is not something that should be shoved under the rug or hidden in shame. I, being a victim myself of such abuse, can relate to this hub. I know I am not a member of your family, but it is good to see that there are those in families willing to be there for those who are or have been misused. Voted up! There is a mix of courage and love written in this one!