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Whatever Happened To The Wedding Night
Has The Magic Of The Wedding Night Disappeared?
Note: All that is written below are the personal views of the author. There is no intent to insult or judge anyone.
For those who are not familiar with the Biblical story of the golden calf, it is a molten image fashioned by the Israelites (see Exodus Chapter 32).
Those who worshipped this idol, made from melted gold, gave the calf credit for delivering them out of Egypt. All suffered a terrible consequence. Three thousand people were killed, and God sent a plague on the people because of what they did.
Today we have a new golden calf.
It is the golden calf of immorality: fornication, pre-marital relations, adultery, hooking up, one night stands, prostitution and relationships, to name a few.
Someone very close to me cannot understand why her boy friend wants to go out with the guys and drink after work instead of spending an evening with her. After dating for six months he became nasty, and he said to her, "We are NOT married, I can do as I please!"
There you have it.
The man has what he wants, any time. It is okay for the woman to give her heart, body and soul to a man. After all, they are in a relationship (oh, how I despise that word!).
I do not eliminate women from this scenario. I know many who are online looking for a hook-up but do not want a commitment. They go to bars looking for a one-night stand. Men do the same thing. It's everywhere, on numerous television shows, especially comedies, and in the movies.
The word, 'fornication' is in the Bible. Fornication is having a relationship outside of marriage. The Bible clearly suggests to 'flee fornication' (I Corinthians 6:18).
Why? Not because God is judgmental, but because of the damage it can do. It has to do with consequences.
Ten seconds of the feeling of relief of a sensual need has broken many hearts, destroyed countless lives, resulted in unexpected pregnancies, abortions, and transmitted diseases. Today's youth are growing up thinking it is fine to fulfill their sensual desires and disregard the purpose behind it. For them, pre-marital relations has become a fun sport.
Also, children are no longer taught to be modest. They are wearing skimpy two-piece bathing suits at a very young age and clothes that have sewn writing on the back of their pants to bring eyes to a private part of them. And we wonder why there are predators?
The Bible talks about becoming one flesh. This is a wonderful gift which has been ordained by God - to physically proclaim your love for one another on your wedding night.
Hebrews 13:4 reads, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."
In this day and age the wedding night hardly exists, where a bride arises on the morning of her wedding day, anticipating being in the arms of her new husband and consummating their union after reciting their vows.
All this being said, I know there are exceptions. I have seen where men and women do survive a relationship, get married and continue to adore and love one another.
My only desire is to share how I feel about the immorality that has literally taken over the world.
I can sum it up in one word: SAD. Sad for those who are giving away their heart, body and soul for free when the results come with a price. Putting the cart before the horse - having a relationship right away, sometimes within hours after meeting a stranger for the first time...then...maybe then...falling in love? In my opinion, this is a risk.
Finally, when growing up, my grandmother, who raised me, warned me of the consequences of giving myself away before marriage. Every time I was tempted (and I was) her words came to mind. They were my red flag, and they gave me the strength to wait until my glorious wedding day.
It was a choice I will never regret.
One more thing; On our wedding night, my new husband said to me, "I am so glad you made me wait." We will be married forty years in May.
Blessings to all, Sparklea :)