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Speeches for Weddings

Updated on March 7, 2013

Write a speech that will blow their socks off

So you are part of the wedding party and you have to make a speech. What to say? It is very important to connect with audiences, when you are making a speech or a presentation. It should not be like a monologue and should be addressed to a receptive audience. The audience has come to listen to you and learn from you, but you should also be open and have the desire to learn from them. You have to make your audience listen to you; otherwise your speech has no effect at all.

Before you start your public address, familiarize yourself by mixing with the people who are going to be your audience. You can just walk around; greet the people warmly as they arrive at the venue. So, when you get up on the podium to deliver your speech they are not anonymous faces and even they recognize you as a familiar face they have just met.


The audience has come to listen to you, so they want your address to be successful, so that they can learn something from you. They are also looking for some entertainment and stimulation, and if they don't get it, they will show their disappointment. But if you succeed, they will show the deserved appreciation for your performance.

Just relax and this will help your audience to relax with you. If you mention your shortcomings to them right in the beginning, they consciously observe them, but if you don't mention anything, they might not even notice.

Connect With Your Audience

Connecting with your audience means establishing an eye contact with them. Just be natural, as much as it is possible for you. If it is a totally unknown audience, you have to make an extra effort, but get them to think with you, nod their heads with you, pause with you when you want to stress on a certain point. The tempo of your speech should be moderate, not fast at all. Use your speech consciously to bring home the points to your audience, and give them the time to assimilate your words, before you jump to the next point.

If there is a question and answer session after your address, try and be as calm as possible. There are sometimes a few aggressive characters in the audience, and if you start a debate, it does not get your point across, because often debates remain unresolved. You should never be aggressive at any point, because that defeats the purpose of your whole speech. Maybe you can talk to the few attendees who expressed disagreement after the speech, not in front of the whole audience.

Presentation is Key

In today's workplace presentation tools are necessary. If it is a presentation for your own colleagues, or people with whom you work in other establishments, the connection is even more important. Nevertheless avoid using insider stories, because there may be some in the group who are not familiar with them and will be left in the dark. You have to cater to each and every person in the audience, and connect with them individually. You must show an authentic interest in your audience, only then can you expect to get the same interest from them.


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      Groom Wedding Speech 

      8 years ago

      pretty nice article. i just started a blog about this, where i share my tips with guys that are interested about creating a nice speech. I know how it's like. I've been there just a few months ago and now i'm here to help you. You can visit me at

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      Wedding Groom Speech 

      8 years ago

      nice article

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      Maid of Honor Speeches 

      9 years ago

      Very nice Hub. Good advice about the difference between Maid of Honor and Best Man speeches, as these small differences are what will make yours stand out and be remembered.

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      How To Write A Speech 

      9 years ago

      Very nice hub. You are one of the few who mentions the importance of pleasing your audience. In my opinion this is one of the key factors when writing a successful speech. I have a blog on that topic I'd be glad if you wrote a guest post for me. Just contact me via the blog.

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      10 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

      And don't forgt to take your reading glasses if you need them! My hubby forgot his at our daughter's wedding - ops! Never mind, it was a sweet half remembered from the heart type speech.


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