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Staying away from Con-artists in relationships! Fighting Codependency
I published a hub, How to end an abusive relationship, and it was originally entitled, "A Man Who Preys" which I thought was pretty clever, LOL. Not a man who prays........but preys.
There are many people out there and this is pointed out in Cagsil's hub about being a people watcher, that you need to be aware and have self awareness. It's not good to let yourself be open and easy prey. But don't worry, these things can be taught. Just get the right self help books and just start on your own journey of picking things up day and day and you'll be on your way.
Con artist men, men (and woman as well!) who 'con' lovers or even friends/famly as in lying and withholding truth, are all too common today. Some men lie to get what they want: for example, A guy wanted to go away for the weekend from his girlfriend to Las Vegas with his buddies and enjoy prostitutes and gambling and in order for her not to be suspicious, he started a fight with her, so she ended up telling him to go away. Manipulation is not healthy in relationships. "Addiction to Love" the book is great to learn about codependency and unhealthy relationships and how to stop this cycle and know you deserve better.
Cathing people in lies and acting upon it
Often times if you have a lover who drinks, the truth comes out at times and may contradict what they had said before. Self awareneness is important, being able to think about things and notice red flags, and go with your gut if you feel something is wrong.
Acting upon it, in other words, breaking off an unhealthy relationship is not easy if you're codependent or weak and afraid to be alone. Again "Codependency No More" by Melody Beattie which I've mentioned in other hubs is the best book out there I've seen and you can get it from your library.
It's up to you to change your life. Only you can. So, here are some tools and suggestions if you feel you just can't take emotional abuse anymore. So many people stay in unhealthy relationships or bad marriages and you don't have to.