- Gender and Relationships
Step up and Be the Girlfriend You Are, Not the Wife You Are Not
“Heal a scar through love and emotion. That’s what they say. Time heals every scar. Some say so. I say this is a new start for me or rather for my unending tangled love story. Just as I had managed to convince myself that I would never fall in love again, like a miracle, my beloved walks back straight into my life as if he had never even left. I don’t know how to chew on this. I can’t put myself in this situation again, but I still love him.” Girls it’s time to step up and go for what we want, it’s time to say no that toxic relationship you’ve wanted to come out of for so long. Because we are ladies and we can’t let men step on us and prevent us from being who we are. This is the article that is going to tell you how to walk away or make him see you for who you are. How you gonna flip your hair and shout “I ain’t your mama.”
Stop being his maid.
Girl, if he likes it, he’s gonna put a ring on it and if he hasn’t yet I don t see why you should hurt your fingers with his laundry. You are too pretty to act wife when you are supposed to be the girlfriend. Stay away from the chores, or he is never going to take you seriously. That’s a fact.
Don’t move in with him.
I know how romantic moving in with your boyfriend is but sister that’s like he is marrying you before the wedding. The next thing you are pregnant and then a mother before ever being a wife. Ladies, don’t compromise, we know you love him but don’t let that blind you. But if you wanna move in, remember you are the girlfriend, not the wife.
Go out more often.
You are the boss of you, and clearly, you need some alone time with your girlfriends. If you stop hanging out with your girls at twenty what are you going to do when you are forty. Go out, have fun don’t miss out on your twenties because you were busy playing wife with your boyfriend. You will never get back those years, so get up and go to that club, dance your twenties out after all he isn’t the only one allowed to have some fun with his friends.
That is what you should always do. Be classy and sassy every wake of the day. Put on those hills and that dress that brings out your curves and is decent at the same time. Let him wish he had you for life. Let him know what he has, and if he doesn’t man up, he is gonna lose it quick.
Ladies, we are the masters of ourselves. Don’t let any man dictate how you are going to spend your time and money. If he won’t like you after you step up and be who you are, then he doesn’t love you at all, and that’s your cue to leave. A man should love you for who you are, especially if you are confident enough to start making decisions for yourself.
© 2017 Natasha