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Dating 101 : How to Stop Analyzing His Every Move!

Updated on September 29, 2010

Do you over analyze his every move? (C'mon, be honest!)

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"If a guy likes you, you'll know it!"

I took a practice LSAT (Law School Admissions Test) the other day. I want to go to law school and wanted to see how I'd do. Not too bad, I got a 152 on my first test without any real studying. Guess what section I scored highest on? The analytical section, of course! Could it be that I'm so analytical because of my experience with guys? Perhaps. Ok, most definitely.

Do you spend hours analyzing his text messages, his voice mails, his behavior? Please don't. I have wasted so much time and energy over the years doing this. It's embarrassing, but I'll be the first to admit that I've probably read the first 10 pages of dating advice listed on Google (does he like me, signs he's interested, etc.). You know what? If he really likes you, you'll know it. You won't have to wonder if he's playing hard to get (if a guy likes you, you'll know it!), you won't have to wonder if he is lying in a ditch somewhere and that is why he hasn't returned your phone call. Or maybe the text message didn't go through, even though your phone “claims” it did. All of your over analyzing of these situations does no good, whatsoever. In fact, it does harm – to you! We have enough stress in our lives and analyzing his every mood just adds to the burden, not to mention, it totally creeps him out! If you're meant to be, you'll feel comfortable around one another. You'll just know that he likes you.

Forget about analyzing the color of his shirt that he's wearing on the date...it doesn't mean anything. If he asked you out, changes are that he likes you...right? Are his arms crossed? Well, maybe he's just cold. See what I mean? We could go on for days making excuses and having little fantasies about his every gesture. Stop looking for signs and take a genuine interest in him. It's been said that people only get really nervous around people that they really like. Not at all true, at least not for me. The only person that I have ever truly cared for was someone that I always felt completely comfortable around. The guys that I always obsessed over turned out to be jerks and not worth my time, the same is true with you, too. Trust me.

So please ladies, save your analytical skills and study for the LSATS, apply them towards your latest algebra homework or planning your latest outfit. Use your analytical skills that I know you have honed so well for something productive, aside from analyzing and obsessing over his latest (and of course, unusual) behavior.

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    • fpherj48 profile image

      Paula 

      6 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      girly_girl109....You've figured it out! You're a SMART girly-girl......and lucky to have learned this at such a young age. Congratulations! You should speak to groups of High School girls.....This is valuable information. I don't know how you get them to LISTEN, because at my "mature" old age, I find WE WOMEN seem to do it the hard way and learn from OUR OWN mistakes!! Oh well. Voted UP & useful/interesting.

    • girly_girl09 profile imageAUTHOR

      girly_girl09 

      9 years ago from United States

      That's for sure, cindyvine! We all do it! :)

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      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      I think most of us over-analyse, not just women, men as well.

    • girly_girl09 profile imageAUTHOR

      girly_girl09 

      9 years ago from United States

      Hi, there. Thanks for your response !

      I think every single female on the planet, at one time or another as over analyzed at least one guys behavior before. It's really a hard thing to stop, but it truly makes everything easier when you do.

      On the otherhand, I know for certain that guys are guilty of the same thing, although not to the same extent.

      We all do it, but it's so much easier when we figure out that it just doesn't matter in the scheme of things!

    • trish1048 profile image

      trish1048 

      9 years ago

      Hi,

      A very well written hub.  It brought back memories of when I was guilty of doing just what you mentioned.  The obsessing over a missed phone call, the endless wondering, seeing him engaged in a conversation with some other girl, etc.  It was maddening, but not for him, for me.  Thank goodness I grew up and learned that those were definitely lessons in futility :)

      Thanks for sharing, and I hope that the women who read this 'get it'.

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