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How I Stopped Playing The Fool
Everybody Plays The Fool
Playing The Fool
I finally told myself that I needed to stop playing the fool.
When it used to come to relationships I would begin and end up playing the fool. Of course, looking forward to having sex was the major determining factor with whom I pursued. Why? Like most men, all of my life I had a constant sexual appetite. I’ve always been a sucker for a pretty face, medium to long hair, nice size legs, nice pointed boobs, shapeliness, nice hands/feet and of course a nice behind but I didn’t care for long nails because I always admired a good shoulder and back massage from my mate. Race, or nationality did not matter.
I Cheated My Own Heart Out Of Love
I Used To Undress Women
A good woman comes from all kinds of races and nationalities. Kissing has no color and neither does any other attraction. Again, I always thought that I was different for some reason but most men felt and did the same things that I did. Yes, I used to undress women anywhere; whether they were on the street, at the malls, church, restaurants, weddings and etc. I didn’t know how not to undress them. However, I always respected them. How could I have expected to go into a serious relationship of love to marry?
I Treated Her With Top Notch Class
I was always impressed with the woman that I was with. We would do all the things that people who thought they were in love would do. We went to movies; eat outs, gatherings and other functions. We would exchange quality gifts during holidays and special occasions. Another important thing to point out was a lack of attending church together. I look back at the fact that we weren’t as committed spirituality as much as we should have been.
Don’t Call Me “Player”
Somehow, I would resent being called the word “player” simply because I didn’t consider myself one but when you fail to settle down or when you’re seen occasionally with a different mate by people who notices your lifestyle you may be characterized as a player especially by my associate buddies. What else could I expect to think of myself as? Nothing much. All of my life, I’ve been playing the fool. I had been cheating myself out of true love.
How I Played The Fool
The thought that I was getting over by seeing different women and sowing my wild oats has left me feeling guilty. I thought that things were going so well but I neglected the real concerns and those concerns were to preserve my life for a good future. When a man chooses a woman to be his bride she should submit herself as mentioned in the scriptures and cater to his every need. He should be willing to do very much the same if not more.
- Ephesians 5: 22-28 NIV - Wives, submit yourselves to your own - Bible Gateway
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his
I Played The Fool On Myself
I played the fool for all the past of my life. I could not blame any of the women that I had been in relationships with. Surely, as I got older I realized why I was not yet married. Apparently, I had never put any real value into a relationship. I had the nerve to think that I could always find someone better than the person I had. Thinking like that is a major hindrance and mistake. For some reason I thought I needed more women before I would throw in the towel and settle down. That was foolish thinking. Now is time to claim what is mine.
Life Catches Up To You
Today, I wonder what do the experiences that I’ve had add up to. I’ve partied, drank, made money, hung out and enjoyed life. In order not to feel foolish at this point in life, the time has come to take the next relationship to the alter. Yes, everybody plays the fool whether someone uses you or worst yet you use yourself. It would take prayer and sincerity to end up with someone to fulfill most if not all the qualities that I look for in a mate and settle with. Then there’d be no more playing the fool.
I Maintained The Good Qualities
It is not good to play or gamble with your feelings, let alone another’s serious feelings because you can reap what you sowed. How many guys are out there that wish they had been more loyal and loving enough to a lady that they had lost. I can avoid reaping what I have sown because I did the damage to myself. All I would need to do is get my priorities in order, get a good woman in my life while in my prime and still have the desire to give good love. Fortunately, I've maintained all the good qualities that I've ever had and dropped the bad ones. I can always be my good self, my spiritual self. It doesn't cost me anything. It's the best thing that I ever let happen. So, how I stopped playing the fool? I sincerely was born again and finally let go of myself and let God overrule my life according to His Will.
Why Should I Waste Good Love Making?
I felt that I should not waste good love making on someone that I don't love or that does not love me as a wife. There is no reason to prolong my goodness for someone special. I want to tell someone, how much I love them so, while I have all this good love energy. Often, men burn up so much of this energy playing to please too many women and losing their oats along the foolish way.