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Stop, Think, Act... H.O.W.
“Justice does not exist ”, were the words in response when she reminded him of his lawyer position as he physically, verbally, and emotionally beat her up, in an argument that ended in domestic violence of a cohabiting couple. This was the theme of recent news here in Puerto Rico. I wanted to share the news since the procedure of finding cause was incredibly terrifying. When I searched the news for the second time, I did not find it. I instead felt filthy and horrified reading about family abuse at so many and different social levels.
Humanity one world is the goal of the H.O.W. movement. My intention with this article is to share why I think we need to; Stop, Think, Act… to achieve the goal for a better world.
What are the human rights?
I read over and over about human rights violations, and as I look at the mirror, I see one of those humans struggling for rights, as well as, one that violates other's rights. Perhaps my acts are not on the front page of the news, or my actions do not have a term labeling them, but when I close the door… before I go to bed, I need to remember my thoughts, attitudes, words and behavior. Don’t you?
“Justice perhaps does not exist, and if it does perhaps it is incomplete, but that is the earthly justice; not God’s divine justice ”.
Let me share the information given to our neighbors, friends and those in difficult situations or searching for counsel about domestic violence which it is also known as family abuse, since others will be affected.
Domestic violence is physical violence, threats to commit violent acts, or abuse occurring in the following relations:
- Married couples (also known as spousal abuse)
- Cohabiting couples (in league)
- People who have one or more children in common
- People in a relationship like “dating” or ever had that type of relationship between them
- People who were married in the past
Domestic violence covers a wide area of abuse, including spousal abuse and the person who threatens the security or integrity of the minor. Any threatening or violent act, even if the defendant did not intend to harm or endanger the safety of the victim.
The domestic violence cases are handled differently than other cases of criminal nature. The prosecutor's office has attorneys (prosecutors) specially designated for these causes and treatment units for domestic violence.
Learn what is chargeable in domestic violence
- Annoying Phone Calls
- Stalking (like following the victim to work, or warning the victim)
Assault or Physical Abuse
- Pulling Hair
- Striking with fists
- Emotional Cruelty
- Constant criticism
- Ignoring the victim
- Degrading comments
- Ridiculing the person
- Contact through sexual desire
- Critique of sexual ability
- Sexual acts against the will of the victim
- Refusing to pay bills
- Withholding money
- Prohibit the victim to work
- Not buying basic items for the family
- Isolating the victim from family and friends
- Violating the privacy rights of the victim
- Opening and reading the correspondence of the victim
- Listening to phone calls without permission
- Extreme jealousy and riotous demonstrations
- If a child witnesses the violence, it can engage charges for impairing safety and integrity of a child.
Stop & think...
abusers take responsibilities
both seek professional treatment
awareness of signs of a possible aggression
safe emergency housing
identify safe areas
break the silence
pre-alert others of danger
health related services
I invite you, as I did, to look in the mirror of our helpful information, with our thoughts, attitudes, words and behavior. Sometimes it is easier to see what is happening outside other than our own lives. It is easy to write information, or provide help… but are we doing the same for ourselves and for our own family? Think it over and remember to:
Stop, Think, Act!
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O’Farrill
Domestic violation documentary
© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill