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Stop, Think, Act... H.O.W.

Updated on June 1, 2014
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Justice does not exist ”, were the words in response when she reminded him of his lawyer position as he physically, verbally, and emotionally beat her up, in an argument that ended in domestic violence of a cohabiting couple. This was the theme of recent news here in Puerto Rico. I wanted to share the news since the procedure of finding cause was incredibly terrifying. When I searched the news for the second time, I did not find it. I instead felt filthy and horrified reading about family abuse at so many and different social levels.

Humanity one world is the goal of the H.O.W. movement. My intention with this article is to share why I think we need to; Stop, Think, Act… to achieve the goal for a better world.

What are the human rights?

Human rights

I read over and over about human rights violations, and as I look at the mirror, I see one of those humans struggling for rights, as well as, one that violates other's rights. Perhaps my acts are not on the front page of the news, or my actions do not have a term labeling them, but when I close the door… before I go to bed, I need to remember my thoughts, attitudes, words and behavior. Don’t you?

Justice perhaps does not exist, and if it does perhaps it is incomplete, but that is the earthly justice; not God’s divine justice ”.

Get help!

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Domestic Violence

Let me share the information given to our neighbors, friends and those in difficult situations or searching for counsel about domestic violence which it is also known as family abuse, since others will be affected.

Domestic violence is physical violence, threats to commit violent acts, or abuse occurring in the following relations:

  • Married couples (also known as spousal abuse)
  • Cohabiting couples (in league)
  • People who have one or more children in common
  • People in a relationship like “dating” or ever had that type of relationship between them
  • People who were married in the past

Domestic violence covers a wide area of abuse, including spousal abuse and the person who threatens the security or integrity of the minor. Any threatening or violent act, even if the defendant did not intend to harm or endanger the safety of the victim.

The domestic violence cases are handled differently than other cases of criminal nature. The prosecutor's office has attorneys (prosecutors) specially designated for these causes and treatment units for domestic violence.

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Learn what is chargeable in domestic violence

Threats

  • Annoying Phone Calls
  • Bullying
  • Stalking (like following the victim to work, or warning the victim)

Assault or Physical Abuse

  • Beating
  • Biting
  • Hitting
  • Kick
  • Pinch
  • Pulling Hair
  • Push
  • Slapping
  • Striking with fists

Verbal Abuse

  • Emotional Cruelty
  • Constant criticism
  • Insults
  • Ignoring the victim
  • Degrading comments
  • Teasing
  • Ridiculing the person
  • Cursing

Sexual Abuse

  • Contact through sexual desire
  • Critique of sexual ability
  • Sexual acts against the will of the victim

Financial Abuse

  • Refusing to pay bills
  • Withholding money
  • Prohibit the victim to work
  • Not buying basic items for the family

Social Abuse

  • Isolating the victim from family and friends
  • Violating the privacy rights of the victim
  • Opening and reading the correspondence of the victim
  • Listening to phone calls without permission
  • Extreme jealousy and riotous demonstrations

Child Abuse

  • If a child witnesses the violence, it can engage charges for impairing safety and integrity of a child.

Stop & think...

Help provided

Prevention
Intervention
Treatment
abusers take responsibilities
crisis hotlines
peer counseling
both seek professional treatment
shelters
emotional support
awareness of signs of a possible aggression
legal services
safe emergency housing
identify safe areas
childcare
break the silence
pre-alert others of danger
job training
health related services

Invitation

I invite you, as I did, to look in the mirror of our helpful information, with our thoughts, attitudes, words and behavior. Sometimes it is easier to see what is happening outside other than our own lives. It is easy to write information, or provide help… but are we doing the same for ourselves and for our own family? Think it over and remember to:

Stop, Think, Act!


I am not accusing, just giving in love what I gain by mercy. Blessings to all!


© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O’Farrill

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© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

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      Greg Boudonck 4 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico

      This has got to be one of the best written hubs you have made my love. A great video choice too.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Froggy213 thanks. Pray that it can help.

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      Honey Halley 4 years ago from Illinois

      Sharing the many different forms of abuse is a great way to educate others and even those in abusive relationships what constitutes abuse. You did a great job in providing things to watch for. Thanks for sharing.

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      Joseph De Cross 4 years ago

      Great addition to the cause lastHeart(Maria Ruiz). Domestic violence is rampant and is well covered by this double standard society run by males. Your knowledge and awareness will help some women out there. I suggest to add a hotline, at least for P.R. I know how men are, because I'm a male, but I considered violence against women a double crime!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Very true and clearly stated. there should be no mistaking! Thank you for another great hub!

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      HoneyBB thanks for reading and leaving a comment. There are so many sad behaviors...wow... searching and writing just leaves me without energy by so much pain. We need to put ourselves to a side and do what we have to do to educate.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Lord De Cross blessing for being part of HubPages and standing by us encouraging. I made my assignment and link the hot-line...thanks so much for your suggestion, it really was a must.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      btrbell thanks again! There should be no mistake with real love.

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      Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      So many women have been a victim of abuse, but have never reported it. Thank you for writing this hub.

      God bless you.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Michele Travis God bless you also. Many are being abused in so many ways, they think it is normal. I pray that every woman will be awaken.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      I commend you for an important and detailed hub regarding domestic abuse as it has sadly become all too common in today's society.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      shiningirisheyes thanks again! Like you say it has "sadly" become... and we need to stop this!

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