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Story Books Have Women Disillusioned
Young women are disillusioned by fairy tale stories they read as children and romance novels that are a carry over from the Disney storybook movies they watched as little girls. I hear so many women today calling themselves princess and wanting to find a man who will “treat them like a queen.”
Trouble is there are only so many knights in shining armor to go around and so many wanna be princesses sit home alone.
Why do novels have to always be about rich people? They all seem to end the same way: “Happily ever after…and rich.”
No wonder young women are so confused and try to hold out for Prince Charming and a castle. That’s how all the novels end so it must be true. Right?
If you look at the demographics, most people aren’t rich. A large percentage of us are middle class and quite a few others are poor.
I just read a book that had a character that was a mechanic during the war but of course when he gets out he opens a chain of car repair shops and becomes a multimillionaire. How believable is that?
Another man in this same book is a gardener/landscaper but of course after she falls in love with him she finds out he’s a rich and famous author. She just didn’t recognize him in his dirty jeans and work boots. Uh-huh.
Pretty Woman is a prime example of unrealistic writing. A prostitute, no less, finds and marries a wealthy guy and lives happily ever after. Doesn’t matter how tarnished your past is girls you too can have a rich man sweep you off of your feet. Yeah right.
The trouble is, there aren’t that many wealthy bachelors to go around so there are a lot of disappointed young women out there.
There’s also another small detail most books tend to leave out and that is that most rich men marry someone with similar financial means. His parents aren’t going to settle for junior marrying a girl from across the tracks, she has to have the same breeding, family connections and stock holdings as his family. Money stays with money. Rich men seldom date much less marry poor women no matter what the novels would have us believe.
Fact is there is no free lunch. Statistically, women tend to look for men who make more money than they do but looking for a rich man is unrealistic unless your family is also wealthy. If you are extremely pretty you might get lucky and land a rich old guy but there aren’t very many of those either.
Women who marry for money lead very unhappy lives. Sure they have plenty of credit cards but they aren’t content with their lot in life. Who wants to wake up each morning with a man old enough to be your grandfather? Truth is these girls are nothing but high paid nursemaids.
I know of a young woman who married a rich old man. She hung around pushed his wheelchair and did his errands for him. When he passed away she greedily stood by while the lawyer read the will. The house went to his oldest son, most of his real estate holdings and money were distributed among his children and a large hunk of change went to his first wife. His pretty young widow got a small bungalow and $20,000. She was livid, contested the will, spent every penny of her inheritance trying to get more and ended up with nothing.
Moral of that story is, money can’t and doesn’t buy you happiness. Find a nice young man who loves you, settle down, build a life together from the ground up like everybody else. Live happily ever after and forget the dreams of royalty, you’ll be happier for it.
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