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Struggling With Life

Updated on March 20, 2018
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I am someone who believes strongly in true love and holding onto that special someone with an iron grip.


I believe that there are alot of key things in a relationship that can help you better understand your partner. Structure is something that I think any relationship should have before it becomes more serious so learn everything you can about the other person before tying the knot.

Structure, Interests, Finance

Structure is a big thing in a relationship but so is Interests. No matter what you say or do just be sure to take time to take Interests in your partners interests. It doesn’t have to be extreme but at least memorize as many as you can. Relating to your partner in a dark time can drastically increase the chances of them feeling not just a bit better but a lot better

3 small keys

  • Structure: this is a basis on self worth, trust, integrity, passion, and stability.
  • Interests: keeping your other half as happy as you can without destroying your own sensibility.
  • Finance: A large factor in the relationship. Be sure to be financially stable before you decide on a relationship. Be honest with your partner and trust that they will understand.

“If you love two people choose the second one. Because you obviously didn’t love the first one enough to not fall in love with the second.”

— Johnny Depp

Understanding the situation

Look things can get bad in a relationship. You fight and argue and nothing seems to be the same as it was when you first started. But if you truly love someone then you shouldnt take that as a sign to give up. Fighting is a small stepping stone that can build into a beautiful relationship if you push through it. I dated someone for 2 1/2 years and close to the end we would fight a lot and argue but I never gave up. I tried my best and I wanted to make it work because I loved my partner. But she decided to give it up and it crashed and burned on top of me and left me in ruins. However after awhile I realized that I gave it my all. I put forth the effort that she didn’t put forth at the time and I made it last a bit longer. And I’m not going to say that I was without flaw or fault in the matter because I was. There were things I didn’t do right and the same goes for her but that doesn’t excuse the fact that I’m the one who put forth the effort at the end. You can only do so much in your relationship. Don’t ever try to push yourself into an area you aren’t comfortable with or that your partner wants you to go into but won’t do it themselves. To start a healthy relationship is to trust one another and tell them everything you can about yourself. And when they tell you about themself then listen intently. The more you know and understand about your partner the easier it is for you to avoid confrontation with them. Be honest, be true, and be loyal. Don’t ever cheat on the one you’re with. Just end it if you have someone else in mind. Don’t waste the other persons life when they could be searching for the one who will actually treat them right.

Do it.

Do not cheat. Be honest. Be spontaneous. Do things that can keep you and your partners life interesting. If you read this just to find way to prolong your relationship then leave. This is to help build or keep a relationship healthy.

© 2018 Briston McCullough


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    • dashingscorpio profile image


      11 months ago

      " I tried my best and I wanted to make it work because I loved my partner. But she decided to give it up and it crashed and burned on top of me and left me in ruins."

      When someone notices they are the (only one) making the effort to hold things together it's a sign for them to consider moving on.

      Note to self: It takes (both) people to make a relationship last.

      It only takes (one person) to end it.

      In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: NEXT!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde


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