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Surviving Rejection

Updated on February 25, 2010

So you find yourself single again and wondering why you are in this position.  There could be so many reasons why. It could be the result of meeting the wrong person, death, cheating, lies, divorce, conflicting goals, and other things that at this point in time are too painful to mention.  However irrespective of the cause of the breakdown of the relationship the pain of being single remains the same.

We all desire to be in a relationship; to be loved and to be able to give love. Or simply put to be in a relationshipthat provides companionship.  With this as a desire you frequently want to enter into a new relationship as soon as possible hopefully once you are healed.

In order to get into a new relationship, it means you have to get into the process of relating again.  In addition overcome and face some fears you may have of getting into the dating world once more.

 Some of those fears may be:

Fear of getting rejected.

 Fear of having a bad time.

 Fear of getting hurt.

 Fear of having to reject someone else.

All these fears are valid yet easily overcome.  If someone rejects you, it is not the end of the world it just means that that person is not right for you and the right one is out there waiting to find you. Equally if you are rejecting someone there is no need to feel guilty as you are giving them the chance to find the right person.   Rejection is part of life. It is part of the divine right we have been given to be able to choose what we want or do not want. 

 Many dates and relationships don’t work out.  It is all part of the process of finding that special one.          It is through our bad relationships that we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and what we want, to then approach relationships with more knowledge to succeed

No one wants to get hurt but if we do not dare to fall in love and risk getting hurt, we cannot find love. Getting hurt is part of the process.  We do get through it and the pain does eventually go away.  The best part is there is new love waiting for you and if we have learnt from our past experience it is the right one.

Change how you look at rejection and see it as a blessing.  When you reject someone you are releasing him or her to go find someone who will truly appreciate them, and look at it vice versa when someone rejects you.  After all, do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t want you?  It’s better to be free and find someone who actually wants to be with you.

No one can predict the future.  Yet we continue to believe in self-limiting thoughts about the future.  We believe so firmly in these thoughts we allow them to stop us from moving forward and realizing opportunities. 

Instead of predicting the worse, I can predict for you that if you embrace the dating process instead of watching life pass you by, you will have both good and bad times.  I can also predict that these good and bad times will lead you to even better times.

Embrace the journey and release your fear




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      Singlesstreetlife 8 years ago

      I am glad the hub has blessed you in some way. Divorce is hard and not what you desire but since it has happened, you can count your many blessing that you are sane and have a very bright future irrespective of your status. Continue to enjoy life!

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      theawwwbutmum 8 years ago

      Thanks for writing this hub. I am a divorcee of some 6 years now - and you hit it on the button when you say - Do you really want to be with someone who doesnt really want to be with you? - Hearing this and then processing it can take time - but in hindsight I count my many blessings to be where I am today. Great work :)