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Updated on May 3, 2011

I asked a question on hubpages recently. And the question was “Ladies-Top 5 qualities you look for in a man? Gentleman-Top 5 qualities you look for in a lady?” I got 25 answers in reply to my above stated question. The number of replies to the question seems to be low but there is a striking similarity in almost all of the answers. And in this hub we would be discussing about the three most important qualities.


Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself’.

Whatever you do, wherever you go, if you are honest people will like you. Honesty reflects reliability and truthfulness. Exaggerating stories and experiences to get someone’s attention is everything but honesty.

Being honest you create a relationship with a strong foundation. One which would remain unshaken for the whole life you would share with the significant other. Just follow these simple words of wisdom and you would never be in a situation when you feel embarrassed by your own identity:

a. “If it is not right, do not do it. If it is not true, do not say it.” As said by Marcus Aurelius.

b. Never be ashamed of what and who you are.

c. Acknowledge belief’s and ideas as they are.

d. “Almost any difficulty will move in the face of honesty. When I am honest I never feel stupid. And when I am honest I am automatically humble.” As said by Hugh Prather.

e. “Every act of dishonesty has at least two victims: the one we think of as the victim, and the perpetrator as well. Each little dishonesty makes another little rotten spot somewhere in the perpetrator's psyche.” As said by Lesley Conger.


Being a loving and caring person needs no guide. All you have to do is show your significant other that you really care for him/her. And you not only keep the fire of love burning but also reinforce your relationship with him/her.

Small gestures like holding hands, rubbing his/her palm, waving through his/her hair work wonders. The touch of your lover is the most comforting and secure feeling, one could ever have.

Do small things that mean a lot. It could be different in every relationship as everyone has his/her own needs.

Always be there for them; Have pride in the relationship you share and let friends and family know about it.

Let him/her know that you love them. Send text messages, emails showing how much you love them occasionally. 


Life is stressful these days. With so many people expecting so much out of you, you are bound to get exhausted at the end of the day. And if you are going on a date at night, you don’t want to meet someone who keeps talking about his life and problems.  I m sure you are looking forward to meet someone who has a smile on his face at all times. And one, who also makes you laugh all the time.

Having a good sense of humor is not what you can learn. But yes, you can practice being witty and I m sure someday you would succeed. So, what should you do? Do nothing. Just observe the surroundings that you are in and think what would make you laugh about it. (And do remember don’t stop talking to the significant other while you observe or else he/she will notice you making over-efforts to make him/her laugh. ) And just say it.

All you have to do, is just say it. Being sarcastic helps a lot but don’t overdo it. Sarcasm all the time, makes you just another jerk.

There are a lot more qualities that can describe a perfect lover. Being honest, loving and caring and having a good sense of humor are the most important one's. 

I would like to thank all the fellow hubbers who helped me in writing in this hub by giving their inputs through answering my question.


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    • yshashikant profile image

      yshashikant 6 years ago from Mumbai

      Thanks for your comment Kamalesh. Take care and enjoy hubbing.

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      Kamalesh050 6 years ago from Sahaganj, Dist. Hooghly, West Bengal, India

      Nice. Very true what you have written.

      Keep writing and enjoy.

      Take care.

      Best Wishes.

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      yshashikant 6 years ago from Mumbai

      Thanks for comment Sangeeta.

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      sangeetas627 6 years ago from India

      I like this totally agree with you. It is true..

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      yshashikant 6 years ago from Mumbai

      Thank you for agreeing with me Susan. I hope all the other Hubbers do agree with me too.

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      Susan Zutautas 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      yshashikant I agree with you on the top three :)

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      yshashikant 6 years ago from Mumbai

      Thanks for stopping by Terry.

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      Terry.Hirneisen 6 years ago from Shenandoah Valley

      I think this is very true. Honesty, Kindness, and Humor. It is a good recipe.