- Gender and Relationships
Taking Divorce in the Right Sense
Marriage has been considered to be a sacred institution till date. Even today people do believe in marriages. There is an endless list of marriages that have lasted on the basis of trust, mutual understanding and commitment. Yes, marriage is no doubt a lifetime commitment which lasts on mutual trust and understanding between partners. Gone are the days, when marriage was only about having kids or heir to run the family hierarchy. Today, it is about nurturing a beautiful relationship where two people try to complete or compliment each other. It is more about giving respect and trying to accompany each other in the beautiful journey of life.
But very often in few cases, things don't work out the way it should for many of them, and then cracks get build up in this beautiful journey, which leads to serious problems, like divorce.When a beautiful relationship, fails to meet each other’s expectation, things tend to get worse and nothing seems to work out, the final solution that is rightly considered is a divorce. It is no doubt, true that its rate has increased over years, but one needs to recognize, what and who is to be blamed for? Gone are the days when it was said that 'Marriages are made in heaven'. The truth is marriages are very much made here on earth by people, and people very often do mistakes.
Common Reasons for Divorce
Financial issues between both the partners
There can be many reasons associated with it, which compels one to take this decision.One such reason is physical abuse. Women often complain of physical abuse or domestic violence and it is always better to get out of this complication, rather than getting beaten every other day. Things of past - when a woman would shut her mouth and bear such atrocities happening to her. Time has changed and so has certain definitions of life. It is also about seeking freedom and living life the way one wants to. This also could be one of the reasons for taking such drastic step.
Today, individuals try to get some space and always love their privacy. Since both men as well as women seek equal status when it comes to economic power and education, differences of opinion are quite natural and one may be unable to or not even try to adjust to the present situation.Apart from all these few other factors that compel one to take such a drastic step are lack of commitment, infidelity, misunderstandings and lack of compromise.
Taking Divorce in the right sense
Divorce can actually be taken in a right sense other than considering it as a threat to the society. It can be actually considered as an easy way of getting out of the complications, one would otherwise have to face or bear for the rest of the life. Why people ever opt for such a thing?It’s therefore advisable to try and live a happy life, by getting a divorce, rather than feel suffocated in a relationship which could no longer hold the same meaning, the way it did earlier. One way people can work out after divorce is become friends which may work wonders if you have children and thus you can happily share the responsibilities of a child, without getting into fight. Though it doesn’t seem to be that easy the way it sounds, yet there are couples who happily manage working out just fine by being good friends. However this also depends on how bitter the divorce battle was and how well both the parties handled the situation.