Being a Tall Woman and Loving It!
Growing up Tall
If only everyone could experience being tall, the good and bad. Being tall is more than the physical/ outward appearance, it becomes psychological too. For boys, it can make them awkward and girls stand out whether they want to or not. I can't count how many times I wished, as a kid, I could just disappear into a crowd.You can accept it or fight it and curse a few choice tall relatives for passing on the jolly green giant gene. Accepting doesn't happen overnight, but the journey is rewarding.
I was "tall for her (my) age" beginning in 3rd grade- that's when it became really noticeable. In class pictures, I was placed in the far back row with the teacher and tall boys, who were still shorter than me. I automatically knew where my place was. I spent a lot of my early school years in the back row soI didn't stand out like a sore thumb.
Because of my height, I was "different", almost as if I had a deformity. If you talk to a person living with a deformity who has turned their challenge into an inspiration, then you'd have an idea how being tall effected me. I had to live with the fact that I couldn't just blend in- most eyes were on me the moment I walked into a room. I could either tell myself that they were galking at me like I was a freak or they were admiring a beautiful tall girl who has stolen the attention and gazes in the room.
I received numerous questions from strangers- my favorite is "You must play basketball". I hated basketball- on purpose. I wanted to prove everybody's stereotyping wrong so I got involved in ballet and tennis instead (I play basketball at the gym now, but don't tell anyone). Nobody would consider randomly asking an African American guy if he plays basketball because most players are black. For height, sterotyping has no boundaries. I answer the questions politely.
Ballet was great because it gave me grace and good posture for carrying around my tall frame. Every tall girl needs a confidence booster and having good posture is more than what most short or tall girls have.
Fortunately I learned other valuable life lessons from being tall: If someone asks you 'how the weather is up there?', spit on them and say 'it's raining'. Actually my mom told me that one when I was a kid, not expecting I'd use it, but I did.
I didn't fit in with the much shorter girls who huddled together and gossiped- I hated hunching over to fit into their huddle so I gave up on gossip. I wasn't much for gossiping anyway. Being catty wasn't my thing either, and luckily no girl would fight me- because of my intimidating height, yay!.
At the time, I hated being taller than most of the guys in school, but later I look back and am so thankful I was. It weeded out a lot of jerks, not to say tall guys can't be jerks, but at least I didn't have to put up with the short ones as well. My 3 year old daughter is tall for her age and I think dating won't be as big of an issue as it is for the shorter girls. Thank God!
The Height of Passion
Being tall in the dating scene is an advantage. For me, my issue with standing out like a sore thumb quickly diminished, because I loved the extra attention and getting noticed by all the guys, putting me on the front lines. Speaking of 'lines', the basketball line was annoying, but it was a perfect first line for guys to approach me with and I started not minding it as much.
Some short guys like tall women and not all tall women exclusively date tall men. Personally, I like guys around my height (6 ft) so there is good eye contact and a physical equality. I really do give tremendous credit to all guys who approach a tall woman. There is a lot to be assumed about tall women, mainly the intimidation factor, so that also weeds out the inferior and weak, in a Darwinistic survival-of-the-fittest way. Tall women date the guys who are comfortable in their own skin and also with having a tall trophy.
A Blessing in Disguise
You don't have to be tall to learn valuable lessons. It's finding what is unique about you- it's your difference that makes the difference. Height was my blessing, which I hope my daughter also gets to experience. Height taught me to not lose myself in the crowd and follow the sheep. It's about looking at your most challenging feature or trait and using it to your advantage.Not everyone will be impressed, not everyone likes tall women, and that's OK. I'm sure we can all think of someone famous who has a noticeable feature, possibly unattractive by popular standards, and is famous or attractive because of it. Embrace your differences girls!
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