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Signs that Say He is Already Married

Updated on November 1, 2012
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If you have a nagging feeling that the guy you are dating is already married, chances are he is. Women's intuition can be spot on. However, if you are still clueless, here are some pointers to help you find out if your date is already a married guy. It is quite easy to tell if the guy you are dating is already tied with someone.

1. You are his weekday girl...only.

If the guy only meets you during the weekdays and never on a weekend. Chances arem he is married. It follows that weekends are reserved for his family. You may have a once-in-a-blue-moon chance of snagging him one free weekend, but that is an exception. It is either his family is on a vacation or he takes you with him to an out of town trip. But without this, if weekends are totally hands-off to you, that is one definite sign the guy you are dating is hitched.

2. When you can't call him at specific times.

If he tells you not to call or call only on specified times of the day,it is one sign that he might be married. He does not want to get caught talking to you while he is home. Often you are not allowed to call him at night of early during the day. At these times he cannot answer the phone and even if he does, you notice that he answers and talks to you in a low, hushed voice or in whisphers.

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3. When he never brings you to his house.

He could be making a lot of excuses not to bring you there. You must understand that it all boils down to one thing - - you are not invited there unless you want to make a scene.

.4. When your gut feeling tells you that something is off.

If you feel that a guy is not really being honest with you either because of his many excuses and lies then it is time to think it over and not to get further involvement with this guy. Stop wasting your time and find a guy who is single and can possibly share a life with you if the chemistry is right.

5. Keep an eye on his ring finger.

If the guy has a discolored patch in his ring finger, suppose that he just took off his wedding band before he meets up with you. This is another obvious sign that he is already married.

There is no point in continuing to date a guy who is living a double life. He must be brave enough to own up to a commitment or a relationship that he is in. It is just fair to you. Otherwise, it is best to keep you heart safe and never let any married guy get to you. Sooner or later, you will realize that there are many available singles out there.

6. He often wants you to tag along in his business trips.

His concept of a 'holiday' with you is tagging you along in his short business trips and out of town meetings. Since that is the chance he has to be away from his family, and he is covered since it is an 'official' trip, without his wife suspecting.

7. He drives a family car.

He drives a family car or a station wagon, not unless he's got multiple cars. A guy who drives a family car instead of a sedan should lit that red flash bulb at the back of your mind. Really, no single guy would want to be caught driving this kind of car.

8. Car stickers.

Look at his car's windshield, more probably if he is already a family guy and with children, he's got some stickers for a school, where his children are attending. Some schools require car stickers to be attached before they are allowed entry in the school grounds or parking. If the guy has any of that, that is one warning sign you should not ignore.

9. His life is a closed book.

He does not tell you much about his life. Conversation just revolves around same issue -- you, his work, and nothing else. No talk about his family or anything close to home. That would require him to cover a lot of lies, so he would rather not talk about it.

10. He only lets you meet an exclusive set of friends.

He introduces you to a very, very small, closed, and even exclusive set of friends. Most probably, this is the only group who knows that your guy is playing around or group who tolerates his cheating.

11. Out of the way meeting places.

You meet in places, restaurants, malls that are way out of his zone, another city or something like that. Of course, he would not want the risk of bumping into someone who knows him. He never lets you see him near his office or where he lives, if he even got the gut to tell you where that is.

12. Scheduled meet-ups only.

You only get to see him on a specific schedule. No surprises, unless he is the one who initiates that you see each other unplanned.

13. No talks of long-term.

Your guy avoids or does not talk about long-term plans such as settling down, living together or anything even close to that. Why would he? He already has a life with someone else, his wife.

14. He does not spend off-work holidays with you.

Just as your guy does not spend any weekend hanging out with you, holidays are also no-nos for him. Ever wonder why he does not spend Christmas, New Years eve, and Valentines with you? And even if he does, it would only be for a short period of time. It is either he is rushing to go somewhere to take his wife on decent date.

15. He gives you his 'fake' Facebook account.

Well, since his life should never be revealed to you, if he even maintains a Facebook account, and gives you that, more probably it is a fake one, with fake friends in it.

If you feel that the guy you are dating is not really being honest with you and that he is living a double life, then it is time to break the relationship. There is no point, you are just saving yourself for a big heartbreak. Sooner or later, your relationship will end, since in the first place, it is not heading anywhere.

Give yourself respect and a chance to be with a man who is free and one you deserve who can give you the happiness that you deserve. Having a relationship with someone who is already married will only derail your life. If you are a single woman, you deserve single guy.


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    • gmmurgirl profile image

      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Philippines

      Hi Mellonyy. Thanks for finding this hub interesting. It helps to find out early on if the one you're dating is already married as it would save you from more headaches (or heartaches) later on.

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      Mellonyy 5 years ago

      Interesting hub! I look forward to reading your work!Voted up and shared!

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      MamaBambie 5 years ago from Dallas

      #2 second paragraph "he lis often whispers" Not sure what you meant to put here.

      #4 You need to fix "ffom" to "from"

      "Save yourself ffom a big heartbreak"

      Very interesting. Voted up.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Philippines

      Hi there! Thanks!

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      Mary 5 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      I have known so many women that date men like this,so many red flags but they still stay great hub voted up.