ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

The 50's housewife vs Today's housewife

Updated on April 19, 2015

1950's Housewife Expectations

I know this may sound a little odd, but recently our neighbor came over. He has been helping us construct our chicken coop, and as expected there are many different topics discussed while working. As I was helping them the other day, jokingly, my neighbor asked "Tell me again, why aren't you in the kitchen?" This is usually his response when I start to get bossy during a project (or when I'm making a valid point, and the guys are mad they didn't figure it out first. :)) I usually just laugh it off, but this certain day I asked why he thought I should be in the kitchen. He said actually I was reading something online, and saw they actually had a textbook that was used in Home Economics class in the 1950s that taught girls how to be the perfect housewife. He then proceeded to look this book up on his phone. It was true, and as he was reading some of the things expected of a housewife back then, I thought well that's not too far off from my life today. Except, I feel being a housewife today is a lot more demanding! So as they joked about these expectations, I sat and listened making a list in my head and compared it to what I already do. In the 1950s women were to clean the house before her husband arrived home, cook dinner, clean the kids and have them quiet for dinner, women weren't supposed to tell of their day or complain about it, they weren't supposed to ask their husband to do anything (nag), there was only 1 car and the husband drove it- the women were expected to walk to the grocery store while he was at work, and the things I found funny were no vacuuming after he arrived home from work, and they were expected to take his shoes off when he sat down. This is just my synopsis of what was read off to me by our neighbor. With our busy lives and schedules these days, it would be impossible to be "the perfect housewife" according to those standards.

Today's Housewife

Fast forward to today's housewife, I will admit I do quite a bit of the things on the list. I clean our house, I do laundry, I cook dinner (unless it's a special occasion and we go out to eat), I rarely vacuum when my husband is home (that's just included in my cleaning routine), I always ask him how his day was before I tell of mine. The things we do differently in our house is, I have my own car and I am free to come and go as I please, we try to go shopping as a family (it's almost like a date for my husband and I when the kids are at school), the man doesn't get much time to rest after work (we have soccer practice, projects, and things that break need to be fixed), I try to be the one to mow our grass, I also work as a substitute cook for our local school district. These days the whole family works hard and together, back then the man worked his job and the woman took care of the house. If I am working and my husband is off he will do dishes, cook dinner, and odd tasks he feels like doing to help me out. I by no means am dead tired after a few hours of work (usually 2-4/day), but he does these little things to help me out. I do things to help him as well, I will help him as much as possible when doing projects at home (I'm not afraid to get my hands dirty), I feel like I owe that much to him. I know there are a lot of TV shows such as Desperate Housewives and all of the "County" Housewives shows, but to me that's not real life and it's not very respectful to your spouse. I would never want to live like that, I would feel so guilty and undeserving.

Good Wife Guide

Source

The Rules

Source

What if....

What if your husband stays home, and you are the main provider? Are the same standards held for men? Do we really expect the same from them? I just thought I'd give some things to ponder, and I want your input. I think my husband would help out around the house, but I feel like he'd face more distraction from the housework. He likes to be outside and building things, or doing home improvements. It would definitely be different for me to get used to letting him do the house chores if he wanted to do them!

Are You a Good Wife?

How much of a "Good wife" are you?

See results

It does exist!

I might have to read up on this and get back with you!
I might have to read up on this and get back with you! | Source

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • realtalk247 profile image

      realtalk247 

      3 years ago

      There are changes that have taken place in modern day where not all women can be housewives and it takes teamwork to make relationships work. While I don't agree with statements such as: his thoughts/life is more important than yours so be silent. However, I will say there is a value in not TAKING OVER/CHARGE of relationships or your household as a woman. You are to be the best co-pilot as a woman, that is my thought on how the best wives live and exist in a happy marriage.

      I think both parties are responsible for pleasing one another. From a man's perspective I would want my wife to be happy to see me, not look/dress like they could care less, and acted as a comfort to me AND Vice Versa. Men were concerned about the happiness of their wife and doing things that made them happy. While so many have thrown this mentality completely out the window, marriages of 50 years ago had a longer shelf life than today.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)