- Gender and Relationships
The Advantages of Dating an Older Man
Ladies, when it comes to getting the man of your dreams, keep the older guys at the front of your mind. The advantages of dating an older man are plenty. If you are tired of the games of men your own age, you will be pleasantly surprised because young women dating older men have a lot to look forward to:
He will spoil you
While guys your own age will usually pay for dates, you are usually considered more economically equal, and don't quite get that extra-special treatment from them. But one of the advantages of dating older men is that they are more likely to shower you with little gifts. And I don't know about you, but I would rather have a man buy me some pretty new dresses or a bracelet rather than just spring for popcorn at the movies.
And if you are a woman that would like to really have a comfortable lifestyle, you might want to look for a man that pays your way entirely.
He will be a gentleman
Young women dating older men will be pleasantly surprised at their manners. He won't obsessively look at his cell phone for text messages, suggest you play video games in his basement to just "hang out," (meaning just have sex), or expect you to pay for yourself on a date. One thing time teaches most men is that treating a woman like a lady is what wins her affections.
You will have his undivided attention
Most older men aren't very interested in social networking websites, like Facebook or Instagram, so they don't have a bevy of friends competing for their attention at all times. They are also way past the college and graduate school phase, places where willing females abound. But more so, an older man will be focused on you because you bring youthful light into his sphere, something that is not usually present in his life without you. A man your own age doesn't understand that concept. This is why they say, "youth is wasted on the young."
He will be emotionally mature
Older men usually have held down a career for many years, and often own a home. They have made the social, romantic, and professional mistakes many people typically make in their 20s and early 30s (like controlling their temper with their boss and understanding it's ill-advised to stay out at bars at night while leaving their women home alone), and they have learned from them. Older men are not perfect, but they have experience, and that experience helps them be better men in relationships.
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He is likely to be interested in marriage
More people are staying single into their 30s and 40s than ever before, but most men and women eventually get tired of being alone and look to partner up with a spouse. But often when a woman looks for a husband when she is in her 30s, she'll realize many men her own age are already married or are in the market for a younger female themselves.
An older man makes a great spouse because you will always be young to him. He will usually be more open to you than men your own age as well, because a lot of those guys are just still trying to sleep around. The advantages of dating an older man include that these these men want the security in their lives of having a permanent partner, and that desire is what is often missing in men your own age.
Things you might not like about older men
Despite the fact that older gentleman often make amazing boyfriends, consider if any of the following would bother you before you seek out someone senior to you:
- There are a lot of never-married older men, but many of them are also divorced or are widowers. Are you able to handle someone with a little baggage?
- Many older men have children, some of them even have grown children, perhaps close to your own age.
- You might not have the same group dynamic with your friends anymore. While you will mix well with your older guy, many of your friends will not. Different generations of people, while they can get along, often do not have a chemistry that makes them want to hang out together.
I have found that the advantages of dating older men far outweigh the disadvantages. Here's hoping you find the older man of your dreams!