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The Bachelorette And Bachelor Party: Tips And Ideas

Updated on August 6, 2015
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Bachelor and bachelorette parties are meant as a time to unwind and have that one last big blowout with your girls or boys before the big day. Today bachelor and bachelorette parties have morphed into something entirely different. Although it still occurs, the typical strip club experience has given way to destination parties in places like Las Vegas or the Caribbean, going out to a sporting event, a day of golf, bowling, boy's or girl's weekend at the cottage, hiking with a picnic lunch, day at the spa, a road or camping trip, gourmet dinner with a winery tour, etc.. Also, more bachelor and bachelorette parties are being combined to create one big event for an evening of fun for the bride and groom.


Groom Being Led To Bachelor Party Blindfolded
Groom Being Led To Bachelor Party Blindfolded | Source

A Few Considerations

Drinking and X-rated activities are no longer the norm at these events. Friendship, togetherness and celebration are key. If you are planning to host a Bachelor or Bachelorette party, here are some considerations you may want to keep in mind:


-It is a good idea to have your party a few weeks before the wedding. You should at all costs avoid having it too close to the wedding day. You want to look and feel your best on your big day.


-Traditionally the best man hosted the bachelor party for the groom and the maid of honour hosted the bachelorette party. Today the respective parties are organized by all of the attendants.


-Be sure that you know the bride and groom's likes and dislikes prior to confirming any party plans. Try not to upset them with undesirable plans or activities. Just because you think skydiving is an ideal adventure the bride or groom may not share your enthusiasm. Remember, this is supposed to be a fun time for the guest of honour.


-As I have mentioned many times before, individuals that are invited to any pre-wedding parties must be on the guest list for the wedding day. This goes for anyone attending the bachelor or bachelorette party as well.


-The bride and groom should NEVER pay for any part of the party! The attendants or whomever is hosting the party are responsible for the entire cost. Make sure to set a reasonable budget so that everyone paying for the party doesn't feel overwhelmed, especially with all the other costs associated with the wedding, i.e. attire, wedding gift.


-Toasts are always a wonderful idea so be sure to include a few.

A Toast At Mario Lopez's Bachelor Party at Tao
A Toast At Mario Lopez's Bachelor Party at Tao | Source

The Bachelorette Or Hen Party

The bachelorette or "Hen" party, is a relatively recent phenomenon. In recent years, the bachelorette concept has been gaining momentum. It has become a way for the bride and all her girls to let loose and have fun. It is an occasion filled with food, drinks and possibly some dancing. After all, why should the guys be the only ones enjoying themselves? Just remember, I know I have mentioned this many times throughout my articles but decide on a budget and stick to it. Please be mindful of those who are contributing monetarily to the party. Not everyone has the same financial resources. Also, above all else, hire a limo, take a cab or assign designated drivers if alcohol is being served at your party. You don't want any of your guests driving if they have had too much to drink. If it is just the bride and bridal party, it's probably a good idea to book a couple of hotel rooms. Better safe than sorry!

Bachelorette Invitation
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Helpful Tips

There are so many bachelorette party ideas and here are a few for a fun day or night out with the girls:


-Okay, so we will start off with the obvious ladies. If you want to stick to the traditional bachelorette fun, hire a limo, buy some props for the bride and guests, i.e. tiaras, boas, t-shirts etc. and head out for an evening of sheer fun at a fancy male strip club. As a guest, I have had the pleasure of being "dragged" to a couple myself and they were pretty harmless and so much fun. Just be sure that the bride is okay with it first. Once again, you don't want to embarrass the lady of the hour. Oh, and be sure to throw in a few risqué gifts for the bride.


-If the bride is a wine connoisseur, take a trip to a local winery for a tour followed by a gourmet meal.


-An evening at a comedy club is sure to be a fun night out.


-How about dinner and a movie followed by a night cap?


-If the bride is into the arts a day at the museum or an art gallery followed by a visit to a tapas bar for some delicious Spanish delights and a few tinto di veranos is sure to please. Perhaps a French bistro might be preferred.


-If the guest of honour is fond of the work of people like Andrew LLoyd Weber, perhaps an evening at the theater followed by a visit to a martini and wine bar will make for a memorable evening.


-There is no better way of bonding time with the girls as a weekend spa trip or even a day at the spa. A relaxing and tranquil environment may be just the answer.


-If the bride-to-be enjoys music, there are many options. For example, an evening at a jazz club would be fabulous. If the bride loves classical music, perhaps tickets to the symphony followed by dinner and drinks at a fancy restaurant might be perfect. Going to a concert with the bride's favourite band or singer is sure to be enjoyable.


-I think nothing is quite as elegant as an afternoon high tea affair. The bride and everyone can dress up in their finery and gloves for such a charming event. Try to choose a fabulous location like a tea house or a swanky old world hotel.


-How about some salsa or ballroom dancing? If the bride has twinkling toes, dancing might be a great idea. This can be followed by a late dinner or nightcap.


-For the sportier gals perhaps a day of golf followed by food and drinks at the clubhouse might be the ticket. It doesn't have to be golf, it could be tennis, cycling, bowling, hiking, or whatever you know the bride will love.


-Depending on the time of year and the location, a wonderful day at the beach for a picnic and some sunshine might be in order.


-Once again, if everyone can afford it, taking a trip would be fabulous. Whether you plan on flying or driving it is an excellent bonding time for the bride and her girls. You might be interested in a weekend ski trip, weekend shopping trip, hiking trip, beach resort or whatever you can dream up.


-If the bride loves to cook, how about a gourmet cooking class together?


-One of my personal favourites is having an awesome evening at home with your BFFs for some serious bonding time and walks down memory lane. First of all this is easy on the budget and a lot of fun. You can have a barbecue and drinks or whatever food you want really, perhaps snacks or finger foods will do. Also, dinner can be followed by watching everyone's favourite "chick flick". Include any other activity you think everyone will enjoy.


Bachelorette Party At Chippendales In Las Vegas
Bachelorette Party At Chippendales In Las Vegas | Source

Bachelor Party

There was a time when bachelor parties were considered evenings of ill repute with images of inebriated males smoking cigars and playing cards while waiting for the scantily clothed maiden to pop out of the cake.......well you get the picture. This was probably the most stressful evening for the bride-to-be wondering what her future husband and his lifelong buddies were up to. After all, it was meant for the groom to enjoy his last day as a single man before he committed his life to one woman.


Thankfully, in most cases, things have changed a great deal in our modern world. Most Bachelor parties have done away with the X-rated factor and have become much more toned down. Also, there are so many more options and activities to choose from when planning a bachelor party.


Just remember a couple of things before you plan your party. First and foremost decide on a budget and stick to it. Once again, please be mindful of those who are contributing monetarily to the party. They may not be in a financial position to spend a lot of money so be considerate. Also, please remember, it is prudent to assign designated drivers if alcohol is being served at your party. You don't want any of your guests driving if they have had too much to drink.


Bachelor Party Invitation
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Helpful Tips

Here are a few ideas to get your party started:


-If you belong to a circle of sports fanatics, attending a sporting event such as football, hockey, baseball, boxing, mixed martial arts, soccer game, etc., is an awesome idea. This can be followed by dinner and drinks at your favourite sports bar or pub.


-If your group prefers the actual hands on aspect of sports and not watching from the sidelines perhaps organizing a golf tournament followed by dinner and drinks at the clubhouse, is more your speed. You might also consider other sporting activities such as, baseball, bowling, basketball or paintball.


-How about planning a casino night? You can book a location, rent equipment, hire a bartender and serve a buffet or sit-down meal, (check for any licenses you may need in your area). You will also need door prizes to make it interesting. Once you figure out the total cost, print out tickets and sell them to the guests. The money collected from the tickets and from casino earnings go to the groom as a gift, (once the expenses have been paid off of course).


-If everyone can afford it, taking a trip can be amazing! Whether you plan on flying or driving it is an excellent male bonding time for the groom and his buddies. You might be interested in a weekend ski trip, camping weekend, hiking trip, beach resort or whatever you think the groom would enjoy.


-How about a weekend fishing trip at a cottage? This is definitely a guy thing and guaranteed to be a lot of fun.


-An evening at a sophisticated Gentlemen's Club might be appreciated. However, contrary to popular belief, not all grooms prefer the entertainment offered by strippers. You could be creating a very awkward situation for the groom and perhaps the guests. If you end up planning an evening out at a strip club or hiring a stripper, be sure to inform the club or the entertainment company, in advance, that they are in no way to perform acts that would embarrass the groom or certain guests. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with incorporating this type of entertainment into your party, just use your discretion. Unless you know the groom incredibly well and you are absolutely sure that he would enjoy it, I would forgo the stripper and spend your money on something the groom will undoubtedly appreciate.


-A backyard barbecue followed by a game of poker might be the perfect bachelor party for the groom and his buddies. Also, it can be fairly cost effective.

Casino Bachelor Party
Casino Bachelor Party | Source

Finally........

These are but a few tips and ideas. You can let your imagination go wild! Remember, whatever your plans are for a bachelor or bachelorette party, the most important thing is to have fun. The bride and groom work hard for a year or more to prepare for their wedding day so they really deserve a great time.

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      These are great ideas for a bachelor or bachelorette party! You seem to have covered many different types of get-togethers, and they all sound fun!

      Thanks for sharing this with us, and have a wonderful day.

      ~ Kathryn

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      It is always a pleasure when you stop by Kathryn! Take care and have a great day! -Rose

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Wonderful ideas and tips to plan out a bachelorette and bachelor party.

      Voted up and useful.

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Rajan, it is always such a pleasure when you drop by. Thank you so much for your kind words and the vote up. I really appreciate it. Take care. -Rose

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      Cat 3 years ago from New York

      Rose,

      Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! I'm screaming because I love this! lol... sorry, hope I didn't hurt your ears :D

      Okay, I've got an opinion about everything and here's mine; I've always been repulsed by the idea that men in particular have justified or explained the purpose of the bachelor party to be the 'one last bout of fun before getting married'. Can you imagine how many problems I have with that? lol... For one thing, much of what you mentioned in the slightly outdated version of a bachelor party is crude, disrespectful activities... I wouldn't be bragging that that's their idea of a good time. Secondly, uh, getting married and starting a beautiful journey with the 'love of your life' shouldn't be the end of something good... it should be the beginning of something wonderful!

      Here's something else; I was in this one wedding in particular and it seemed that I was constantly being asked for money to contribute for this and money to contribute for that... I was just a bridesmaid and I ended up spending $500, including the dress... just being involved in the wedding. Not to mention, money in the card on the wedding day! Here's the kicker. We had a 'bachelorette party' and I was very much involved in the planning... another detail that cost me over a hundred bucks. So, I arrive to the party that day... and halfway through... a cop comes in. Only, this was not a real cop... the man turned on some music and next thing you know, I've got a red thong violently bouncing in my face! lol... honestly, it was embarrassing and I didn't know the other girls were doing this... I helped pay for the stripper! Ugh! I guess my point is, I think the "Jack and Jill' parties are such a good alternative. Then both the bride and groom to be can have their loved ones involved and they can share a wonderful day together with no potential for any issues created from a Bachelor or Bachelorette party.

      Great tips, by the way!

      Up and others, sharint too!

      Cat

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Cat, first of all thanks for sharing and for your support, I sincerely appreciate it. I think it is wonderful how supportive you are in the HP community. Secondly, OMG, you are so funny, lol! I couldn't agree with you more. The whole stripper thing doesn't appeal to me especially the red male thong in the face, lol. That's why I mention several times to make sure you know the groom and bride very well before spending money on this form of entertainment. Honestly, I think most people do not appreciate it. Also, I think before anyone commits to participating in the bridal party, they really need to evaluate their financial situation. Not everyone has the same monetary resources and being involved in a bridal entourage can be very, very expensive from start to finish. Unfortunately it can sometimes lead to resentment and conflict amongst the group. That is why it is a good idea for the bridal party to set limits by getting together and laying the cards out on the table from the beginning by establishing budgets for any pre-wedding obligations such as the bridal shower or the bachelorette/ bachelor party. If everyone stays within the established budget then it will be smooth sailing. By the way, I prefer the ideas of combined parties as well. Take care and have an absolutely wonderful day. -Rose

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      vandynegl 3 years ago from Ohio Valley

      These are great suggestions! It beats the "traditional" ways things were done at bachelor and bachelorette parties! I would've loved to have had a spa day or maybe a tour of a winery!

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Hello vandynegl, thank you so much for dropping by, I really appreciate it. I agree, I am so happy that there are so many more options today for bachelorette and bachelor parties. Take care and have an awesome weekend.

      -Rose

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      Cat 3 years ago from New York

      Rose,

      I will say that if ever I play 'bridesmaid' again, I will certainly offer some suggestions, thanks to you. I have to admit, I didn't get worked up with the rest of the wedding party, but there were some girls that fought and bickered quite a bit from the beginning to end. Isn't it supposed to be a joyous occasion? I would also like to avoid spending that kind of money again... as I don't have it myself! This hub just might save a life :D

      Thank you... and you have a wonderful day and weekend!

      Cat

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Hello Cat, it's true, it is so sad when a joyous occasion goes sour because of avoidable bickering. At least if you participate in a wedding again, you will be prepared to offer some valuable suggestions to the rest of the bridal party because you already went through it. Thanks for stopping by. Have an awesome weekend! -Rose

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      Michelle Liew 3 years ago from Singapore

      Now I will pass this on to those who have plans to plan one!! Thanks for sharing your expertise here!!

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much midget38 for stopping by and for your kind words. I really appreciate it! Have a wonderful weekend. -Rose

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      These are great tips and wonderful advice. I wish I had this back during the time when all of my friends were getting married. This would've been so helpful! I'll keep it bookmarked, however, just in case I have any more weddings to attend or know someone that does. Voted up!!

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thanks epbooks for dropping by, it is always a pleasure. Thank you so much for your kind words and vote, I sincerely appreciate it. Take care! -Rose

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      Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

      I'm not getting married soon, however, a friend of mine is getting married in few months time. I will surely pass the tips on to him.

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by Vinaya, I really appreciate it! Take care and have a wonderful day! -Rose

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Married twice and I never got a bachelor's party. I'm feeling quite deprived right now. LOL I love your suggestions but I don't think I want to get married again just for this experience. Besides, I don't do well with alcohol. :)

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by billibuc, I really appreciate it! I feel badly that you did not experience a Bachelor party but not everybody has one. At the end of the day, as long as you have that lovely lady on your arm, that is all that really matters. Take care and have a wonderful day! -Rose

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Rose, more sensible well thought out information. Those alcohol fuel parties have such potential to go badly wrong, not a good way to start married life.

      Excellent and very useful information as always. Voting up and sharing.

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by Jo. I really appreciate your kind words and vote up!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      How did I miss t his one in Croatia they have a very different way of having a bachelor parties certainly not as close as to what yo have mentioned here, culture differs. However you have written an excellent hub on this topic.

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by DDE, I always appreciate your visits and kind words. Take care and have a beautiful day! -Rose

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      epigramman 3 years ago

      Well Rose I would have a congujal visit with everyone of those ladies in the first picture before I got married , lol lol lol,

      there is an interesting hub you should check out from

      LKMORE 01

      Six sites that empower women

      You know me , forever the promoter, lol

      Hope you're having a great, safe and happy day

      Colin and the cats

      3:23pm LE time

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      I am sure you would...........you're too much Colin, lol!. Thank you for stopping by. I am doing well, thank you so much for asking. I hope all is well with you and the kitty cats. I will definitely check out the Hub you recommended. You are most certainly the ultimate promoter and I think it is wonderful! I hope you and Tiffy and Gabe are having an awesome afternoon. If you are working tonight, take it easy. Keep in touch. Hugs and kisses! -Rose

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      epigramman 3 years ago

      Hello and good afternoon Rose from lake erie time 3:30pm after my night shift sleep . I got up around 1:00pm and had my pot of coffee and two high calorie muffins. Both cats have been fed and are laying out back beside each other. It feels warmer here today because there is no wind off the lake.

      Yes I have seen the Caribana parade twice over the years but lately and that's the last 3 years I have not been down to Toronto for an outing.

      I used to leave here with my car and park it in Hamilton and then take the Go Bus into the city - all told the transportation costs for a round trip to Toronto and back to the lake was about $40 not to mention buying some books, records and cds/dvds and a nice lunch in Chinatown - I had great memories of doing all of that but my budget is very limited these days and I think my car may be on its last legs too.

      I sincerely hope all is well with you my dear friend and I hope you received good marks for your course. If I win lotto 649 tonight worth $3.5million I will take you shopping in the Eaton's centre or Yorkville (oh my!!!!!) and a nice dinner in Chinatown.

      love and hugs from the three of us and have an awesome holiday weekend

      and when I am here I will post and link your hub to my FB page as I am so thrilled about your great reviews and comments from other people

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Hello Colin, thank you for stopping by. I always enjoy your visits. I hope you had a good rest after a long night at work. I have to agree with you, there is definitely a cost factor coming to Toronto especially from Lake Erie. Interesting that you brought Chinatown up, that is one place that never changes. It is always so busy, noisy and colourful. Colin, I hope you win the lottery tonight, you definitely deserve it, so I am sending you tons of good luck wishes. I hope you, Tiffy and Gabe have an amazing holiday weekend! Keep in touch. Hugs and kisses. -Rose

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      epigramman 3 years ago

      ...and I'm serious about the shopping trip my ravishing Rose, what women wouldn't like to have an unlimited credit card and that's just what you'll have, lol, if I win, we will have a day in your city that Toronto will never forget, lol , and you were talking about Colin liking women in Caribana costumes - yes me do , very much, I will go out back now and commune with my cats for a little while - it's so quiet up here for them and they love it - so do I actually.

      I think I might make it movie night ...... we'll see, all that could change in a lake erie minute, lol

      7:19pm

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Awwwwwwwww................you are genuinely such a lovely person Colin!!!! Once again, I really hope you win because you deserve it. I figured that you would like the women in the Caribana costumes, lol. I must admit , some of those costumes are incredibly beautiful. It must be nice to live in a peaceful environment like you do. I am sure that it inspires your writing as well. If you do make it a movie night, I hope you pick a good one. There is nothing worse than a lame movie. I hope you have a wonderful evening. Hugs to you and the kitty crew. -Rose

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      epigramman 3 years ago

      ....Just dropping by Rose to wish you a nice August holiday Monday today.

      I will be glad to get back to work tonight as my life is pretty quiet here and I've talked to no one today. I normally have Sunday nights off but the bonus was getting a paid holiday and one hour tonight of time and a half before midnight.

      I hope all is well with you my friend and it's amazing isn't it to think it's already into August - just where did this summer go? How were your marks for your course? Both cats have been out all day and in fact I had to let Gabriel sleep on the front deck the last two nights with his leash of course and tied up because he wouldn't let me sleep and I had to put him out - moral of that story - cats always win, lol. Sending big hugs and love to you from the three of us

      at lake erie time 6:23pm

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Hello Colin, it is always a pleasure when you drop by for a visit! I am sorry to hear that you didn't talk to anyone today but on the other hand it was nice for you to have time off to relax and it's also a paid holiday. I have to agree, I still can't believe that it is always August 5th. Time goes by too quickly, I swear before you know it Christmas will be here again. I still don't have the marks for my course yet. They will probably be posted in a week or so. Gabriel was being naughty I see. I wonder why he is acting up? I hope you have a good night at work and a safe drive in. Once again, thank you for the visit. Take care and hugs and kisses to you, Tiffy and misbehaving Gabriel. -Rose

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      Cathy Nerujen 3 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      I have been to a few Bachelorette parties in London. We call them Hen parties and they are a gas. Girls celebrate the end of the old ways with style and some possible wild abandon... and they get to let their hair way way down. LOL. It is a rite of passage thing and it's in our culture to do it. I have only been in a limo once with 7 girls and it was fantastic. We were totally indecent. LOL.

      Downside: Every party is a reminder of what people are doing in their lives that I need to be doing ...

      And it's a major excuse for women to get totally wasted. Hehehe. Great hub. I enjoyed this.

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by Astra Nomik, I really appreciate it. Bachelorette parties are a lot of fun. It's a great way to let loose in a big way with your girls before the big day. Take care! -Rose

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      mgt28 2 years ago

      Good advice.

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      rose-the planner 2 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by mgt28. I am glad you found the information helpful. Take care and have a lovely day. -Rose

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      Larry Rankin 22 months ago from Oklahoma

      I've been a best man twice, and I'm always at a loss for fun ideas. Great tips.

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      rose-the planner 22 months ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Hello Larry I am glad to hear you found this Hub helpful! It's never easy coming up with fun ideas for bachelorette or bachelor parties. Thank you for stopping by. Take care and have a great evening! -Rose

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