How to tell the Difference Between Men and Women? Go to the Bathroom!
Men are from Mars, and Women are from the Ladies Room
Sisterhood and the John: Women go to the bathroom in groups because it's a social event
If you’re trying to figure out the difference between men and women by reading books, you’re wasting your time. Researchers who have tried for decades (even centuries) to define the differences between men and women have been spinning their wheels taking surveys and studying monkeys. All they really needed to do was to take a potty break. Of course, to get the full picture, it’s important to have equal access to bathrooms, regardless of the gender assignment on the door.
At least two very clever hubs have been written on this site about men’s etiquette in public restrooms. Although I’m not sure men use the word ‘etiquette.’ Apparently, there are Man Laws for how you behave in a restroom. The laws for women, however, are quite different.
From the very credible reports in these hubs, it’s clear that the rule in the men’s room is ‘don’t talk, don’t look, don’t ask.’ Guys are missing out. Try the ladies’ room for a change and see what sisterhood and true socialization is all about.
The Doorway to Wonderful Things
Women's Rooms: Gathering Places for Help and Support
Women not only talk in the restroom, they help each other out and even make new friends. The Sisterhood is there for you; the minute a worried voice is heard from a closed stall asking whether there’s any toilet paper around, a few hands will reach under from either side with a fresh supply, or an unseen new friend will drop a roll over the top of the door.
Women know what it’s like, and they stick together in times of need. Like the Carole King song goes, "You've got a friend." I'm not sure what men do if there's no tissue in the stall - and I'm not sure I want to know, either.
Are you looking for just the right dress for your next important dinner? It’s okay to ask the complete stranger next to you at the mirror where she got that gorgeous outfit. She will not only tell you which store, she may even tell you what it cost on sale and give you the name of her favorite salesperson.
If your zipper is down, someone will tell you (guys just let each other learn the hard way).
In really nice restaurants and hotels, you'll find soothing lotions, facial tissues and even hygiene supplies tucked in cute little baskets. Why even go back to the table to finish your dinner? It's nice in here!
Weep No More, My Lady
Need a good cry? Go to the restroom; someone will be there for you
If a woman walks in and sees another woman alone in the restroom, crying, she will ask if she’s okay. Maybe she can’t help the situation, but she can lend an ear. And, more often than not, the person who is upset may actually unload a bit. Sisterhood is like that; reach out, and you've got a friend.
Afterward, they both feel better – the woman who shed tears knows there will always be someone around who cares (even if it’s a stranger in the restroom), and that it’s okay to let someone know you’re hurting because you just broke up, or you just found out some bad news, or whatever.
The woman who offered her help will silently give thanks that nature called at that moment and put her in a position to reach out with compassion to someone in pain. It’s all part of God’s Plan. In fact, God probably looked into the future years ago and declared the Women's Restroom a sacred spot of Sisterhood.
Sewing kits are just a few of the ways women are armed for emergencies
Broken bra strap? Wardrobe malfunction? You came to the right place!
Women know that if they can’t get a necklace clasped before they leave the house, the next woman they run into will help them out. They’ll readily ask the person next to them on the bus, someone at work or church, or the stranger who walked into the restroom at the restaurant where they’re dining.
Women in public restrooms do clothing repairs for each other, share aspirin or Tylenol, and offer a dollop of hand cream to complete strangers.
If you can’t hook the clasp in the back of your dress, just ask the next woman you see and she will happily do it for you.
No woman who spots a sartorial problem will let another woman walk out of that door if she’s dragging a piece of tissue or otherwise needs a bit of tidying. If there’s any sort of a wardrobe malfunction; even as much as a huge piece of lint on the back of her skirt, or if something is hanging where it shouldn’t be seen, someone will spot it and bring it to her attention.
Need anything? Look here!
Purses and Handbags: Portable Emergency Kits
Purses aren’t just fashion statements, they’re crucial survival packs to get through any emergency. If you need anything you didn't bring along on that date, hit the restroom; chances are, in a few minutes you'll find you've got a friend who will help.
If a woman in a restroom mentions she’s got a raging headache. Every woman within earshot rips open her purse and digs for her favorite emergency pain remedy. No wonder men are grumpier at times; not only do they fail to carry their supplies around, they don’t even ask for help when they need it. Remember the "men and directions" rule of behavior? It applies to everything else, too.
Women freely share hairspray, contact lens solution, lotion, safety pins, clear nail polish, sunscreen and other essentials the minute a new Bathroom Buddy mentions the need. If we did a thorough survey, we would likely learn that more than one woman has even sewn on a button or stitched up a hem for a complete stranger. I’m absolutely positive a few women have at least passed along a portable sewing kit or two, even if they didn’t pitch in and thread the needle themselves.
Need a helping hand? Ain't it good to know You've Got a Friend. Even if she was a stranger a minute ago.
Ain't it good to know you've got a friend?
Men are missing out - Sisterhood rocks, even in the restroom!
It’s a real shame that men have missed out on the socialization women get in public restrooms. Rather than spending time worried about where to cast your glance (or where to avoid), and making certain you don’t violate any rules, women get friendly ego boosts, advice to the lovelorn, a few aspirin tablets and many other things when they make a comfort stop.
A friendly potty encounter can send a woman out the door with more self-esteem, with the confidence to know she doesn’t have a wardrobe malfunction and the knowledge that Sisterhood extends to every part of life. Whether she’s headed for the dinner table, a funeral, a job interview or to meet a blind date, she leaves the restroom feeling better prepared to meet what’s ahead.