The Biggest Secret To Finding Love: Confidence
What's the biggest turn on in dating for both men and women? Confidence!
What is sexy? Many will jump to a Victoria's Secret catalog to find the answer. But the answer doesn't exist in a photo. Sure, those supermodels can fake it, but true sexiness can't be trained, rehearsed or faked.
It's all about confidence.
Next time you hear the question: what is sexy? Answer this: loving who you are, and not caring about what others think of you!
Here's my list of what confidence really means. Take it for a grain of salt, after all, I'm a goddess in the making. Baby steps every day...
- Letting go of your past. This means, you enter new relationships by dropping baggage in the air shoot, not even placing it in the overhead compartment. We don't need to be reminded of everything that went wrong in your failed relationships. As long as you learned from it, that's all we need to know. So keep the plane light on your new journey.
- Living in the present. You've heard the saying "carpe diem," haven't you? It means, "seize the day." Well take it from a smart Latin (or whatever language that is) to know how important it is to live in the moment. That includes: letting go of stupid people wasting your precious time; choosing your partners wisely; and keeping tally of those who don't benefit your life.
- Making plans for your future. A confident person knows what they want in life, and it usually is formed by events that happened in their life leading up to their present moment. I used to think that getting married, having kids, living in the big house with a white picket fence was imperative to my happiness. Boy was I wrong. Have a plan to develop YOU, know what you want to have in the next five, ten, twenty and beyond years, and hold out for someone who's tune sounds synonymous with yours.
Confidence means you live to enjoy YOUR life, you take pleasure in YOUR passions, and YOUR wants and needs come front and center.
Do yourself a favor: if and when you meet a special someone, don't ignore those wants and needs. They were there before that "special" someone came into your life, so they must mean something.
That is real confidence. The moment you put you, center stage: that is when you are truly "complete." Wait for it. Work for it. Deserve it. You'll thank yourself later. So will your "special" someone.